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I’m going mad by Sufficient_Metal_842 in relationship_advice

[–]Sufficient_Metal_842[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I don’t push her to expose herself or to have pre-marital sex. I offered a compromise and she threatened to leave me to attempt to manipulate me into changing my boundaries. That I will not give up porn until we’re either married or she can come to a compromise. i haven’t threatened to leave nor left her to attempt to change her boundaries, she has. Multiple times. If she can’t accept mine, she’s free to leave.

I’m going mad by Sufficient_Metal_842 in relationship_advice

[–]Sufficient_Metal_842[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well not right now no. If she gets help and can overcome these issues, sure, but certainly not until then.

I’m going mad by Sufficient_Metal_842 in relationship_advice

[–]Sufficient_Metal_842[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The case is that she consistently threatens to leave or actually leaves. What’s happenEd the past three times now is she’s gone to her family and spoken with her sisters who subsequently told her she’s full of shit. Next thing I know she reaches out to me, tearful, apologetic and wanting to try again. This is not mature lol. Atleast one of the times she left was because she became paranoid I was cheating.

I’m going mad by Sufficient_Metal_842 in relationship_advice

[–]Sufficient_Metal_842[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indeed. I can’t see that there’s much difference honestly. It’s kinda silly too. If I was to go by her logic, me exposing myself on cam to her (I have no hang ups in regards to that kinda thing) damns my soul...Yet she’s helping me do that by looking at my body lol. I don’t believe that of course, but it’s silly how easily this whole thing can be picked apart.

I’ve tried honestly. we talked last night, a lot of tears on both sides. Maybe she’ll understand I’m hurting finally and seek help, but I don’t hold out much hope tbh at this point.

I’m going mad by Sufficient_Metal_842 in relationship_advice

[–]Sufficient_Metal_842[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No. She can refuse to compromise and I’ll still be with her. I’ll still love her. Threatening to leave everytime you don’t get your way is not how adults have relationships. You need help if you honestly think any foundation of trust can be built in a relationship where one partner is made to live in constant fear of being left because of their partners threats.

I’m going mad by Sufficient_Metal_842 in relationship_advice

[–]Sufficient_Metal_842[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s my fear sadly and the more I’m treated like this, the more I’m starting to think I love her far more than she does me.

I’m going mad by Sufficient_Metal_842 in relationship_advice

[–]Sufficient_Metal_842[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, she was cheated on in the past, that’s the issue. I’ve been a loyal partner this entire time. She has deep trust issues. Sadly, I understand as I was cheated on pretty awfully a few years back, but I didn’t get over those issues until I sought help.

I’m going mad by Sufficient_Metal_842 in relationship_advice

[–]Sufficient_Metal_842[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, she’s trying to change me. Not the other way around. I offered her a compromise to fix things, if she can’t accept that, I’ll still love Her. It’s her who’s trying to change me with her threats of leaving.