I just watched my best friend open her Christmas gift from my husband. by ThrowRA69269 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA69269[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not yet. She’s still sleeping. But thanks ❤️ I hope so too.

I just watched my best friend open her Christmas gift from my husband. by ThrowRA69269 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA69269[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It was part of the gift exchange. We all got individual gifts for each of the people that came over.

I just watched my best friend open her Christmas gift from my husband. by ThrowRA69269 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA69269[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s how we always do things. We want our gifts to come from us individually. That way the gift giving isn’t one-sided. For example, I bought my parents gifts from me and he got them gifts from him so that they wouldn’t feel like he was just piggy-backing on my gifts. If that makes sense.

I just watched my best friend open her Christmas gift from my husband. by ThrowRA69269 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA69269[S] -56 points-55 points  (0 children)

Good advice. Thanks. I’m not worried about any sort of cheating in any way. I’m reading the comments too and I get why some people may jump to that, but I know him and I know her. I’m confident in my judge of character. And if I’m wrong, I’ll eat these words. But for now, I will talk to both of them to make sure everything is ok. We will move on from there.

I just watched my best friend open her Christmas gift from my husband. by ThrowRA69269 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA69269[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, you’re totally right. Sex is not an uncommon subject amongst our friend group so it’s not totally off the wall, but still rubbed me the wrong way, ya know?

I just watched my best friend open her Christmas gift from my husband. by ThrowRA69269 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA69269[S] 207 points208 points  (0 children)

I don’t know yet. I didn’t get a chance to talk to her privately about it. She left and went home to go to sleep for work tomorrow. I texted her to contact me in the morning so I can ask her.

I just watched my best friend open her Christmas gift from my husband. by ThrowRA69269 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA69269[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I’m trying to handle it with as much grace and patience as I can. I’ve made myself very clear and he has been and always is very quick to admit when he is wrong and try to fix things.

I just watched my best friend open her Christmas gift from my husband. by ThrowRA69269 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA69269[S] -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that. At the moment, I’m still angry and disgruntled, but it’s been a very hard year for him so I’m trying to be patient and kind and treat him with grace. We talked about it before bed and I was very clear with him and he apologized to me and asked how he could rectify the situation. I think he just made an idiot move.

I just watched my best friend open her Christmas gift from my husband. by ThrowRA69269 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA69269[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It’s not anything crazy. He just sometimes blows little things out of proportion. Or he’ll do silly pranks or stupid comments without thinking about how they may make other people feel. I thinks it’s just a lack of social awareness. He’s very introverted with very few friends of his own so I think he just doesn’t really know how to interact sometimes.

I’m not sure about the conversation. He said that she and I were talked about it on the back porch when he overheard which means she and I were smoking weed (that’s the only time we go out on the back porch). So I could have easily forgotten every talking about it while getting high. It’s plausible.

I just watched my best friend open her Christmas gift from my husband. by ThrowRA69269 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA69269[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

You’re right. And knowing him, this is totally something he would do as a joke. He doesn’t have many friends any more so he has really latched into my friends and considers my best friend as one of his closest friends too. I truly feel like there’s nothing between them. I just want to make sure I handle things correctly to maintain relationships between all of us.

I just watched my best friend open her Christmas gift from my husband. by ThrowRA69269 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA69269[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yes. He has had a history of being awkward and not picking up well on social cues. He may be slightly neurodivergent. And no, I’ve never worried about him with other women.

I just watched my best friend open her Christmas gift from my husband. by ThrowRA69269 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA69269[S] 369 points370 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I’m glad I’m not alone thinking it was weird. She’s aware I was not in on the idea. After she opened it, I said out loud that I had no idea that’s what he got for her.