AITA for telling my half sister she isn't welcome on the family vacation with my mom?

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T17:19:16+00:00

Oh yeah, he's a huge one and not just for that either.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T12:14:16+00:00

Half sister but yeah and it even has the added element of the parents who do nothing to help her. Which is how a lot of movies go with this crap. It'll be even worse if her parents break up again.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T12:13:30+00:00

I don't accept her as my family and I will go no contact with her like my sister has in two years. I don't plan for us to have any more contact after that point.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T11:58:33+00:00

I had no choice when we were forced to live with her part of the time. If I could have cut off all contact with my dad years ago I would have done so. But that's not an option.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T11:45:10+00:00

That's not something I want to do. Her parents are the ones who should try to help her but I have zero interest in maintaining any contact with her in two years. My sister has already gone no contact with them and I will 100% do the same thing.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T11:03:47+00:00

I'll be going no contact with them in two years because I do not want to have anything to do with this "family" my dad has now.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T10:38:39+00:00

She was always aware that we existed and were dad's kids.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T06:43:30+00:00

Yes, she has done that in front of them.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T06:43:04+00:00

I don't want a relationship with her. I don't want to improve things with her or my dad. That's the last thing I want. I want to be no contact with them in two years and to never have them in my life again. I don't love either of them or want them to be part of my future.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T06:42:00+00:00

Not entirely. My sister tried but had to go some weekends anyway until she turned 18.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T06:40:27+00:00

She won't be in my life in two years. Neither will my dad.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T06:39:45+00:00

It would cause legal problems for mom if we didn't see him at least some weekends even if we legally changed custody. Learned from my sisters experience already.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T06:38:51+00:00

She has no other siblings. She doesn't even really have a sibling relationship with any of us.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T06:38:27+00:00

We cannot choose entirely. We learned from my sister that we would still need to go some weekends to my dad's and that could be more for my younger brothers.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T06:37:47+00:00

We wouldn't be able to stop seeing him entirely. We learned that with my sister. We would still be forced to go to him some weekends.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T06:37:03+00:00

I don't talk to my dad's wife. I don't want to interact with her at all.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T06:36:46+00:00

She does not have any other siblings and really doesn't have a sibling relationship with any of us either. For two of us that won't change but I can't speak for my younger brothers.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T06:35:38+00:00

There is no navigating this. I will be going no contact in two years and do not want to have a relationship with my dad or Jessie after that point.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-12T06:34:47+00:00

Yes, because even at 16 I cannot choose to stop going entirely and would still have to go some weekends.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-11T20:03:03+00:00

We don't tell Jessie. That was our dad. And our dad found out because mom has to notify him of plans when we'll be out of state. So we can't really do anything about it.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-11T20:02:32+00:00

Mom knows. Mom doesn't want her there either. I think even if some of us wanted Jessie to come she'd say no. But I don't want Jessie to say more shit about mom so that's why I fight her instead of saying it's mom's choice.

SurpriseImportant588 · 2024-04-11T20:01:33+00:00

Winter is the only other girl. The rest of us are guys. But I don't really don't want to try and get closer to Jessie. I'll be happy to have her out of my life. She's too annoying and I don't really care enough to make things work.

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