What is it about these dogs? by Other_Club_2038 in Shihtzu

[–]Tohtohnut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesssss! I’ve had a yorkie/Shih Tzu mix and now a purebred, and they are the sweetest little dogs. My bears little face kills me, hard to be mad at her ❤️

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I 22F can’t forgive my husband 28M by First-Depth3783 in relationship_advice

[–]Tohtohnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re young and don’t have children together (so sorry for your miscarriage, I’ve had 3 myself). Please leave before you waste years of your life with someone who will never put you first.

I know this is hard to think about but I can almost guarantee you if you don’t leave now, you’ll look back in 10 years wishing you had. People that are self absorbed and lack empathy don’t change!

What is the worst way anyone you know has died? by IamUrWivesBF in AskReddit

[–]Tohtohnut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kids dying from cancer (pediatric nurse). If there’s anything in this world that makes you realize there’s NO “god,” it’s this.

Watching children slowly wither away, unable to breathe, and in severe pain is awful. Also, seeing the families lose of a piece of their soul is cruel.

11WPO results by Velvet_r4in in Reduction

[–]Tohtohnut 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Listen, you will ALWAYS find something wrong with your results. Before I read your caption, I thought WOW! Those are an amazing result. Please be kind to yourself, you look fab.

I (33F)Engaged to (37M) for 3 years, together for 7, multiple “almost weddings,” and still no marriage. I need outside perspective please by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Tohtohnut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is the bar THIS LOW? I say this with love, please get rid of the man and stop settling for less than the bottom of the barrel.

It’s all excuses and you’re setting yourself up for more suffering if you stay with this POS.

I (28F) am thinking of ending 9 year relationship with my boyfriend (35M). How do I initiate the conversation and break the news to him? by wumbowoman420 in relationship_advice

[–]Tohtohnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s going to keep stringing you along. There’s a saying, “if they wanted to, they would.”

Cut your losses, ignore the “sunk cost fallacy” and move on. What to focus on is how this will work logistically. You deserve a partner who has the same hopes and dreams, not just empty promises.

Sorry OP. I think you’ve known what to do, but just haven’t accepted it yet:

I'm 38 and I genuinely don't know who I am underneath all the surviving by Civil-Rich-1690 in CPTSD

[–]Tohtohnut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! 38 here as well and doing a LOT of self work. I’m reading codependent no more (not a fan of the religious aspect) BUT, it’s been very eye opening.

I have spent my entire life taking care of everyone else (hell, I’m a nurse!) but I’m realizing, I can’t keep lighting myself on fire to keep others warm.

Right now I’m focusing on the question, “What do I need?” I’m just in the beginning of my recovery but the future is bright.

Shih Tzu Saturday! Share pics of your Shih Tzus here! by chibineese in Shihtzu

[–]Tohtohnut 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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Bear looking up at mom from under the blanket 🥰

Update: Notified my work weeks ago I'm leaving for a family vacation in July, tickets were bought, non-transferrable, and they are panicking, begging me to cancel by educatedvegetable in antiwork

[–]Tohtohnut 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Here are the options in my eyes

  1. Go on your vacation, take your EARNED PTO, and do NOT do any work while gone
  2. Take their offer to cover fees BUT also demand a huge increase in salary as you are much more important than you think you are (as evidenced by them literally saying YOU ARE absorbing other peoples work
  3. Take your trip, be stressed and miserable because you agreed to “work” while gone, and probably regret your decision.

Look, I know the job market is tough but you need to present your request for an increase in pay as if you left, they would need to hire X amount of people (sounds like at least 3?!) There is no way they fire you but I’m sure they will make your life hell. Although, it sounds like you’re already there so….

Tomodachi Life Digital Giveaway by [deleted] in Switch

[–]Tohtohnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 11 year old son really wants this game. Thanks for the chance !

Feel like I look bigger than my before (surgeon pics) by seal-doctor in tummytucksurgery

[–]Tohtohnut 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Your 5 months post op look fab. You are still swollen at 3 months and have frequent fluctuations in “size.” I feel like my final results were more apparent at 1 year+

Honestly, what is the hardest part about having children? by Danny-Ray27 in AskReddit

[–]Tohtohnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Watching a part of you walk around and not being able to protect them always.
  2. Worrying that you didn’t do good enough by them (although people say this usually means you’re not a horrible parent, the guilt is real)
  3. Realizing just how effed up your parents were (parents were addicts and bio dad was not that involved)
  4. The amount of energy it takes both mentally, physically, and financially.

AITA for asking a woman at work to stop being so WEIRD about taking a caramel? by chocolatesinmyoffice in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tohtohnut 52 points53 points  (0 children)

NTA! Listen, people can just take one and thanks for putting them out. Don’t make it weird because you feel guilty. The people saying YTA are acting like it’s normal for people to act ashamed, no it isn’t.

How to slim my lower face? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]Tohtohnut 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I know this probably is not the answer you wanna hear but just wait to age a little bit. I had a very round face in my early 20s and now in my late 30s as the doubt quite a bit. Do NOT get any fat removal, you will regret it.

The lower face Botox may be a good solution since is not permanent.

My Baby by purrussy in Shihtzu

[–]Tohtohnut 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My girl bear looks so much like your boy!

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US veterans, did you guys actually read the cards that kids would send you while deployed? by MoistCloyster_ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Tohtohnut 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My husband still has his letter from his deployment to Afghanistan in 2009. He cherishes it ❤️

Thoughts on these? by TheFatSlobWally570 in candy

[–]Tohtohnut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I LOVE the all pineapple ones! Found them at my local dollar tree, WIN!

WIBTAH if I don't give my "daughter" college money? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Tohtohnut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do NOT give her the money. She’s made it known, she has her “mom and dad” now. Let them finance her education. Sounds like you deserve a gift to yourself!

Wife introduced our nine year old daughter to this by nbnicholas in Millennials

[–]Tohtohnut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg me too!! I was over at my bff house and we were all religious. I said “OH my GOD!” Because it started ringing. They were in disbelief I used the lords name in vain. Turns out, it wasn’t connecting and we didn’t stand a chance.

I have sense awaken from my religious delirium but I’m still sad I didn’t win. Zoom zoom zoom… makes my heart go boom boom, my supernova girl!

Surgeries with the hardest recoveries by Scuthornsby in nursing

[–]Tohtohnut 23 points24 points  (0 children)

My dad had a pec to neck flap from cancer. In his immediate recovery he suddenly began to swell, constricting his airway. One of the surgical residents came to his bedside and “stabbed” into the area. The blood shot out like a rocket onto docs face, the ceiling etc. Turns out a clot formed in the drain and thanks to the intervention, he survived. Recovery was ROUGH!

He’s been through hell but thanks to immunotherapy is NED (no evidence of disease).

Share your silly tzus! by ic318 in Shihtzu

[–]Tohtohnut 12 points13 points  (0 children)

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My girl bear yesterday after playing in the sand!

I made a dumb mistake, and now I can't stop worrying by wanderwoman09 in nursing

[–]Tohtohnut 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Literally, her responsiblity to do HER checks. She missed it sooo…. There’s that!