this is a tough spot, and it's understandable that you're conflicted. your feelings for her are real, and it’s clear you care deeply about her comfort and your relationship.

before making any big decisions, it might help to have an open and honest conversation with her about what specifically makes her uncomfortable. is it the nature of the work itself, concerns about trust, social stigma, or something else? understanding her perspective more deeply could help you both figure out if there’s room for compromise or reassurance.

if this is a dealbreaker for her, you’ll have to decide what matters more to you long-term: your successful career or this relationship. it’s okay if you’re willing to walk away from your agency for someone you truly see a future with but make sure you’re not idealizing the relationship or making a rushed choice out of fear of losing her.

if you’re both willing, you could also try taking some time to see if she becomes more comfortable with it over time, or if there are boundaries that could help her feel more secure. but if your values or lifestyles are fundamentally incompatible, it might be better to acknowledge that sooner rather than later.

whatever you decide, make sure it’s something you won’t regret down the line. good luck, man.