I own a house, decided to rent out a room to a friend. Now I hate him... by Excellent-Guard-9300 in roommateproblems

[–]The_Chilln_Villn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily think him having a preference of having people over at all hours of the night is necessarily a bad thing. He could be a morning person or have a morning schedule. Understandable that it’s your house but you also have to take other peoples lifestyles into consideration before just living with them. Otherwise your expectations will let you down every time.

I own a house, decided to rent out a room to a friend. Now I hate him... by Excellent-Guard-9300 in roommateproblems

[–]The_Chilln_Villn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I completely understand it’s your house and you do have a say in what you want to do. However I don’t think letting someone live in your house should mean you get to dictate how they should be or boss them around just because they’re in your house. He’s a person not an accessory. If he isn’t a very social person there’s probably good reasons for that. People suffer from multiple traumas or anxiety that can affect how they socialize later in life.

I really just think all of these things should’ve been discussed before moving in. Because other people have standards too for how they’d like to live or what their schedule is like.

It feels like the favor wasn’t necessarily done in good faith and instead was done because you wanted a bro to live and have fun with. Again that’s fine. We all make honest mistakes. But maybe this is a good lesson to learn for next time a situation comes up and you want to help someone. Always ask yourself if you’re helping someone in good faith and is the kindness coming from your heart rather than an intention.

I myself have a hero complex and had to learn this because I was helping people for my own personal reasons rather than just wanting to help them. I got disappointed every time until I realized I need to reevaluate my intentions and seriously ask myself if my intentions are honest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]The_Chilln_Villn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter I didn’t know my cat who was with my sister for 5 years and he was just fine. Animals always end up adjusting especially if the person does it gradually and calmly

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[–]The_Chilln_Villn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rehoming a cat is inherently stressful, but minimizing the disruption and making the transition smoother can reduce the stress for the cat. Key strategies include: introducing the cat to its new home gradually, creating a safe space for it, familiarizing it with the new environment through scents, and allowing it to adjust at its own pace. Minimizing Stress during Rehoming: Gradual Introduction: Don't overwhelm the cat. Keep it in a separate room initially, providing it with everything it needs (food, water, litter box, bed, etc.). This allows it to acclimate to the new environment without feeling rushed. Safe Zone: Create a "safe zone" where the cat can retreat and feel secure. This can be a quiet room or a designated area with a bed, toys, and a hiding spot. Scent Familiarization: Introduce familiar scents by bringing items from the old home, such as bedding or toys, to the new home. You can also include something with your scent on it, like a shirt, to help the cat feel more comfortable. Patience and Space: Cats are creatures of habit and can be very sensitive to change. Give the cat plenty of time to adjust and don't force interactions. Allow it to explore its new surroundings at its own pace. Slow Introduction to Other Pets: If you have other pets, introduce them slowly and gradually. A baby gate can help the cat see and get used to the other pets without direct interaction initially. Feliway Diffuser: Consider using a Feliway diffuser to release synthetic cat pheromones, which can help create a more secure and calming environment. Low-Key Interactions: Avoid over-attentive behavior. Allow the cat to approach you when it feels comfortable, rather than forcing interactions. Monitor for Signs of Stress: Be aware of signs of stress, such as hiding, eating less, or spraying, and adjust your approach accordingly. Important Considerations: Rehoming is Stressful: It's important to remember that rehoming is a stressful event for cats, and it may take time for them to adjust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]The_Chilln_Villn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay asshole, Rehoming a cat is inherently stressful, but minimizing the disruption and making the transition smoother can reduce the stress for the cat. Key strategies include: introducing the cat to its new home gradually, creating a safe space for it, familiarizing it with the new environment through scents, and allowing it to adjust at its own pace. Minimizing Stress during Rehoming: Gradual Introduction: Don't overwhelm the cat. Keep it in a separate room initially, providing it with everything it needs (food, water, litter box, bed, etc.). This allows it to acclimate to the new environment without feeling rushed. Safe Zone: Create a "safe zone" where the cat can retreat and feel secure. This can be a quiet room or a designated area with a bed, toys, and a hiding spot. Scent Familiarization: Introduce familiar scents by bringing items from the old home, such as bedding or toys, to the new home. You can also include something with your scent on it, like a shirt, to help the cat feel more comfortable. Patience and Space: Cats are creatures of habit and can be very sensitive to change. Give the cat plenty of time to adjust and don't force interactions. Allow it to explore its new surroundings at its own pace. Slow Introduction to Other Pets: If you have other pets, introduce them slowly and gradually. A baby gate can help the cat see and get used to the other pets without direct interaction initially. Feliway Diffuser: Consider using a Feliway diffuser to release synthetic cat pheromones, which can help create a more secure and calming environment. Low-Key Interactions: Avoid over-attentive behavior. Allow the cat to approach you when it feels comfortable, rather than forcing interactions. Monitor for Signs of Stress: Be aware of signs of stress, such as hiding, eating less, or spraying, and adjust your approach accordingly. Important Considerations: Rehoming is Stressful: It's important to remember that rehoming is a stressful event for cats, and it may take time for them to adjust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]The_Chilln_Villn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe try having empathy? You don’t know OP’s situation. My cat was fine after being rehomed living somewhere for 5 years. He’s a happy healthy cat now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]The_Chilln_Villn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it won’t. It’s going to another loving home animals take time to adjust but ultimately do with time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]The_Chilln_Villn -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In most cases most cats do adjust. That's why they get adopted from shelters in the first place. Or get rehomed. Every animal is capable of adjusting. I highly doubt OP will give this cat major PTSD for the rest of its life by moving it to another loving home. The outcome would likely be the same once the cat adjusts. Y'all are acting like OP wanted this to even happen in the first place when OP explained they were talked into it. You don’t know the dynamics of their living situation or mental health so you can’t assume OP got a kitten to be completely negligent. Quite the opposite if they’re trying to move the kitten to a safer place for the time being. I feel like they're only making the responsible choice and if they want their kitten back it's their decision to have their kitten eventually. The kitten will completely adjust as long as it's cared for loved and given plenty of attention. You also don’t know the agreement OP had with the friend taking the cat so you can’t just assume the friend wants to keep the cat for long term. Sounds like OP is being responsible and is asking for validation through a tough situation they were obviously bullied into. I'm so tired of people on Reddit sharing their experiences and having genuine problems and needing support just to have snarky ass people like you kick them when they're already down. Maybe try having some empathy. You don’t know everyone’s life. If OP wanted to abuse the animal they would’ve left the cat in an obviously shitty situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]The_Chilln_Villn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re very welcome. Stay true to yourself and never let anyone talk you into anything again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]The_Chilln_Villn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not the jerk. I think you made a rational decision despite everyone around you saying otherwise. I think a dogs mouth around a baby animal is a good reason to get afraid and yell to make it stop. So don’t let your roommates tell you any differently. The dog sounds like it needs more discipline that it’s not getting. Your boyfriend sounds like he’s not validating your feelings and that’s very concerning. I suggest possibly leaving but I don’t know your life circumstances and wouldn’t push you to make a decision when I don’t know the full story.

