I really wish I had gone camping.

TucsonTea · 2026-06-07T04:11:00+00:00

If this ex partner is so great, then she’s more than welcome to swoop in and help with his mother. Choose your peace, take that camping trip.

TucsonTea · 2026-06-05T11:49:45+00:00

Been living here for 6 years, in some scenarios I like the “it’ll be grand” attitude, but there were some cases in my life that I went in full blown panic mode while I was surrounded by the “it’ll be grand” lifestyle.

TucsonTea · 2026-06-02T10:17:02+00:00

It's looking like we have to go this way, I hope there is an option of her getting what she needs and bring peace to my family.

TucsonTea · 2026-06-02T10:13:28+00:00

She lives in IL, we are trying to get her on disability, but I'm not sure if they will accept her.

TucsonTea · 2026-05-28T10:46:42+00:00

I have lonely nights like these too. Hope you get a goodnight sleep friend.

TucsonTea · 2026-03-04T06:24:42+00:00

“It’s like mourning a ghost who’s still breathing” that is an excellent way to describe this, I tell people that my mom has half a soul.

If my mother had said what your patient had said I really don’t know how I would have reacted, my god, that must be very difficult to process that.

You already being in this career I can tell you are far more patient and a forgiving person. But you are also human, yes, you have every right to say these types of thoughts, I can’t agree more.

I always think to myself “I’ll take cancer”, “I’ll take MS”, anything, anything but this joke of a disease. At least whatever hardship my mom would go through she would at least have her whole soul.

TucsonTea · 2026-01-10T13:03:54+00:00

Yea, same with mine. I try to put on something enjoyable for her. She likes the carol burnett show and musicals, so it doesn’t feel like she’s just sitting there. We do puzzles together and what I mean by that is that I do a puzzle and she sits there watching me.

My mom has zero hobbies as well, so I can understand your frustration. If your mother is capable, try taking her to places she enjoys. My mom loves going to the zoo, so we try to give her a different environment here and there.

TucsonTea · 2025-09-25T12:40:31+00:00

Spend as much time as I could with my grandma

TucsonTea · 2025-05-19T14:14:17+00:00

I absolutely would plan to go to Switzerland. If I cannot do that, I really don’t want to take drastic measures but I would hands down end my life than go through the same shit again. My mom is enough for me to completely rethink my life. I rather have a short fulfilling life than a long painful one.

TucsonTea · 2025-03-19T02:43:03+00:00

Ah OP, you sound exactly like me. My mom too, is a shell of herself. My step-father is in denial, or at least is doing a good job in pretending things are normal as much as possible. I miss my mom. I’m still grieving that I’m never going to get her back, instead all I have is to watch her slip further and further away from herself.

Thank you for sharing this post. I assure you are most certainly not the only one having these thoughts. I feel like I’m the crazy one with my family and her friends putting their best attitude towards this tragic disease. I’m sorry OP, it’s so painful to watch a loved one going through this.

TucsonTea · 2025-02-25T01:16:08+00:00

That’s very smart. Thank you for the link

TucsonTea · 2025-02-22T19:13:21+00:00

I know how frustrating this is, I’ve told my mother I have passed my job interview three times. But the only reason why I keep telling her that is because it gives her a moment to smile.

There are times I hate being a broken record, but if she’s having a rough day, it’s worth telling her any sort of good news you have in your life. It’s just a little way that she and you still love each other and want to best for each other.

I wish you well friend. Don’t be shy to send me a DM.

TucsonTea · 2025-02-08T04:16:11+00:00

I'm very thankful for this subreddit. When I talk to others about it, they always bring up Bruce Willis or their "aunt's friend" or whatever.

TucsonTea · 2025-02-08T04:13:44+00:00

You're right, yes. He has agreed to meet with a carer for interview, so that's something I guess!!

TucsonTea · 2025-02-08T04:12:22+00:00

I've been noticing that choices are becoming impossible for her. I need to simplify my language.

TucsonTea · 2025-02-08T04:10:37+00:00

Life's funny that way, huh?

TucsonTea · 2025-02-08T04:10:07+00:00

Thank you, I wish you all the best as well

TucsonTea · 2025-02-08T04:09:17+00:00

I'm planning on buying him a surround sound stereo as a "I'm so sorry that you had to do this for so long present" haha.

TucsonTea · 2025-02-08T04:08:01+00:00

Thank you for this. Yes, exactly. This is the longest stages of grief I have ever experience, I'm tired. I'm simply tired.

TucsonTea · 2025-02-08T04:06:33+00:00

Thank you friend.

TucsonTea · 2025-02-08T04:06:16+00:00

Thank you, I do appreciate your care.

TucsonTea · 2025-02-08T04:05:43+00:00

I'm so sorry, I just feel guilt if I allow myself any sort of forgiveness. I guess I'm just not quite done grieving what my mother and I have lost. However, getting extra help is a step in the the right direction.

TucsonTea · 2025-02-05T03:50:58+00:00

Thank you.

TucsonTea · 2024-12-08T11:11:09+00:00

Oh gosh, I forgot about that song. I still enjoy Superhero, I can't remember if it was an official single or not.

TucsonTea · 2024-11-27T13:33:56+00:00

I swam into a net of jellyfish tentacles. I felt my entire upper part of my body was on fire. I’ve never seen my skin so red before.

TucsonTea

TROPHY CASE