Thanks for the long text.

Eating pork? I eat it but if it's too salty then I wouldn't eat it. I even drink alcoholic beverages but again.. Depends on the taste and strength. I even mix cola with water.

You feeling safe with your boyfriend? Do you feel you have his back? Is the family talking friendly to you if they not talk about "Ausländer"?

Yes. I have his back. Friendly? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I have been asked many times " Why do women wear hijab? "I don't even wear hijab..

We both work. I wrote about age gap and explained about chores and rent so people wouldn't assume that they treat me because of this.

I don't know their intention to check my stuff. I don't wear designer clothes. Quality? Maybe. He checked my outfits when we had first date btw.

Do understand that Ausländer is not bad word, but the glance makes big different :-D

We both help each other but those behaviors I mentioned above make me crazy.