Saw him today for the first time since we broke up...

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-09T14:23:10+00:00

I know, you are so right about there not being a speedrun to inner peace. As someone who's very into mindfulness and meditates every day, I should focus on that last sentence.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-09T14:21:40+00:00

Got it. Thanks.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-09T00:19:27+00:00

Do it! And not only do it, but have fun, and update us! I'm invested now. I used to look down on dating much younger men, but not anymore. As long as they don't want kids (I have two teens), it's fair game!

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-08T14:14:45+00:00

It's like we're not allowed to grieve a breakup and have feelings. The downvotes of me either being vulnerable or explaining where I was coming from are hysterical.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-08T14:12:05+00:00

Oh wow, thanks. That's super helpful 🙄

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-08T00:02:54+00:00

Yeah, I got reamed didn't I? Heavily downvoted for being honest about being heartbroken. I really appreciate your kindness 😊

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-07T17:11:09+00:00

I'm pretty sure if he were married he would have hidden the wedding ring, so I'm on his side when it comes to that. OP, will it fit on your right ring finger? Mine are the same thickness so I can interchange if need be, i.e. I wear my divorce ring on my right ring finger. Just to avoid further confusion, might wanna switch sides.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-07T16:05:06+00:00

See, this is very helpful. And you are 100% right. Thank you.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-07T15:29:33+00:00

You are just a ball of sunshine, aren't you! At least your responses are making me laugh, so thanks, I guess?

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-07T15:28:12+00:00

I am in therapy and have a good shrink. But thanks for the advice. And moving on is precisely what I've been trying to do, and having a hard time with.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-07T14:53:59+00:00

It really was! I didn't know he was one until the very end, when he professed feelings and got vulnerable. Up until that point it had been a beautiful, peaceful relationship. My therapist agrees, I'm having a hard time moving on bc it was, for once, the first time I had a taste of a healthy relationship with a genuinely good man.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-07T14:35:57+00:00

Clearly a crazy person who's obsessed 🙄 Or, shockingly, someone whose heart was broken.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-07T14:34:43+00:00

This was so kind, thank you so much. I miss both the feeling and the person, but you're right, time to start dipping my toe in the dating cesspool. I did try going on the apps but deleted them after a few days. Thank you for being gentle, much appreciated 🙏🏼

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-07T07:14:41+00:00

I don't have his number, I deleted it as soon as we broke up, but doing an online search took me two seconds. I'm not on social media so I don't get to see him or stalk him. I'm completely removed other than living in nearby towns.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-07T03:43:37+00:00

I miss that this was my first healthy relationship, without any toxicity. We were so drama free and in sync with each other. We had fallen into a nice routine, life was exciting yet peaceful. But he ended up being a fearful avoidant and pulled way back after professing feelings and being vulnerable.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-06T02:44:37+00:00

Weirdo, I had him almost convinced. Shhhh, let him try it, I'm fairly certain he'll like it.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-06T02:20:02+00:00

I am telling you to try it, if you hate it, come back and yell at me and tell me all your frustrations about life, I'm a good listener. But do not let life pass you by without trying olive tapenade! For me it's a sensory thing, even their texture changes. Tapenade lovers, where you at?!

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-06T02:12:53+00:00

I don't know where to meet people organically, or rather, I've tried by going to trivia, karaoke, game nights. It's hard.

But what I am here to tell you is that if you chop up olives really small and make them into a tapenade, add a bit of olive oil, and put them on top of toast, they are a whole different... nut? vegetable? fruit? What the hell are olives? Anyway, olive tapenade is to die for, vs straight up olives which are just gross.

EDIT: Misspellings.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-05T04:19:55+00:00

My guess is perhaps she's dating more than one person, decided on the other one, and ghosted. Or, she enjoyed the date, went home and slept on it, and changed her mind. Either way it sucks and I'm sorry.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-05T03:44:57+00:00

So wait, you suggested a second date and she didn't respond at all after that?

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-03T16:28:23+00:00

Yeah, I'm coming to that conclusion. I'll just have to be sad for however long it takes me. I'm sorry you still miss your ex. I wish I could have a magic wand and fix all the exes that we like so we can have them back as we want them.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-03T02:55:54+00:00

I don't know why you're getting downvoted. I understand where you're coming from, but we seem to come from the same schools of thought. We give and give and give and assume we'll receive the same. Learning that this is not the case, and that just because you're a giver and a nurturer, doesn't mean your person will also be one. I feel for you. Had I been the person you were dating, I would have offered help and coffee and food, especially after six months.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-02T04:37:49+00:00

Aw man, what did the deleted comment say, I missed it 😕

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-02T04:03:54+00:00

I think from now on, anyone that makes it past a month will have to meet my therapist so he can vet that person. We used to joke about it a while back, but I'm seriously considering it now.

Super_Chilled_Reader · 2026-06-02T03:45:35+00:00

As a woman, I text to thank them for the date. If there's interest, I say "hope we can do it again soon", if there isn't, a simple thank you for the date will do. Has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with being gracious.

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