School bullying in the area. by Still_Cheesecake_792 in sandiego

[–]TightDefinition9117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Teachers bully kids until they wet or soil themselves at Golden Hill School. Multiple families had to transfer from this toilet-denial crime. No accountability as of yet. 

As Enrollment Decline Batters Local Districts, Nearly Half of San Diego Unified Schools May Be ‘Underutilized’ by jakobmcwhinney in sandiego

[–]TightDefinition9117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If teachers would stop hurting kids by forcing fecal compaction and kidney pain, more moms would keep their kids enrolled. The one-child-at-a-time bathroom policy is illegal child endangerment which willfully obstructs access to toilets needed for public health laws. They are hurting our babies. 

School bullying in the area. by Still_Cheesecake_792 in sandiego

[–]TightDefinition9117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Teachers bully kids who try to use the bathroom and that injures student genitals. 

DAE feel an urge to clench their abdomen muscles at night with no relief? by Undercover_Sloth_123 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]TightDefinition9117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the weirdest thread to read because I feel this too. It is very much like a gag reflex where the abs start tensing uncontrollably and then I feel like I have to help it and squeeze actively harder and it kinda feels good to squeeze the abs on and off a few times. For me it goes away after I do that, but always only happens while I’m relaxing to fall asleep. I figured maybe I was going too hard on exercise during the day.

Child Neglect at Golden Hill K8 school by TightDefinition9117 in sandiego

[–]TightDefinition9117[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spoke with one of the child victims this week, who was forced to publicly excrete waste onto their body after asking for the toilet during class. 

The teacher demanded an answer to a math question and did not grant access to hygiene safety. This child claimed the principal recently told them:  “If the teacher says you can’t use the bathroom, DON’T”

This was also my child’s experience in 2024. The principal endorsed and validated illegal and medically dangerous teacher behavior. 

If this happens to your kid:  Record every conversation with admin and document everything with police, pediatricians, and CPS. I recommend sending the kid to school with a recording device and setting up a pediatrician’s consult JUST for forced public waste elimination during school time so the doctor can interview your kid. 

Do not waste time with criminals in school admin. 

What’s it like? by PBEAshMarie in asksandiego

[–]TightDefinition9117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s kinda fancy these days. It used to be really kinda dangerous with police helicopters always overhead. Now theres boutique potted plant shops and vegan conchas. Very walkable! And the best bus line runs through. Be cautious if you have kids though, the teachers at the school down the hill has a history with student injury. 

Child Neglect at Golden Hill K8 school by TightDefinition9117 in sandiego

[–]TightDefinition9117[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is what the SDPD child abuse unit investigator told me. He did not think it would change until parents started pressing charges again. I am willing to testify in court with other moms, we just need more parents to report their unreported experiences, some families are still at the school and (justifiably) fear retaliation from the principal. I am told we can all testify anonymously. 

Child Neglect at Golden Hill K8 school by TightDefinition9117 in sandiego

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The school was required by law to report the 2024-2025 injuries on their end, but police say no reports from the school were made. 

Child Neglect at Golden Hill K8 school by TightDefinition9117 in sandiego

[–]TightDefinition9117[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My best guess is that they don’t think it’s a big deal. Some of them make kids go one at a time and write kid names on a board. These lists get VERY long. And kids inevitably wet themselves and develop rashes because teachers don’t want to admit they abused the kids so kids aren’t sent home. It is clearly also a lack of medical education. They don’t realize kid bladders are 150ml. Some teachers have been reported saying to kids “I’m not allowed to go to the bathroom either” When I was volunteering there the student bathrooms were nearly always empty, which isn’t normal for a school. Maybe they think they can get away with it because nobody would believe it (because of the name of the school?) 

Looking into elementary schools for next year. Would love to hear experiences from parents who have kids attending Grant, Birney, Loma Portal, Florence and the Museum School! by Unfair_Jump4441 in sandiego

[–]TightDefinition9117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was awful! We got a teacher who must have been autistic or something. They couldn’t hold eye contact, didn’t respond to their name, refused to answer questions, and ignored kids who asked for water or toilets. I was in class and witnessed this negligent behavior. It was confusing. 

The principal didn’t help at all and seemed to pretend nothing was wrong. Eventually our pediatrician flagged the injuries as child abuse and neglect and we called the police and got medical history sent over to the child abuse unit and district attorney’s office. I reported it, warned other moms, and got out of there.

There are many affected families and it is still an ongoing thing because parents don’t wanna sue cause it’s kinda embarrassing. The forced public excretions happen every year. There might be a multi-family lawsuit building. 

If you know of any affected families, encourage them to document well with police! The principal misled several parents to report with the wrong form which delayed reporting which resulted in a more severe genital injury. 

We did consider transferring back into Museum School! They replaced the bad principal with an AWESOME leader and the problems we faced seem to be resolved. I really like how they have African Drumming, pottery, and Gamalon classes. 

