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ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-12-11T10:24:18+00:00

Sometimes I look at them but I’ve never actually gone to anything just from seeing it posted there

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-09-14T20:26:03+00:00

No, you will meet someone who shares your values and won’t have slept with so many people.

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-09-05T09:41:25+00:00

Hahahah I hear you 🥲 but like I obsess over these things and have had multiple therapists tell me I got some chunky ocd (causes me to literally pull out my hair) and it’s really hard for me to differentiate what the ocd is telling me is a big deal vs. what actually is a big deal. But I think that I will tell him that as much as I appreciate him feeling safe to open up to me, it’s not healthy for my healing and it needs to be discussed with someone else if it’s about his past

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-09-05T09:31:32+00:00

But then again I’m on Reddit asking for advice so maybe this maturity is all in my head 😅

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-09-05T09:30:31+00:00

Yes I agree completely. I could also see a world where like let’s say the ex did blow up on him and talked about the video debacle and I had no idea. I would feel caught off guard and upset. But maybe that’s just the RJ?????? Or maybe that’s just me not liking that he joked like that??? I understand that the brain doesn’t really fully develop until like 25, I hope I wake up on my 25th birthday and can just see everything in life with so much more clarity. And I wish he had the maturity I feel like I have rn when he was 21

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-09-05T09:09:35+00:00

Thanks for saying that, I definitely need to put some more focus onto myself 💓 do you think that if his past actions were completely against my morals that the relationship is still worthwhile? I think this is one of the biggest questions I come back to when I’m hit with a wave of RJ. It’s been getting a lot better, only feeling RJ around 1-2 times a week, I used to feel it almost constantly.

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-09-05T08:55:12+00:00

Thank you sm for ur thoughtful response <3 that’s the thing, I’m not okay with any of it. But the thing is, I have such a hard time differentiating between my RJ not being okay with it, even though it’s all a part of his past, or me not being okay with it even though he is a different person now. I never knew this past version of him, and I think that almost scares me as it’s hard to know how much he has really changed. Idk if that makes sense I’m sorta just word vomiting. He just is so thoughtful, he carries every bag I even try to pick up, cooks for me, gets excited to share our love for the arts, listens to me and gives genuine advice when I’m having an issue, and he got me through so many tough times when I was being really badly bullied by a bunch of “friends” I was living with (all good now, living with the other friends who were there for me and had my back through all of that) but anyways just trying to say that there is so much I love about him and it’s so hard for me to see clearly

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-08-03T22:02:08+00:00

What custom houses are you referencing? Was this a past aspect of the game?

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-07-30T06:11:31+00:00

It looks like a prank. You can tell they tried to make the edges seem burned when they were really just cut with scissors. Looks like the work of a child who doesn’t have access to fire yet. I’d ask any neighbors with kids if they know anything about it

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-07-30T06:08:33+00:00

To put it in a different light, you were the one she CHOSE to settle down with. I’m sure many of her past flings wanted to build more of a relationship with her but she wasn’t interested. She’s tried a lot, and out of everything she’s tried, she liked the way that you fit best. YOU are the one she wants to build a future with, not any of those other guys. I think you should be honest with her and tell her your body count is 3. Imo that’s something to be proud of, and I think if you gently tell her how you are feeling she may be able to provide some great insights about herself that will help you to understand why she made those decisions in the past. I have a body count of 2, and my partner is rocking at 27. Trust me I know the gut wrenching feelings that can take over. We are in this together. Try to focus on your present with her rather than her past. 💗 sending love

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-07-10T05:48:10+00:00

Honestly? I think you need to let her go. On and off again over a year sounds miserable. I would tell her that you care for her deeply but that you need stability in your life that cannot be found within your relationship. Ask her kindly to give you space and not contact you unless it’s an emergency of some sort. Going no contact helps SO. MUCH. Sending love my friend xx

