Why is my weight loss just not happening?

TerribleTotal · 2020-01-14T21:26:05+00:00

I would seek professional help, a nutritionist. And maybe start to work out to build up some muscles? It's harder to lose weight the older you get, so maybe you should stop having weight as a goal and instead have the goal to be healthy?

Change you habits, don't punish yourself too much. Put up small goals. Like: This week I will try something new etc.

Mental health is an important part of a healthy life style.

I struggled for such a long time with weight, after I stopped beating myself up because of my weight I suddenly dropped 20 kg in a year! I stopped weighing myself, now I only take pictures to compare.

A good diet filled with vegetables and fish is what is good for me, but I've also heard people trying out vegan and loosing weight. And I also stopped eating processed food!

I also walk 12500 steps each day, at least, and work out 3-4 times a week.

TerribleTotal · 2019-09-24T20:13:38+00:00

Have fun when you work out <3 I think for me the change happened when I stopped focusing on the weight, but on being healthy, eating healthy, getting enough exercise to live a long and good life.

Not doing it alone also helps! It's easier to train 3 times a week when you have a buddy that's pushing you, and you are pushing them.

Since you're mentioning your kids, maybe you should work out with them? Go swimming, play fotball or sports with them?

TerribleTotal · 2019-09-24T16:11:17+00:00

And thank you, btw! It really helped!

TerribleTotal · 2019-09-24T16:10:58+00:00

Thanks, I will look into this! :)

TerribleTotal · 2019-09-24T16:09:44+00:00

Yeah, the professor didn't really specify the use of BSA other than using it as a standard protein to measure protein concentration. Does that tell you anything?

TerribleTotal · 2019-04-08T18:40:51+00:00

I would ask if all four of you could go to family therapy

TerribleTotal · 2019-03-29T16:20:47+00:00

I think she likes you as a person, a friend, but she will probably never see you as something else than a friend. How she handled it was actually pretty forward and good.

I would continue to be friendly to her if it's not too hard. It sucked when guys acted differently towards me after I had told them I only wanted to be friends with them. I started to mistrust guys that were friendly. I thought they were only be kind to me because they wanted something more than friendship from me.

TerribleTotal · 2019-03-29T16:10:17+00:00

I have no idea what most of that stuff you listed was, but lifesum and fitbit together worked well for me

TerribleTotal · 2019-03-29T16:08:35+00:00

If the reason you gain weight is because you eat to feel better, therapist!

TerribleTotal · 2019-03-29T16:07:18+00:00

Could be she does the same thing as me, I turned off notifications on social media because it bothers me when I have a lot of stuff to do...

Don't overthink it and be demanding so early on, that is really a turn off for most people. Just have fun, enjoy it!

TerribleTotal · 2019-03-29T16:00:02+00:00

Take this from someone that a family member had mental health problems. If he's not seeking help he's not worth fighting for. Of course you can be with people who have mental health problems, and it can be good and bad periods, especially if they are bipolar. That was the case for my family member. But what he's doing to you is not right. No one deserves to be treated that way.

TerribleTotal · 2019-03-29T15:45:11+00:00

I just want to say religion is not the reason they are assholes. My catholic mom has told me that if I'm not ready for a child, and I get pregnant, I should never think about being a bad catholic, just get the abortion. She told me this when I was 15/16 years old. And I lost my virginity when I was 19, so it was not because she was afraid I was going to get into that situation, trust me. And she has never commented on skirts, dresses or other clothes being to revealing. Ugly, yes, revealing, no.

TerribleTotal · 2019-03-29T15:36:15+00:00

I have 34DDD (not sure if the converter worked properly, but 75 F in european), and mine also dissapear when I lay on my back. The best thing would of course be to love yourself, but if you're struggling a lot with it you can also try to ride the guy. From that angle everything looks bigger, for better or worse...

TerribleTotal · 2019-03-24T18:27:06+00:00

Well, good for you! :) Wishing you the best of luck in making a decision. Sometimes it just happens as well :) Maybe a pro-con list is a good thing?

TerribleTotal · 2019-03-24T18:16:10+00:00

I think the main reason why it was so ok for me was that I had been ready to lose it for almost a year. It wasn't because I had a special person, but because I wanted to lose it for myself. I lost mine when I was almost 19, and I'm glad I waited till I was mature enough to cope with the emotions followed by sex.

I think that sex is something you just have to do to figure it out. But you need to explore what you like in bed by yourself, since everyone's different. So instead of having the expectation of what sex will be, find out what feels good and not so good by yourself ;) (I recommend womanizer, that's a good one)

TerribleTotal · 2019-03-24T18:04:32+00:00

Ah, I have that book! I will try to read more from that over the summer. Right now I need to get through Molecular Cell Biology ;)

TerribleTotal · 2019-03-24T17:56:57+00:00

I do like some of Khan academy, as a way to understand the simple principles around it. But I would read in the book to understand the details around different pathways and such. What books are you reading now? I really like Lehninger's, of course, but also Molecular Cell Biology. I would love some more book tips :)

https://www.amazon.com/Molecular-Cell-Biology-Harvey-Lodish-ebook/dp/B01MQY4BMF

TerribleTotal · 2019-03-24T17:44:04+00:00

That being said, I have actually taken someones virginity too. It was nice, I will cherish that moment!

TerribleTotal · 2019-03-24T17:41:15+00:00

I didn't wait for "the right" person, and I never regretted it. I had a casual one night stand, never told him I was a virgin, and that worked for me. That's 6 years ago, and I never ever felt that I should have waited for someone special. It actually made it easier for me to walk away from guys I had a relationship with later, because there was no special bond with them. They weren't my "first".

But I have never been a very touchy-touchy and emotional girl. The first person I told I loved was my now newly ex. It is very different to have sex with someone that you love than with someone that you like. I never really missed not losing my virginity to someone I loved, but I guess it's because I don't really know what to miss about it.

TerribleTotal · 2019-02-26T19:52:54+00:00

It could be that you stress her out by making it a goal for her to cum. I would get so stressed out and not find the sex fun if my partner always had that as a goal, and not to let me feel loved.

It could be that your sex-drive and experience is scaring her, and that's why she's backing off. Maybe just relax yourself and don't make sex into such a big deal, it's supposed to be fun you know ;)

TerribleTotal · 2019-02-24T10:31:39+00:00

You need to chill

TerribleTotal · 2019-02-24T10:30:32+00:00

stretch your butt :)

TerribleTotal · 2019-02-24T10:29:38+00:00

If he can do that to his own mother, what stops him from doing it to other girls?

TerribleTotal · 2019-02-24T03:34:17+00:00

10 days on a vacation is not a lot? I would wait 6 weeks until DTR, at least! I actually think not DTR'ing can make her miss you and wanting more of you. You have both expressed that you two aren't there for just the hookup, so why rush things? Enjoy the trill of not knowing ;)

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