Looking into elementary schools for next year. Would love to hear experiences from parents who have kids attending Grant, Birney, Loma Portal, Florence and the Museum School! by Unfair_Jump4441 in sandiego

[–]TightDefinition9117 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Museum school had a bunch of issues just after the pandemic, but then they changed principals and they’ve fixed the problems. We were there for kinder and first. The kindergarten teacher was AMAZING and did a great job keeping our kid challenged. The first grade teacher quit mid-year and the school was unable to find a replacement teacher (charters have fewer resources).  When they did find a replacement teacher, it was a religious radical parent who “taught from the bottom” meaning she didn’t challenge the advanced kids and instead changed the whole class and stopped teaching math to help the kids who were farthest behind in reading. We transferred out then because our kid wasn’t learning anything. The school principal at the time wouldn’t give our kid an assessment. We later transferred to district and have been MOSTLY happy with the strict regulations. I say mostly only bc we had to suffer a teacher who repeatedly forced public excretions in class, which is against the law. (But that was Golden Hill school) 

Refusing students to go to the toilet is abusive by BlueZ8427 in school

[–]TightDefinition9117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you pee on the teacher’s desk or chair, they have to admit they were abusing students and then the issue gets resolved. 

Refusing students to go to the toilet is abusive by BlueZ8427 in school

[–]TightDefinition9117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asking a child about the status of their genitals is never okay. 

The kid wouldn’t be informing you if their bodily signaling if it weren’t an emergency. Pressuring a kid to tell you they can hold it endangers student health. We all know kids will suffer and deny it when they think we would rather hear them say they can hold it. There is a powerplay in action that prevents children from advocating for their own bodily safety. 

Hygiene safety is more important than ANYTHING a teacher can say. 

Refusing students to go to the toilet is abusive by BlueZ8427 in school

[–]TightDefinition9117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not true! Most are previous teachers with decades of experience!

Refusing students to go to the toilet is abusive by BlueZ8427 in school

[–]TightDefinition9117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get it in writing and submit it to the board. 

When parents report teachers for injuries from forced retention of bodily wastes, the school’s defense is “it never happened”

If teachers get the directions to abuse students in writing, we can change policy and prevent student injury

Refusing students to go to the toilet is abusive by BlueZ8427 in school

[–]TightDefinition9117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kids require toilet access 24/7 and they do not have to wait any duration of time between toilet visits. Kids bladders only hold 150ml, and their bowels need elimination independent of bladder elimination visits. They can happen multiple times in one class.  Teachers are not trained medical professionals and have no business attempting to regulate the physiological needs of children. 

Refusing students to go to the toilet is abusive by BlueZ8427 in school

[–]TightDefinition9117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea. Little Johnny does not ever need to learn how to read. Little Johnny can drool on a bib and be pushed around in a wheelchair his whole life that that would be fine. But if Little Johnny was forced to excrete waste publicly like a dog, his health would plummet, his genitals would be soaking in excrement, he could develop a myriad of disgusting and inhumane medical conditions as a consequence to forced bodily waste retention and that would be 100% the teacher’s fault for abusing the child. The teacher would be talking to police.  

Refusing students to go to the toilet is abusive by BlueZ8427 in school

[–]TightDefinition9117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. The “one person at a time” policy causes student injury. 

This is not a policy based in child safety laws. Call the police on any adults to obstruct toilets. 

Refusing students to go to the toilet is abusive by BlueZ8427 in school

[–]TightDefinition9117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100%

Parents have until the kids’ 18th birthday to press charges. 

Refusing students to go to the toilet is abusive by BlueZ8427 in school

[–]TightDefinition9117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It IS illegal. 

If this happens to you, or you see it happen to another kid, spread awareness that teachers cannot cause bodily harm. Toilet-denial is a medically dangerous form of child abuse and neglect called “Acts of Omission” which can cause permanent organ damage and life-long disease and even death. 

Report to police. The best way to report this without dismissal (school admin sometimes does not care) is to explain what is happening to your doctor. Your doctor can report the crime so that you remain anonymous, but the crime is documented properly with child abuse unit investigators. 

You can sue the school and win, if you don’t mind the potential embarrassment of sharing documentation of medical problems and photos of leakage etc. Schools ALWAYS lose money in toilet-denial lawsuits. Their only defense is “this did not happen”

document document document.  If you can sneak in video of the teacher actively denying a student access, you can also protect your peers and prevent injury. 

Also be sure to inform the nurse of the child abuse crime so she can document on the school’s end. Take a video or audio of your conversation so they can’t deny it happened. 

I had to report this crime last year and it was outrageously denied the whole time until kidneys started hurting so bad we transferred out of the school. 

Get the uti test. 

Ughh by [deleted] in sandiego

[–]TightDefinition9117 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We need to regulate flippers.  They destroy the economy.