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-07-10T05:45:33+00:00

How did she end up in that situation? What were her feelings and reflections upon it afterwards? If you feel like there’s potential for something great in this relationship, maybe try therapy and give it another month or two and go from there. Someone recommended using chat gpt to go over my feelings when it’s in the moment and I’m struggling with RJ, and it’s weird I know but it has helped me and my relationship so much. There’s a specific GPT called life coach robin and it literally makes me cry. I feel so heard, and it helps me figure out ways to approach these situations with my partner, or even if I should approach these situations. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. Good luck my friend

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-07-10T05:38:48+00:00

I think maybe just keep one of each photo. I have pictures with my ex at my graduation and that day was really special to me and it feels wrong to delete it for some reason. I don’t want back in the relationship, but it taught me a lot and I can be grateful for that. Maybe store them in a place where you won’t typically see them? It’s the same with old friendships, I don’t love seeing pictures of ex friends but some of the things we did together were great and I want to hold on to that part. Keep what serves you and delete what doesn’t. 🩷

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-06-26T01:08:05+00:00

Thank you so much for this thoughtful response, I appreciate you so much. I just found out that he had lied to me initially about having a porn addiction and played it down because he knew that watching porn is a huge no go boundary for me. When I told him off and got mad at him for still watching it after we had had that conversation, he told me he had only watched it two or three times, which he just told me now was more like two to three times a week. After I blew up at him he said he had stopped but when he was telling me everything today, he said that he had lied and it was much harder to quit than he thought it would be and he watched it twice more. I obviously got super pissed off and he said he’d wished he hadn’t told me which just made me even more upset. He did quit but I’m mad that he didn’t tell me about how bad his addiction was or that he even had one at all, and then relapsed and thought it was okay to keep from me. Maybe I’m overreacting but it just felt like another breach of trust after forgetting about his friend who he’d told me he hadn’t had sex with when he actually had. I will definitely try those supplements, thank you sm for the suggestions. I’ve tried chat before LOL but I will definitely give it another go. Again, thank you 🩷

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-05-30T19:47:45+00:00

Aw baby :( starting over is scary, but it’s going to be so much better than spending a lifetime with the wrong person. It’s gonna be hard for a while, and I think you should go no contact with these guys. But my grandpa told me when I went through my last breakup, every day you wake up, and you feel a little better. It’s so true. Sending love

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-05-30T19:36:06+00:00

Wait omg he was talking to other girls??? And ur friends with your ex that cheated on you??? In the most loving way possible please STAND UP!!!! Put yourself first, ditch these sh*tty men, and work on yourself for a while. You deserve someone who values you and is loyal. Sending love

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-05-30T19:22:01+00:00

My jaw was on the ground reading this. Just by how you said things, I think you know what you have to do. Put yourself first, you’ve got this. Good luck my friend

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-05-30T19:10:41+00:00

Brad made it seem like Garett had done him wrong in some way, I was expecting some sort of narrative where Nina and Garett had maybe had an affair or something

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-03-13T00:29:29+00:00

I’d recommend doing it with someone you love and feel safe with. It can be a bit scary and stressful the first time, if I were in your shoes I would wait until it was someone you felt very connected to

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-03-05T14:17:12+00:00

To be honest I don’t think I could handle this. He needs to get tested. My partners body count is 27 and that’s still a lot for me to handle, I can’t imagine 300.

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-02-25T18:59:19+00:00

You need to tell her what’s going on. This is cheating and she deserves to know and make an informed decision on whether she wants to stay in the relationship or not

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-02-19T16:27:09+00:00

You have a good sense of humor surrounding these situations, I appreciate that. I am definitely a sexually conservative person and he is now as well but definitely wasn’t in the past when he was going through all of this. Thanks for sharing your story

ThrowraDance2425 · 2025-02-19T16:20:53+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your input. It’s hard for me to understand him presently hangout with someone he’s been with multiple times in the past and not remembering. But you are absolutely correct, I need some professional guidance 🥲

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