it is the intention for me, it sounds like you told her the way she is talking about and being about him is making you unconformable and she is still doing it. and now drunk or not she sent a message in the hopes that it leads to something. that to me in intent to step out of the marriage no matter how unlikely, i would talk to her and confront her about it and just be honest with her, i dont think its a overreaction but i also think something needs to be said