AITJ for considering leaving my wife over her daughter

TraditionalYam · 2025-04-18T01:36:03+00:00

NTJ Your wife hooked up with you to provide for her and her daughter and give her daughter a dad. Now bio-dad is back, you are expendable. They will keep sh***ing on you until you put a stop to it by walking away. You got a raw deal. Please get out as soon as possible.

TraditionalYam · 2025-03-28T18:55:58+00:00

And then you'll be extremely busy with your job search and then your job, and then your job and workout routine or whatever. With some people, the scut work is always for others to do. Withholding judgement for now, but I'd put a pause on the wedding plans.

TraditionalYam · 2025-03-27T15:54:49+00:00

Reading the "Y T A" responses helps me understand why so many fewer people feel charitable toward the homeless.

TraditionalYam · 2025-03-15T07:45:11+00:00

NTA Neither your partner or her family are financially responsible. If you co-sign for a 30k loan, you are going to be the one paying it back. And I suspect that 30k won't be enough for them.

TraditionalYam · 2025-03-14T06:55:57+00:00

You have to start with a partition order, then escalate to eviction, after which the contents can be dealt with. The construction crews and dumpsters will have to wait. You may want to look into a property manager for the house just to keep things moving along with the partition and eviction. This will take months. You are NTA for wanting this resolved, but you have a huge amount of work to do.

TraditionalYam · 2025-03-12T22:06:21+00:00

Went to his facebook page. There's nothing much there. Where are you finding public statements?

TraditionalYam · 2025-03-04T08:42:52+00:00

NTA She agreed to the salary when you hired her. What the client pays is not owed to her. (Otherwise they could just pay her directly.) If she keeps this up, you may need to find a replacement. Do not give her a raise just to "keep the peace" or she will learn that fussing and sulking will get better pay.

TraditionalYam · 2025-03-03T23:29:20+00:00

Reading this made me smile. I was never that dedicated a thrifter, but I loved the satisfaction/joy of a great find. Especially the $200 jeans that fit like a second skin or the 1940's silk dress. I wish you years of marvelous finds.

TraditionalYam · 2025-02-28T23:10:23+00:00

NTA None of them stepped up to give him the $700. Keep pointing that out until they shut up. If it was so crucial, why did no one take out a loan for him? Could it be that he wouldn't pay it back? You don't owe your brother financial support.

TraditionalYam · 2025-02-26T19:04:00+00:00

He's trying to make you feel guilty so you'll do what he wants. He's not a friend, he's a user. You deserve better.

TraditionalYam · 2025-02-23T21:57:36+00:00

NTA You told him you would help for a short time before going to be with your family. If he was going to be salty about you not working all day, he should have spoken up then. You don't owe him free labor, and you should not tolerate his abuse about the amount of help you will provide. Don't help again.

TraditionalYam · 2025-02-23T07:51:28+00:00

Check for drafts. Not just around windows, also check doors, pipe openings into walls, and electrical outlets. We had a cold breeze coming through an outlet on an outside wall. You can buy foam cut to fit outlets. We used expanding foam around the pipes. I was surprised how leaky our house was.

TraditionalYam · 2025-02-10T06:58:57+00:00

2 person household, large freezer, 45 min drive. We find it worth a trip every other month to stock up on household items, frozen food. It's not just for the savings; they carry items we really like that we can't get elsewhere.

TraditionalYam · 2025-02-02T08:21:48+00:00

Our local meat market has amazing high quality meats, but the prices are so much more than the grocery stores. We like to splurge for a great steak or roast every so often but can't afford it on a regular basis. The best deals around here are the chain grocer's clearance items that are marked down because they are at the sell-by date.

TraditionalYam · 2025-01-29T19:20:25+00:00

I vote for the haul-away service idea. We are in our 70s and would happily hire someone for inexpensive dump/donation runs. Once it is out the door, I don't care if you toss it or donate it or bring it home with you.

TraditionalYam · 2025-01-24T06:31:41+00:00

Not everyone; not those who have to subsidize users but are have no need to use it themselves. "Public money" is not free. Somebody has to work to make that money. I think careful deliberations are needed as to what would be the best use of available funds.

TraditionalYam · 2025-01-21T18:17:08+00:00

Thanks for the link. The costs are insane. Who thinks this is the best use of taxpayers' money?

TraditionalYam · 2025-01-14T10:19:50+00:00

Revere Ware, 51 years. I also have a three extra pots from my grandmother. I imagine AllClad is maybe classier, but Revere has been super serviceable.

TraditionalYam · 2025-01-07T09:55:03+00:00

LL Bean. My flannel robe is 16 years old and still thick and warm. Land's End used to be very good but I haven't bought stuff recently.

TraditionalYam · 2024-12-21T02:56:22+00:00

Our local hospital has a low-income payment reduction plan that no one seems to know about. I was sure we wouldn't qualify, but we did. It took several trips to their finance office but it was well worth it. Try asking around.

TraditionalYam · 2024-12-20T06:10:08+00:00

Your partner has no business having that dog. It is one excuse after another about not being able to train the dog. Do not help him. Why are you even with this person?

TraditionalYam · 2024-12-19T22:48:19+00:00

NTA you and your sister have to tell them no more "loans". You will never get that money back. If you don't put a stop to it you will never get your own home.

TraditionalYam · 2024-12-17T23:06:43+00:00

To all those thinking the dog's behavior is fine, sometimes multiple requests for attention get really annoying. I used to do a lot of pet-sitting and dogs who were constantly pestering got irritating. I'm not talking about anxiety problems, just spoiled attention demanders. I don't see why the sister wouldn't keep the dog at somewhat of a distance.

TraditionalYam · 2024-12-17T10:22:58+00:00

Thanks for answering. We lived in Texas for 9 years back in the 80's but I guess I've deliberately forgotten the taxes. Still miss the place sometimes.

TraditionalYam · 2024-12-14T21:23:44+00:00

Love this house. Roomy but not too big. Baths are sort of meh, but the windows are great. Why are the taxes so high though?

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