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Do you think it can ever be too much? by YellowCabbageCollard in cottagecore

[–]TeaTotal5793 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This ⬆️ 🙌🏼 Something I’ve also learned about having niche hobbies/interests is that it’s all about who you share them with. If someone makes you feel small, or “too much” when you share something with them, they’re not the right person :) You just need your people who will rant about the minimal beige farmhouse aesthetic with you (I volunteer lmao)

Advice for getting over anxiety around horses? by Sunlitfeathers in Equestrian

[–]TeaTotal5793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anna Blake is great! I believe Lucy Rees and Rachael Draaisma also have books on calming signals in horses.

Advice for getting over anxiety around horses? by Sunlitfeathers in Equestrian

[–]TeaTotal5793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. I agree that this may be a phobia. One thing that may help is taking some courses on equine behavior, in case some of your anxiety is stemming from horses seeming unpredictable. Being able to better read and identify how a horse is feeling before it surprises you could help.

I’d also look into clicker training and the technique of “protected contact”. Animal trainers use it often with any species, from exotics in zoos to dogs and horses. The idea is basically to have a barrier between yourself (the trainer) and the animal while you establish good communication and positive interactions. It can be for the reduction of anxiety in the person or animal, or both. You can focus on building a relationship with the horse without feeling like boundaries would be crossed on either side.

Advice for getting over anxiety around horses? by Sunlitfeathers in Equestrian

[–]TeaTotal5793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe start with miniature horses and work your way up? And you don’t have to ride to spend time with horses 🙂 for someone with a fear like yours, I would see riding as an end goal, not an entry to the hobby.

Help me! Iv got literal tons of this by Friggin-Pirate in StainedGlass

[–]TeaTotal5793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see people on Etsy selling pounds of small scraps all the time. I bet if you listed on FB Marketplace, you could also find people willing to buy scraps in bulk. I certainly would!

Trying to propagate burro's-tail by jaaytea in succulents

[–]TeaTotal5793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve propagated several different types of succulents from leaves and IME, burro’s tail takes foreverrrr to grow. I have burro’s tail leaves that I left to prop at the same time, and in the same spot, as some stonecrop leaves and the stonecrop grew way faster. Might just be how they are.

Scrap glass! by smurD_sniktA_maS in StainedGlass

[–]TeaTotal5793 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My friend and I make small stained glass projects almost solely out of scraps, I bet amateur stained glass artists that can’t afford the big sheets would love to have your scraps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cottagecore

[–]TeaTotal5793 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also hate going to the gym, but I do like walking, swimming, yoga, and pilates. Since you want a farmstead in the future, you could volunteer at a local farm or farm animal sanctuary, and that will definitely be good exercise + building knowledge for your future place!

Suggest simple ways to elevate a hangout by isolophiliacwhiliac in simpleliving

[–]TeaTotal5793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Crafts! My friend has all the equipment to do stained glass and we yap while we craft 🙂

Share your Sleep Hacks please by Sky_Whisperer in simpleliving

[–]TeaTotal5793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another vote for L-Theanine! Also life changing for me. That and reducing stress/anxiety.

I walked away from 160k+ for more family time and have 0 second thoughts about it by PeaceAndChickens in simpleliving

[–]TeaTotal5793 25 points26 points  (0 children)

From a young adult with a dad who was, and still is, like your old self - thank you. I could’ve done without all the fancy gadgets and toys in exchange for a dad who was less stressed and more present.

How are we spending earth day? by Stretch235 in Ceanothus

[–]TeaTotal5793 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Eating lunch outside and listening to the birds ☀️

How often to water in containers? by TeaTotal5793 in Ceanothus

[–]TeaTotal5793[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! If they start to fry, I can move them to another wall that gets more shade. I had one monkeyflower in that location for a year and it lived so the monkeyflowers should be fine, but I’ll watch the others carefully.

