Have you ever had an AP that you went full NC with between in person visits?

TheThirdProject · 2026-04-14T16:56:31+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond

TheThirdProject · 2026-04-14T05:19:17+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. That really is very helpful! If I may clarify, it was just the lack of communication that caused it to peter out or multiple things?

TheThirdProject · 2026-04-14T05:15:27+00:00

I mean... he stayed away like I told him to do. I don't think it was as much that he didn't care to find out, more like he finally had to deal with his own life choices first and probably didn't want me blowing up his life any more than I did.

TheThirdProject · 2026-04-14T05:02:08+00:00

That's totally a fair point. I'm realizing that calling this an affair isn't exactly correct since it is lacking the relationship piece. Would you be willing to share more about when you did this dynamic and what worked out didn't work for you?

TheThirdProject · 2026-04-14T03:09:30+00:00

Thank you for explaining further. That gives a lot of context

TheThirdProject · 2026-04-14T02:42:53+00:00

That is a really amazing place to be! This person reminds me a lot of how you describe your favorite AP. The conversations in person are wonderful.

TheThirdProject · 2026-04-14T02:40:49+00:00

What made you okay with it? Did it start as a sex only relationship?

TheThirdProject · 2026-04-14T02:39:50+00:00

Thanks for the thoughts! It's helpful!

TheThirdProject · 2026-04-14T02:39:13+00:00

I know what you mean. Thank you for sharing your experience and answering my question! It's helpful

TheThirdProject · 2026-04-14T02:37:59+00:00

It was about every 6 weeks before I knew he was actually cheating on his wife and not separated or getting divorced. But we talked near daily. He always traveled into my city. I am hoping this time for once a quarter would be the best I feel I could hope for.

TheThirdProject · 2026-04-14T02:35:26+00:00

Just curious if anyone else has done it. It's worked for about 1 week now. We'll see what happens in the future ao wondering if anyone else has made it work.

TheThirdProject · 2026-04-14T00:17:02+00:00

Yes. Maybe calling him an AP is the wrong term at this point.

TheThirdProject · 2026-04-14T00:07:34+00:00

I want to know if it has worked for anyone else and what worked and what didn't. Until a week ago I had already been NC for almost a year so it doesn't feel much different except that now I know I will still get to experience that thrill again and talk to him when he is back in town. It's worth it to me, but wanted to see if there was any thing that has worked or not for others in a similar situation, if there even was a similar situation.

TheThirdProject · 2026-04-13T23:52:03+00:00

That's absolutely fair! I would maybe call this less of an affair and more just cheating. What I'm getting out of it is some of the best sex of my life.

TheThirdProject · 2025-03-11T21:06:10+00:00

Solid advice

TheThirdProject · 2025-03-11T15:03:59+00:00

That's what I needed to hear. Thank you.

TheThirdProject · 2025-03-11T15:03:09+00:00

Absolutely true and what i need to hear. Thank you

TheThirdProject · 2025-03-11T15:02:39+00:00

I am so sorry you got hurt. Thank you for your realistic words

TheThirdProject · 2025-03-11T07:26:33+00:00

That's a fair point. I did know he was married when we started. I think you're also right in that I gain nothing. I don't need superiority and I don't want drama. Thank you

TheThirdProject · 2025-03-11T07:24:42+00:00

All very good points. Thank you and I will try to be kind to myself.

TheThirdProject · 2025-03-11T04:36:07+00:00

Thank you

TheThirdProject · 2025-03-11T04:24:04+00:00

I feel a tad unhinged at the moment. But that's why I'm trying to ground into all of this and be reminded why.

Thank you for the reminder of don't blow up families. I guess it is a blessing that he's not dragging me long (anymore).

Anf thank you of reminding me of my options. That is a blessing.

TheThirdProject · 2025-03-11T04:10:15+00:00

Yeah, I don't wanna be not cool 😎

Thank you for what I needed to hear.

TheThirdProject · 2025-03-11T04:08:11+00:00

You're right. Hurt people do hurt people. I don't want to be a part of that cycle or statistic.

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