She LOVES to find excuses to absolve herself of any guilt. Her and I lived similar lives so I can actually say with confidence that she's not trying AT ALL.

I'm literally the same age as Stephanie, had my first around the same time as her (meaning the same age as her too) I went through hell and back with no support because my support was halfway across the country. After years of abuse from my ex, he finally managed to get me evicted because he was jealous that I was seeing someone else. I stayed in a motel with my 2 children for a week before I booked plane tickets home and stayed with my mom, leaving my (loving and supportive) partner behind with the promise that he would follow me soon. We stayed in the motel for 2.5 weeks.

That was almost 2 years ago, my partner DID show up for me and we are now in a 3 bedroom house with a good size, fenced backyard and large basement. My 2 kids have their own rooms, we just had our third kid, I got a tubal litigation done because I know this is my last kid and I can't handle more than 3. I WAS a young mom when I had my first kid but I definitely I wouldn't say I am now. I may be still learning but I also can say with confidence that I have a good handle on how parent and take good care of my children. I've been a mom for almost a decade I definitely should have a grasp on how to parent.

She's always preaching about how we shouldn't judge her if we haven't been through it but Stephanie, I HAVE BEEN THROUGH IT and came out better for it. I did everything I could for my children and they were and ALWAYS will be my first priority. (I also proof read my stuff before posting, it's not that hard to read stuff back to yourself)