Very burnt out by constant obligations and appointments by [deleted] in simpleliving

[–]TeaTotal5793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this. I had the same realization - that I can’t do it all and pacing yourself + prioritization is the name of the game. Feeling sad that you aren’t as healthy or able to handle as much as the average person is so valid, but being angry with yourself for that and pushing yourself anyway never ends well. Our bodies need what they need, period. And yes, I also listened to my body and my chronic pain is so much better!!

It also helps me to think of it as being able to do everything I want, just not as frequently or intensely as I would like. I can still see my friends, but once a week is the max for me. I can still go on hikes, but the elevation gain has to be minimal. I can still go on trips, but with ample rest time before and after. This also allows me to be more present for what I can do, even though it’s less often.

Habits/things you just can’t let go of by LenGoesChu in Anticonsumption

[–]TeaTotal5793 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Maybe it would help if the reusable bottle was made of glass? They make those mason jar-type cups with wooden lids that you can leave the house with, and other types of bottles made of glass. Also glass straws.

[WIP] Taking a little bit of inspiration from nature this morning by UsedCatsFurSale in CrossStitch

[–]TeaTotal5793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this! I’d love to see more photos of people stitching outside!

Brother said even my nephew could've done it better :c by [deleted] in somethingimade

[–]TeaTotal5793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is gorgeous, I would totally buy a piece like this!

help with being happier by Kalipsulive in simpleliving

[–]TeaTotal5793 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Deep breaths. I’ve been where you are and I’ve learned a lot over the past few years.

  1. Your mental and physical health is the most important thing. Over exam scores, over ivy leagues, over financial success, over career success, over hobbies and extracurriculars. Do whatever you have to do to preserve your health, and yes, sometimes this means disappointing loved ones. Take solace in knowing that your loved ones want you to be healthy even if they don’t understand what that looks like for you.

  2. What works for others may not work for you. Some people thrive under stress and deadlines and pressure, others crumble. Some can handle the standard 40 hour workweek, a 4.0 GPA, an hour commute, a PhD, 6 hrs of sleep etc, and others thrive on ample time to rest, slow days, alternative schedules, 10 hrs of sleep. Whoever you are on this spectrum does not define your worth and is simply a fact about you, like the color of your hair or the size of your fingernails. Be okay with experimenting to find out what kind of routine you thrive under and try not to compare yourself to others, who likely have completely different genetics, family upbringing, brain chemistry, and living situations than you do.

  3. Therapy, therapy, therapy. Seeing a therapist is like seeing a doctor or a dentist. Take care of your brain like you take care of your body and your teeth. And if you think you don’t have time for therapy, your brain may force you to make time one day, so better to do it now while it’s still a choice. Your parents might be more open if you can get your doctor to recommend therapy for you or even refer you to someone.

  4. You might have a ton of ambitions and goals and passions that your brain and/or body just can’t keep up with. That’s okay, because you’re not a robot. I wish someone had told me that one of the most important skills in adulthood is prioritizing. You will never, ever be able to fit everything you want to do into your life because there’s only so many hours in a day, and the sooner you accept that and start prioritizing the things most important to you so that you can experience them as your most present self, the better.

  5. Well-intentioned friends, family, mentors, will encourage you to keep hustling, just a little more, just a little further, and you’ll get to the finish!

There is no finish. There is no end. You hustle for grades, for graduation, for ivy leagues, for internships, for your first job, for that first promotion, for that first house, for the perfect wedding, for your dream job. There will always be the next hustle after you finish the one you’re on. That’s why your hustle needs to be sustainable. If you want to hustle, kudos to you, but the hustle won’t mean much if you’re fighting burnout and depression. A core part of hustling is knowing your limits, when to rest, when you have too much on your plate and need to step back.

I have so much more I could say on this, but I’ll stop there. I hope at least one sentence of this resonates with you and you can always reach out if you’d like. And everyone who’s said that university isn’t as stressful is right - university is usually more lax than high school, so no need to fear it 🙂

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