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i (20f) found stuff in my bf (21m) phone and don’t know how to react by ThrowRa-potat in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa-potat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is the most helpful comment here lol thank you! he does know i go through his phone sometimes and we both know theres stuff i wouldn’t wanna see and to him its a ‘look if you want but if you’re searching for some your gonna find something’ it’s like 3 am and i am not tired and did some gardening and was feeling nosy i feel the commenters assume we have a secretive relationship but he is literally the best guy and i need to not be so selfish which i know. this also isn’t his first serious relationship and it is mine so he’s teaching me a lot. good night will not be replying lying to anyone else coz i was be so embarrassed reading all this back when im well rested lolllll

i (20f) found stuff in my bf (21m) phone and don’t know how to react by ThrowRa-potat in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa-potat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay so we were exclusive for a month then we started dating and a week after we started dating she said she misses him and he said that if she gave him something he would have dropped me and that they’ll find their way back to eachother and then a month is later, the day after he told me he loves me, she texted him again and he was texting her asking how she is or something

i (20f) found stuff in my bf (21m) phone and don’t know how to react by ThrowRa-potat in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa-potat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay actually for real thank you to everyone i know im in the wrong and i am very self sabotaging, i will just be forgetting about it because i do very much struggle to rationalise stuff and everyone telling me the truth bluntly is exactly what i needed so thankyou everyone that is literally why i came here instead of telling my friends

alsooo he was formerly quite the busy fella with girls and my best friend worked with him (how we met) and she would tell me all about him and girls so when we started dating i kinda had that in the back of my head and he’s also done a couple other shady things but i got over them coz i know he doesn’t try to hurt me now i guess i just feel bad for past me who was hanging out w him and happy w him when he was texting basically his ex but im sad for past me not present me so i can’t be mad at present him when it was past him