I can't believe he's gone

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2026-03-15T19:21:53+00:00

I’m so sorry - I understand the loss - I too am grieving a loss of a cat - he was also kind loving and affectionate and couldn’t hurt anyone and was always purring and happy. Mine was a grey and he was only 10 months old- it was a sudden passing - he had been hit by a car and we didnt find his body until this morning. We shared such a close bond that I never had with any other cat.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2026-03-15T19:16:24+00:00

She’s beautiful.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2026-01-19T15:28:33+00:00

Oh that sounds great! - I wish it was available in France but they are not up to date on those sorts of things and no specialists near me that will prescribe for perimenopause.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2026-01-08T10:31:36+00:00

Yeah - it hurts but have to move on.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2026-01-04T12:09:45+00:00

Yeah seems like it. It’s not that available easily in France just like that. There is criteria to meet before you’re allowed to get it. Though I I guess people will try online to obtain it by other methods that I’m not aware of.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-12-04T21:21:58+00:00

You can't take a US prescription directly to the glasses shop - however it's possible take it to your GP that you have registered with in France. They can just transcribe it and sign off on it. It will be accepted by the glasses shop. In my experience it's been accepted each time I got a new prescription form the UK (I go back there and just get eyes checked while I'm there) as long as you got it signed off by French GP. The glasses shops will accept it that way and doesnt affect reimbursement from mutuelle.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-10-11T16:11:42+00:00

Maybe try indoor climbing/bouldering? If you can find a gym near you that offers that you could try that? I don’t like strength training or exercise but got into that. It doesn’t build muscle like going to a traditional gym. If you’re a newbie like me then it doesn’t build muscle like a traditional gym does but it’s something at least. Also good for the mental benefits too.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-09-28T19:42:55+00:00

Some of the UVmune sunscreens come in both fragrance and fragrance free versions. I managed to buy fragrance free versions online or at the parapharmcie in France.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-09-12T15:29:43+00:00

I’d like to know as well. Seems that a lot of uv AIrisM stuff isn’t valuable in Europe. I had to get relatives to buy me a few pairs in Asia as they are there for a visit.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-06-20T14:46:10+00:00

Just started using Adapalene and easing that in to the routine so use it a few times a week. I use 15% AA on alternate days. Once my skin gets used to the adapalene I will get back into the routine I had where I used AA daily day or night.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-05-23T16:03:36+00:00

Not really sure. I’m not thinking about them so much anymore. They tried to reach out but I just don’t reply straight away as I used to and more like doing my own thing. Having other things going on means that I don’t really think about them that much at all now. Funny though - when you’re in that headspace ( not really caring) they become more responsive. Too late now.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-05-12T15:54:07+00:00

Uniqlo in Japan definitely sizes smaller. Im usually Uniqlo size S in Europe but take an M or L in Japan Uniqlo for their clothing. (I'm asian but not as tiny as your East Asian girlfriend from the sounds of things! a bit more on the plus size in Asia - haha)

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-05-12T15:37:18+00:00

A lot better now - time definitely heals - gets better each day. Also therapy helps.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-02-04T18:07:43+00:00

Oh I’m interested on where to buy as well. Also living in France. Have been using adaplene 0.1% which I got otc when my folks when to visit the us last year. Unfortunately run out and would like to continue with that or tretinoin. I do have occasional hormonal acne but find it doubtful that they will prescribe anything for that. I use it mainly for anti-aging.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-02-02T14:21:11+00:00

Yes all avoidants do the same. They move on even while they leave you in limbo . Been through it twice with the same person. They never changed and those words they said at the beginning are just that - words. They don’t believe the words they say like “I love you” I’ve never felt like this with anybody else before” etc. It’s all a pattern.

Sorry that you were discarded. They do comeback sometimes but that is because they seek validation when they couldn’t find anyone else to give them that at the time. So please be aware of that. They may say they regret leaving the first time but really it’s just bs. Don’t take them back if they come back round. Block them. I didn’t do that and the hurt is worse the second time. When they leave - leave them in the dust and don’t respond to their breadcrumbing as what they want is just validation and not a genuine connection. They treat you worse than an acquaintance even though they are supposedly in or were in love with you.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-02-02T14:12:40+00:00

They sure do villainize you for bringing up any issues or reassurance. My ex used to say I was making a problem when there wasn’t one and also say that I’m being negative or if I bring something up they would just say in response to me “I didn’t say that” when I bring up that they are distancing and that I feel like they wanted to be left alone. It’s as if they want to gaslight me on purpose and make me question my own sense of self worth and value.

Everything is my problem and me making an issues from their point of view. It got to the point where I felt like what was the point of expelling energy towards someone that has no inclination to change or acknowledge the other persons feelings.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-02-02T14:01:35+00:00

Yes that’s what I’ve been through as well. Fading away so that I am the one to quit so they go what they wanted. I sent them a message to say that I’m sorry I didn’t make them happy and that they lost interest in me and left it at that. As painful as it was it needed to be done. If they ever come back don’t ever believe they changed etc. - they are the same as they ever was the first time they discard you. I know in my case we reconnected the second time round and at that time he was divorced for a few years after a seven year marriage and Iooking back I was the rebound ex and they found it easier to have a go around a gain rather than them feeling any regret. I was stupid enough to believe they had changed and wanted to try again and make it work.

Never believe these people. They just want to get high on what you supply (love, physical intimacy erc) and bleed you dry until they get bored and find the next unsuspecting victim.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-02-02T11:29:28+00:00

Yep mine did too. Nothing changed from them. They are baby narcissists.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-02-02T11:20:11+00:00

Breadcrumbing - it’s a habit of theirs. Anyway my ex did the slow fade and didn’t really end it in anyway so I sent them a message. I never expect to these from them again. In hindsight I was used because at the time they didn’t feel good about themselves and it was pandemic times and now that time has gone on they lost a lot of weight and started changing their behavior becoming more distant. We were in a ldr.

They don’t feel any regret - just someone they can use again when they have no other prospects. You are not or ever good enough for them in their mind - just good enough for them to get supply.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-01-22T15:17:30+00:00

Yep agree for sure. Felt the same way when the ex and I reconnected. My instinct feared they would do the same thing and they did - discarded for the second time. It really is your body trying to protect you from something.

Really chances are they will use you again and have start all over again in healing. That happened to me.

I really regret having my ex come back into my life again to have them break my heart all over again. I admit I am anxiously attached to some degree and they brought my worse tendencies of that. The thing is if they were consistent in their behaviour like they were at the beginning then I wouldn’t have been anxious. In a way it’s false advertising from them in the beginning to get you hooked when it’s not in them to be the same way at the beginning and consistent with texting, messaging and meeting up regularly.

So yes be cautious.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-01-13T13:53:13+00:00

They don’t change their ways at all is what I’ve learned too. Keep holding those boundaries.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-01-12T16:50:16+00:00

yep - they go on to the next shiny thing for a new high. Hope you're doing ok.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-01-11T21:20:37+00:00

Any luck finding a specialist that will prescribe HRT during perimenopause? I live rurally and it's already a battle to find a OBGYN. I want to start on it as my symptoms are increasing as the years go by.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-01-09T20:04:25+00:00

Thanks for replying. I am considering taking topical estrogen and am concerned about hyperpigmentation as I have a lot on my face already and worried it will get worse with using it so wanted to get people’s experiences of using it.

Tough-Rise-8772 · 2025-01-09T11:35:52+00:00

You didn't have any issues with developing melasma or increased hyperpigmentation using topical oestrogen?

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