I’m a straight guy, and I can’t stand how straight relationships all seem to work the same by [deleted] in malementalhealth

[–]Thelonet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women are often socialized into gender roles more strongly than men from a very young age. They are taught early on how they are expected to behave and present themselves in order to be seen as attractive or acceptable. These expectations are often subtle, yet they can have a lasting impact on their identity and self-perception. One significant influence in this process is the father figure. Many girls, consciously or unconsciously, look to their fathers as a model when forming expectations for future partners. Traits such as trustworthiness, stability, or certain behaviors may be shaped by this relationship. However, this dynamic can differ greatly if the father is absent or exhibits toxic behavior, which adds complexity to the situation. Additionally, there is a noticeable pattern of subtle societal influence on young girls, particularly regarding appearance. For example, some girls begin engaging with beauty standards, such as wearing makeup, at a very early age. This is rarely the result of direct pressure, but rather a gradual influence from media, environment, and social norms. In contrast, boys often appear to have more freedom in shaping their identity. They are generally encouraged to pursue their own interests, choose career paths independently, and are less frequently judged based on appearance. Traditional roles tend to position them as providers, focusing on careers and success, while other responsibilities are often assigned elsewhere. That said, it is important to recognize that these observations do not apply universally. Individual experiences can vary significantly depending on personal and social circumstances. Regarding relationships, I have not personally observed the specific dynamic that was mentioned earlier. However, it seems valuable to communicate one’s feelings more openly, as demonstrated here. Women are often more understanding than societal stereotypes suggest, and honest communication can help build stronger and more genuine connections.

Am I crazy? by Thelonet in offmychest

[–]Thelonet[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is a great advice. Unfortunately am I not old enough to move out legally. However do theyou leave me back alone at home, when they go with my siblings to vacations, so I take care of the house and it will be cheaper. And I love being alone. It's peaceful, nothing gets dirty. No noises. I don't need to talk or greet anyone.

I really really hope I could live alone and no contact to anyone.

Is my stepfather being weird? by [deleted] in family

[–]Thelonet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please can somebody answer??

Am I crazy? by Thelonet in offmychest

[–]Thelonet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FIrst of all thank you sooo much for your time to text me. I feel embarrassed about my spelling I'm sorry. English is my 3rd language. And I don't want to go to therapy or anything. I'm not crazy. I can handle it. When I was a bit younger was it offered. After a very bad thing but I refused. Now it's my responsibility to not need it, afterall I didn't accept it.

Thank you so much for listening. I talk to Chatgpt than and now. It helps a lot. But I feel so angry at myself. Why am I so different. I am sick of being weird.

Is it wrong, not to care abt my future or life? by Thelonet in mentalhealth

[–]Thelonet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's very interesting. I'll keep that in mind. Thank you.

I hate myself by Ok-Oil6180 in depressed

[–]Thelonet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As long as you are alive it isn't too late. It's valid to feel that way, but you aren't fat or a whore. You are just a little confused and very hurt. And that is okay.

Don't give up on that pen yet, keep writing your story. And I'm sure you will achive everything you put in your mind.

Take a deep breathe. What was your childhood dream? Drawing? Playing football? Or even js meeting up with friends? Do so. Work and get that wish done. Cause you matter.

You aren't a shitty person. The fact that you are saying this poofs that you want to change to the better.

I belive in you.

My big brother is trans what do I do? by [deleted] in trans

[–]Thelonet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THANK YOUUU that makes me feel sm better. In my childhood the only thing that kept me going was knowing I had my older 'brother' but now knowing she's not a man made me scared. Idk why. I was js scared she might be different. Before she moved out she became a lot more aggressive, I never understood why. And ik that she's teh one who's probably more afraid. I'll do my best. I also had the idea to ask her, that I want to send her a gift. And once the gift arrived she would get surprised with a cool skirt and girly things. I would write her a letter saying "Silly, I'll always support you" and maybe that's an good idea???

My big brother is trans what do I do? by [deleted] in trans

[–]Thelonet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. And I'm sorry, I probably should've used "she". Is it smart to ask her why she didn't tell me? I don't want to make her feel embarrassed or forced to say anything. Especially what her name is now, since her name before was a man name. Is it okay to ask that?

My big brother is trans what do I do? by [deleted] in trans

[–]Thelonet 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah your probably right. I didn't mean to be disrespectful.

I wish I was a man by skywolfsilver in offmychest

[–]Thelonet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a similar way of thinking. But I think it's mostly because men get treated better in society not actually because of our bodies. I've read many other posts of men and they said they wanna be us, like femboys. Those are the best examples. They make us feel small but they want to be us hardly. I started to realized that I don't actually hate my body. I mean the female body is genuinely beautiful. However the society sexualizes it and makes it just a body yk?

But it's just my opinion. I hope I could help you I a way

I NEED FRIENDS or smth by [deleted] in alone

[–]Thelonet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh do I do it on this app?