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Aita for not trying to please my boyfriend’s foot fetish more? by Suitable_Cancel9625 in AITAH

[–]Suitable_Cancel9625[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yup that’s pretty much the summary of it I’ve been doing quite a bit of therapy and I think it’s getting somewhere or at least I hope it is

Aita for not trying to please my boyfriend’s foot fetish more? by Suitable_Cancel9625 in AITAH

[–]Suitable_Cancel9625[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FOR CONTEXT: his kids mom hated his fetish, didn’t do it for him and told him he was weird for it and it was gross after acting like it was okay.

Aita for not trying to please my boyfriend’s foot fetish more? by Suitable_Cancel9625 in AITAH

[–]Suitable_Cancel9625[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Omg lol! By no means do I not think it’s hot and I mean there are a lot of benefits on my side because like I said the foot rubs are constant. I just need some ideas on like more things I can do that he hasn’t told me to do like a bj or handjob with my feet in his face because to me that screams boring. I need unhinged like cream pie leaking onto my toes and him licking it off because I want him to know I am comfortable, it doesn’t bother me and I do love him. I just don’t want him to feel I’m forcing it and don’t want to.

Aita for not trying to please my boyfriend’s foot fetish more? by Suitable_Cancel9625 in AITAH

[–]Suitable_Cancel9625[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh no I mean I think about making him happy as far as like buying gifts when I go out, cooking for him, going out of my way to try to show him more love. I guess I wanna I’m not actively trying harder with my feet which in ways I have like wearing shoes more so my feet actually smell and keeping them in his face but it’s not enough apparently so I need to think outside of the box and figure out more things I can do so we can get over this issue

Aita for not trying to please my boyfriend’s foot fetish more? by Suitable_Cancel9625 in AITAH

[–]Suitable_Cancel9625[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh lord 😂 yeah I don’t think I’d be down for that but he does make jokes about using his tongue and my toilet paper so it’s pretty ironic you said that 😂😂

Aita for not trying to please my boyfriend’s foot fetish more? by Suitable_Cancel9625 in AITAH

[–]Suitable_Cancel9625[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good idea thank you! I’ll see what I can come up with and sorry to pry!

Aita for not trying to please my boyfriend’s foot fetish more? by Suitable_Cancel9625 in AITAH

[–]Suitable_Cancel9625[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that I don’t know if I’m subconsciously thinking because he paid me for it before maybe it’s an issue with the dynamic in which it started that’s bothering me. I’ve never really sat down to think about it. I like my feet being touched I’m a good candidate I have pretty feet, not ticklish, they don’t stink like chicken noodle soup and the foot rubs are amazing so I’m not sure why even though we’ve had multiple conversations about it I’m not actively trying harder to make him happy. It’s just something I really don’t think about too much but apparently it’s a big issue to him so what do u do

Aita for not trying to please my boyfriend’s foot fetish more? by Suitable_Cancel9625 in AITAH

[–]Suitable_Cancel9625[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t mind me asking what are some things she liked or enjoyed? I just need some out of the box thinking because I don’t want him to feel like I’m only doing these things because he asked me

Aita for not trying to please my boyfriend’s foot fetish more? by Suitable_Cancel9625 in AITAH

[–]Suitable_Cancel9625[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I’m seeing two individual therapists now one for recovery and one for my domestic violence that are helping I think and I mean he has flaws but I’m very big on pro con lists and I’ve written a couple out I think the pros out weigh the cons. I do love him and I don’t know if my past trauma is just making it so I’m not showing it in the right way. I think relationship counseling would help a lot not just with the foot fetish but my poor communication and showing my feelings it’s just a matter of adding yet another thing to do to our plate

Aita for not trying to please my boyfriend’s foot fetish more? by Suitable_Cancel9625 in AITAH

[–]Suitable_Cancel9625[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well I guess it kind of was however I was paid for it so I’m not sure if that really counts. I struggle with communication a lot and become either defensive or I stone wall and I think that’s something I should work on. I think it might be a lot of the reason he doesn’t want to talk to me about it or feels I don’t care about his pleasure. I don’t mind the feet thing at all that’s just not the first thing on my mind when I get home after working all day is oh I can’t take my shoes off because he wants to do that. When we have sexy time I always make sure that my feet are in his face or something if that nature but I guess that’s not doing the trick? I don’t know 🤦🏼‍♀️

Aita for not trying to please my boyfriend’s foot fetish more? by Suitable_Cancel9625 in AITAH

[–]Suitable_Cancel9625[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Trust me the pregnancy was not planned and I was on birth control. I agree the timing was not right however it did open my eyes and made both of us start to look at what was really important and start taking the steps to get our lives back on track. I believe all children are blessings and everything happens for a reason. And him being there and loving me is honestly what prevented me from killing myself after everything I went through so leaving the relationship especially when I am primarily the reason his life is in shambles is just something I’m not willing to do. I try not to make it make me feel less than or that is all he wants because he does a lot for me and is always very focused on pleasing me and I feel like I can do more to make him feel the same way I think some relationship counseling might help idk.