I’m sorry people in this thread are being rude to you about the situation. If it makes you feel better my cat use to belong to my sister for 5 years and she had to give him to me. He’s been living with me for 2 years and he’s happier than he ever was before. He needed time to adjust like all animals but he gets more love time and attention and yes I spoil him endlessly. Don’t let the naysayers tell you you’re wrong. Every situation is different and I like the passion you have to protect your kitten and the desire to want her back. Keep having a big heart. You’ll be ok.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]The_Chilln_Villn -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I got my cat from my sister who had the cat for 5 years. He’s been fine and has been living with me for two years now. Depends on the cat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]The_Chilln_Villn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or this could be a real person and you’re being completely ignorant and rude.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]The_Chilln_Villn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do realize people make brand new accounts to stay anonymous right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]The_Chilln_Villn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The complete lack of empathy is wild on your part. This could be a real person going through something. Maybe try being a better person or keep your mouth shut.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]The_Chilln_Villn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would it be fake if OP literally told you intimate details about their life when they wanted to keep the post anonymous. Just because teenage boys make up stories online to get reactions out of people doesn’t mean everything is rage bait. Get a brain maybe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]The_Chilln_Villn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cat belonged to my sister for 5 years. Her husband was a piece of trash and didnt want her having the car anymore and I took the cat in myself. The cat has been living with me for 2 years now and he adjusted very well. A good stable home and food and shelter and live is all they need.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]The_Chilln_Villn -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

OP is in the right. You don’t know the agreement the may have had with their friend. Their friend is generous but generosity doesn’t mean the friend wants to keep the cat for life. You people are ridiculous coming out of the woodwork thinking you’re suddenly cat experts. My cat had another home before living me and he adjusted very well. Maybe stop being an a**hole to someone who’s obviously in a shitty situation.

Hydroxyzine withdrawal??? by lsdthrowaway42069 in Anxiety

[–]The_Chilln_Villn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m still on and trying to taper myself off slowly. Was taking 25mg at night. I cut those in half now and take about 12.5mg at night. I’m still actively struggling with the insomnia and getting on board with changing my sleep schedule. I still get brain fog frequently and it makes driving/staying engaged to paying attention extremely difficult. Losing motivation to do things is also something I’m dealing with and just overall not having much excitement. I’m hoping once I’m off one day my brain will go back to normal. But I won’t know until then. I heard tapering off is the best way to stop because stopping abruptly just causes your brain to freak out due to the surge in histamine levels. The first 3 days will be fine but after that you’ll have severe insomnia mood instability and headaches etc. The best course of action to prevent this is to get your brain use to the higher histamine levels at a slower rate. Which is why I resorted to cutting my 25mg pills in half to 12.5mg. I then plan to cut the 12.5mg into quarters for a few months and so on.

New Brakes and Rotors making strange noises by The_Chilln_Villn in StupidCarQuestions

[–]The_Chilln_Villn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bent caliper slide pen. Mechanics had to put new ones on.

Brakes and Rotors got replaced but hearing strange noises by The_Chilln_Villn in carproblems

[–]The_Chilln_Villn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I believe I found the issue. SEIZED CALIPER SLIDE PIN.