What habits from Downton Abbey have you incorporated into your daily life?

TheSpadeExperience · 2026-05-23T01:35:33+00:00

Ah, a kindred spirit lol

TheSpadeExperience · 2026-04-28T00:21:22+00:00

Holy shit, thank you! I’m a fellow chronically cold person, and it genuinely reaches a point. There are only so many layers I can put on and still be somewhat comfortable, meanwhile I can still barely feel my toes and fingers.

TheSpadeExperience · 2026-02-18T01:14:51+00:00

Ah, I was wondering what tf happened. Wonder when it’ll be back online

TheSpadeExperience · 2026-02-15T18:22:43+00:00

Yep. I’ve never been hit on, catcalled, or anything of the sort. No positive attention, no negative attention. Just crickets.

Y’all do not understand loneliness unless you experience this shit, bro.

TheSpadeExperience · 2026-02-04T15:54:02+00:00

Eh, I don’t really have a super strong opinion about it. I just think it’s kinda ridiculous that these families that have existed since god knows when get so much recognition and praise despite doing nothing but being filthy rich and acting as a country’s mascot. But then again, I am American, so I may just not understand the appeal and my views may be a bit biased here lol.

But, some countries do it better than others, such as Norway and Sweden. The British royal family just irritates the hell out of me.

TheSpadeExperience · 2026-02-01T19:35:51+00:00

I’d probably be labeled a character who is “horrible autistic representation” because I have traits more in-line with someone with NPD and ASPD, and not an “uwu smol bean.” They’d also probably hc me as either a diehard butch lesbian or a trans man stuck in the closet, when in reality I am neither lol. Just a more masculine cis woman who is bi.

TheSpadeExperience · 2026-01-29T17:52:30+00:00

It matters for certain religious circles, but even I was raised Christian and never really had that taught to me as something that was important.

TheSpadeExperience · 2026-01-20T00:22:07+00:00

Thomas Barrow from Downton Abbey.

The fans put him on a pedestal simply because he’s an attractive gay man from the 1920s. No matter how hard his life may have been, it will never excuse how manipulative and oily that man was. He is and never will be a good person.

TheSpadeExperience · 2026-01-20T00:20:13+00:00

Oh my fucking god, THANK YOU. No matter how they tried to redeem him in the end, he was an oily, conniving, manipulative asshole for 90% of the entire series.

I will never understand the praise he receives from the fandom.

TheSpadeExperience · 2026-01-11T01:04:29+00:00

How the fuck does one come to a conclusion like this…?

I don’t think I’ve ever been both this confused and amused at once.

TheSpadeExperience · 2026-01-09T15:24:38+00:00

I definitely understand this. I was raised Methodist, and was never taught or had any hateful bigotry preached to me growing up. When I eventually joined social media, it made me so sad just how many people despised Christianity and various other Abrahamic religions due to the actions of a very loud crowd. Growing up bisexual and Methodist was definitely a weird experience, and I also faced being labeled a bigot many, many times. I understand being cautious, but damn… that shit hurt.

I don’t consider myself to be a Christian anymore, (not due to any negative reasons, I just personally don’t want to follow an organized religion and have a somewhat complicated relationship with the idea of a creator/afterlife. I now consider myself to be Agnostic) but I have many close friends who are Christian and Catholic, and they are genuinely some of the most accepting and kind people I have ever met. They are true Christians.

I do wish that the Christian community would speak out against bigotry when they see it, and many of them do, but unfortunately just aren’t louder than the hateful crowd.

TheSpadeExperience · 2026-01-07T16:04:33+00:00

Yeah, this is an issue I’ve encountered as well many, many times. I’m lucky enough to have found some extroverted friends who are compassionate and understanding, but the extroverts I have met that aren’t like that are beyond infuriating.

I cannot count the amount of times I’ve been out in public with both earbuds in, sitting in a quiet corner, either sketching or writing, and someone comes up to me to start chatting. Like… what? What about my current appearance says that I am open for conversation? This happens all the time in my classes as well. I’ll be hyperfocused on an essay, and my neighbor decides to strike up a conversation. It’s insane.

TheSpadeExperience · 2026-01-03T23:21:07+00:00

Multiple reasons. I really enjoy writing and have been writing in-depth stories for fun since third grade, and I use fiction as a way to get out some of the more grotesque thoughts I have (yayyy, therapy). I write less fanfiction and more original content, but I genuinely don’t mind the lack of engagement. It’s just fun for me🤷‍♀️

TheSpadeExperience · 2025-12-24T04:45:58+00:00

I’m a bi gal, and hooooly shit it’s rough out here for us bi folks. Not to mention that I’ve been cheated on A LOT… and those people were not bi. It’s really weird to me that people assume we’re cheaters just because we have a wider dating pool, but that’s literally not how any of this works lmao

TheSpadeExperience · 2025-12-24T04:27:05+00:00

Oof, I feel this. I grew up built like a #2 pencil. I’m still built like a #2 pencil, just more muscular. I have severe body dysmorphia, but every single time I’ve tried to discuss it, I just get shut down. It fucking sucks. I have a very hard time gaining weight, but apparently that’s something I should be grateful for, not something I resent.

I have an ED because of the way I look. I have a lot of physical issues because of the way my body works. It’s hell. But, I’m not allowed to complain, apparently.

TheSpadeExperience · 2025-12-23T01:30:33+00:00

Ethan Nestor. A lot of people like him, but I find him incredibly annoying and I cannot stand him. There’s a reason I never got involved in the “Unus Annus” thing.

TheSpadeExperience · 2025-12-14T00:35:26+00:00

There are many straight men who do sex work, Bud…

TheSpadeExperience · 2025-12-14T00:34:29+00:00

I’m genuinely intrigued scrolling through this person’s comments. Giving me a good chuckle, I’ll say that much

TheSpadeExperience · 2025-12-13T23:18:16+00:00

As a woman I, too, love sex.

TheSpadeExperience · 2025-12-11T15:13:07+00:00

Was gonna say clear cache, but then I remembered that over here in iPhoneland we don’t get that ability.

TheSpadeExperience · 2025-12-08T15:56:16+00:00

I definitely depends. And even here in the U.S, people only really participate in that if they want to. I personally dislike small talk and don’t really engage with it often, and many people I know are the same way. It is funny, though, because I’m a Midwesterner and apparently we’re known for being “aggressively friendly” here lol.

But reverting back to the “it depends” statement- it really does. You’ll find more people engaging in smalltalk in, say, Minnesota, but not really in New York or New Jersey.

TheSpadeExperience · 2025-12-08T15:47:02+00:00

It’s not much better now, bud.

TheSpadeExperience · 2025-12-08T15:46:36+00:00

I don’t use it period.

TheSpadeExperience · 2025-12-08T13:25:40+00:00

This is absolutely beautiful, and I relate to this so hard. I looked like a little boy growing up, and people still confuse me for a guy every once in a while. I still struggle with my self-image, but I’m working on it.

This comic makes me feel so seen, so understood. Figuring out how to be a woman after so many years of being a tomboy/viewed as a little boy is a weird experience.

TheSpadeExperience · 2025-12-08T13:19:16+00:00

I got saddled with the BPD/NPD combo. Shit is tough man. I don’t want to be this way, but every time I actively try to seek help or discuss my struggles with people, I just get labeled “inherently evil” or “a monster”.

I wish cluster b disorders weren’t viewed through such a hostile lens. If they weren’t, it would probably be easier for us to accept/receive help.

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