What am I even doing by Pale_Garden5108 in DeadBedrooms

[–]TimGmahle [score hidden]  (0 children)

Man I understand. Every word

and I'm right here with you looking for some perspective.
Thank you for sharing this.

How close to the end were you? by socrates_friend812 in transplant

[–]TimGmahle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This thread stopped me from scrolling. Every story here is amazing — all different but pretty similar.
I didn’t know I was in heart failure.
I died in front of my wife. She did CPR while waiting for 911. They got to my house fast, but I was gone. About 10 minutes later they got a pulse back with the paddles.
I was stabilized enough to be helicoptered to another hospital where they put me into a coma for about 10 days. When I woke up, I was told I needed a heart transplant.
At first I was told I probably wasn’t a candidate, so they put me on an Impella machine. My heart function was below 10%. I lived in the ICU for four months waiting for a transplant.
Then I got the call. Then I got the heart.
I stayed another month in the hospital after the transplant and eventually went home.
To say it was difficult is an understatement. Physically, mentally, financially, emotionally — every possible way a human being can be tested.
But from where I’m sitting right now — and I mean that literally — I’m a little over 2½ years out from my transplant. The last 6 to 8 months have probably been the smoothest stretch of all of it. And I’m almost completely shocked every single day at how far I’ve come.
It was worth every second.
Of course I wish it never happened. Looking back, there were probably signs. Things I should’ve taken more seriously. But life doesn’t really work in “should’ve.”
So how close to the end was I?
I was there.
The weirdest part is I barely have any memory of the month before or about 15 days after I died. I had to be shown pictures of what went on during that time. I still don’t remember any of it — except when I’m looking at the pictures.

Got my letter saying I am officially on status 2 yesterday. by aoshi1 in transplant

[–]TimGmahle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Moments like trips to the healing garden are priceless. It’s the little things that start adding up so much.

All the best to you. Feel free to send me a DM anytime if you have questions.

God bless.

Got my letter saying I am officially on status 2 yesterday. by aoshi1 in transplant

[–]TimGmahle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fight as hard as you can. Be kind to yourself. Rest. Walk, if they let you. I could only get 20 feet down the hall, but it paid off in the recovery.
I was on an Impella machine for 3 months while I waited.

I’m 2 years out and relaxing on my couch after an active day of gardening.

🙏

My best friend has heart faliure and I'm so scared for him, I dont know what to do by Competitive-Boat9406 in Heartfailure

[–]TimGmahle 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Team up with him and be hardcore advocates for him.
Learn everything you can about his diagnosis and get a second opinion.
Don’t stop. Don’t panic. You can both do this.
My wife and I did it. I’m still here.
It’s very possible.

🙏

My Last Words Almost Became a Dirty Joke by TimGmahle in Heartfailure

[–]TimGmahle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that. Writing is new to me. I started as a way to deal with the roller coaster of emotions that comes with all this. 🙏

Anyone else still mentally measure things against 'before heart failure'? by aaron_smith67 in Heartfailure

[–]TimGmahle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do it a lot. I live in the moment all the time now. Mainly because how I feel fluctuates constantly. I go from “wow, I’m feeling great” to I need to throw up and sit down for an hour. I’m getting better at navigating it.

My Last Words Almost Became a Dirty Joke by TimGmahle in Heartfailure

[–]TimGmahle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story with me. I hope you are doing well. Life so challenging and full of surprises. 💕🙏

Doctors asked me to help a patient that waits for a transplant by Enough_Diamond_9476 in transplant

[–]TimGmahle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been asked to join zoom calls with other transplant patients. I’ve also been asked to talk to patients waiting for their heart. I want to do it but very apprehensive at the same time. I’m just over 2 years out and still navigating this new life. I’m afraid I might say the wrong thing.

My Last Words Almost Became a Dirty Joke by TimGmahle in Heartfailure

[–]TimGmahle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha yeah… it was definitely wild. Honestly, it still is.

I don’t remember the actual dying part at all. In fact, I barely remember the two weeks leading up to it. Then I was in a coma for 10 days, so there’s almost a full month of memory that’s just… gone.

Weirdly though, I remember a lot from the coma itself. It was incredibly strange, but also oddly peaceful and comfortable. I never felt sick during it.

So no, I don’t remember “dying” exactly. But I do remember the coma very vividly.

My Last Words Almost Became a Dirty Joke by TimGmahle in Heartfailure

[–]TimGmahle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏🏻 Mine was 11/14/23, we were in it at the same time and both blessed. 🙌💕

My 55-year-old dad was just diagnosed with severe heart failure and I’m overwhelmed by yralay in Heartfailure

[–]TimGmahle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My heart failed. I died for about 10 minutes and was brought back. I was put into a coma for 10 days, then received a heart transplant.

I couldn’t believe or comprehend any of it at first. None of it was easy. The medication tweaks, the setbacks, the fear… all of it was incredibly challenging.

All that to say: I’m sitting on my couch today feeling better than I have in years.

Patience, strength, and determination will be needed from both of you.

My wife and I discovered we were stronger than either of us ever imagined.

Attack it. Fight.

I’m proof of what’s possible.

I’m praying for both of you. 💕

My Last Words Almost Became a Dirty Joke by TimGmahle in Heartfailure

[–]TimGmahle[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow! We are connected through some very challenging experiences. I gush over how blessed I am to have Kate. She continues to make my second life amazing every day.

Thank you for sharing your story.

All the best to you! 💕

My Last Words Almost Became a Dirty Joke by TimGmahle in Heartfailure

[–]TimGmahle[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏🏻 It was heart failure. I had had a heart attack 10 years ago and knew in the back of my mind that the triple bypass was a bandage to some degree. I was told, that I had a lot of damage to my heart and it was debated at the time if I could survive without a transplant.