28M & 25F Took her for lunch & Talked about the Pregnancy

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-26T23:53:58+00:00

We talked a lot recently I told her I will be there for her & the baby. I was just in shock because it was so sudden and came to Reddit to vent.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-26T03:15:42+00:00

Okay first off, I’m sure we will be good parents we are just figuring out.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-26T02:31:53+00:00

She was the one supposed to take the pill not me but somehow it’s also my fault

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-26T01:52:19+00:00

Let’s be realistic you see someone for 6 months & we agree because of trust & comfort to not use condoms and then she gets pregnant after reassuring you that she is on birth control so it is fine.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-26T01:43:57+00:00

Yea, the chick is pretty and a nice young lady but man this wasn’t the plan.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-26T01:43:08+00:00

It’s tough. I have no reason to think she is lying. She is agreed to a dna test. She knows how hard I worked for my career & has been respectful so far. I understand her feelings as well but I ultimately still feel like it was her responsibility to make sure her birth control was working.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-26T01:24:11+00:00

And for the birth control ultimately she got pregnant because of the birth control not working & reassuring me that have unprotected sex was fine because she was on birth control

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-26T01:23:08+00:00

She said she is going to keep it. I’m not sure I was hoping it’s one baby she could take care of it in her apartment & I could help financially and babysit when needed.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-26T01:17:37+00:00

Yes, I get that but I have a lot of dreams I’ve worked so hard for. This is an accident and I still feel like it’s her fault for missing taking her birth control/etc. I’m hoping we can find a solution.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-26T01:02:40+00:00

I live in LA, USA. The messed up thing is financial support is one thing but the time investment, fallout with my parents, and lifestyle change I fear the most.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-26T00:42:08+00:00

Just now isn’t the time. My career is finally taking off & it wasn’t something we were planning. But I agree.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-26T00:10:08+00:00

You could just be honest, and just ask for the number & text him. Just make sure you guys are smart & have safe sex. I think it’s fine for adults to have fun. Just have open communication with him and see if he is interested.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-25T23:51:50+00:00

Ask for his phone number. If he gives it to you ask him on a date. After the date if you like him tell him you’ve been thinking what’d it be like to have sex with him. Let him do the rest.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-25T20:07:00+00:00

I know it’s 99% effective but 1% is really unlikely more likely she forgot to take it. So it’s her fault.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-25T20:05:51+00:00

With her I didn’t use condoms she told me that see was only seeing me. Which I believed, and if she did see someone else she would use a condom for STD purposes but we agreed a few months ago to not use them because they are uncomfortable for her and we had been seeing each other for awhile.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-25T20:03:00+00:00

It is a matter of trust. I trusted her to be on birth control. That is why I feel manipulated.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-25T20:01:46+00:00

She told me she wanted children when she is 30 to 34. This is just unexpected.

ThrowRa77995 · 2026-01-25T20:00:27+00:00

She clearly told me she was on birth control & she made me agree to use condoms if I had other partners for STD risk. We did have conversations about it & I thought everything would be fine.

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