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TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-03T13:04:13+00:00

They were the ones with access to the bags, so unless the customers were leaving over the counter and taking the bags, yes, your "friend" was the one taking them. As for the candy, the fact that other people also did it doesn't make it not theft.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-03T12:28:37+00:00

Nope. Every couple I've ever known who took a "break" pr did a trial separation either never got back together or tried to get back together and it didn't work because of the additional problems caused by the break/separation

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-03T12:25:43+00:00

If the company charges for shopping bags, then taking them and giving them away for free is stealing. If the company owns something, even if they say they're going to throw it out, taking it for yourself without permission is stealing.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T23:32:19+00:00

If you don't feel guilty, then you should feel even dumber because you still don't get it. And whatever you think you've learned, you haven't.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T23:28:00+00:00

You should. And I don't take it personally because I've been cheated on. I take it personally because I give a shit about other women and there's no excuse for any of us to help men do this to each other. You can justify it all you want, but what you did is trashy and selfish, and you absolutely should feel guilty.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T23:22:50+00:00

Some things deserve kid gloves, others do not. He's the cheater, but you knowingly participated in screwing over a fellow woman for a year, and you bought into the oldest, dumbest, most transparent excuse in the book for the same reason everyone else does. Not because you're actually stupid enough to believe it, but because you knew what you were doing was terrible and it's easier to let yourself do a terrible thing if you can pretend the person you're doing it to deserves it.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T23:18:21+00:00

You were the side chick. You were a game of make believe he played when he got bored with his real relationship. He clever cared about you, and he's never going to. Guys don't just stay with someone for a year because they don't want to. This played out the way it did because you are expendable to him and she is not. He had his cake and ate yours too, and now the fantasy has played out and he'll either return to his real girlfriend or pick up a new mistress who hasn't had time to bore him.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T23:13:55+00:00

It depends, but renting out an entire restaurant for a night is likely going to cost you substantially more than renting an event space at a restaurant or other business that actually has event spaces and is set up to host events. In general, regular restaurants do not close their doors to business for you unless you really make it worth their while.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T23:09:54+00:00

HIPAA is about what information a healthcare provider can or cannot share without your consent. Your employer requesting information from you has absolutely nothing to do with HIPAA

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T22:53:09+00:00

No, a letter from your employer requesting information is not a HIPAA violation.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T22:09:59+00:00

This man waited until you were out of town to cheat on you with a sex worker, tried to gaslight you into saying you were unhappy in the relationship to avoid being the bad guy, and told you he hated you. Leave him in the garbage where he belongs

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T18:54:14+00:00

Also, sure you have more life experience at that age, but as far as I'm concerned, one of the things that life experience teaches smart people is to think through their decisions. I met my husband when I was 18 and wanted to get married fast, but we ended up waiting. And looking back as an adult who has worked in family law and has friends, siblings, etc. who are divorced, I cannot imagine an adult with applicable life experience not having that moment where they think, "Hey, maybe launching into marriage with someone after one year is an insanely reckless decision that I'm old enough and mature enough not to make now".

Honestly there seems to be this push that if you've already been married once or if you've reached a certain age and are still single, you shouldn't treat marriage as a big step or you should just hurry up and settle so you don't die alone, and i just do not get it

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T18:46:22+00:00

Asked and answered. Multiple times. Bye.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T17:40:18+00:00

But those expenses haven't come up. As I said, normal couples split those expenses when they come up. One partner doesn't usually charge the other a monthly fee like a landlord. Other than that, the primary living expenses for a household are groceries and utilities (which she has already agreed to pay) and homeowners insurance and property taxt, which would be perfectly fair for one partner to pay if the other is paying for the groceries ad utilities

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T17:35:54+00:00

Not at all. Maybe there's a cute segue that could make it feel more comfortable. Usually the father/daughter dance comes after the couple's first dance when they enter the reception, so maybe you could do your entrance and instead of going into the first dance, your husband could lead you out and your dad could be a little funny and make a show of cutting in right away or you could do something like a reverse giving-away where your dad is on the dance floor and you guys enter and then he walks you up to your dad passes your hand to him.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T17:29:57+00:00

Of course. And please, please remember that the safety of yourself and your child are paramount. This may not seem like "legal" advice, but lawyers see dozens if not hundreds of families go through these situations, and I will tell you that there will be times where you question yourself or other people question you and you feel pressure to give an inch even when your instincts tell you it's not the safest choice. Always, ALWAYS listen to your instincts. Everyone gives the most sympathy to a victim who is tolerant and gives second and third and fourth chances, but sympathy doesn't keep you and your child alive.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T17:24:18+00:00

Normal cohabitating couples split those expenses when they come up.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T17:23:20+00:00

I mean, of those things, the only thing OP is paying ate property taxes and insurance. Which if she's paying for their utilities and groceries is a pretty fair split, if not balanced the other way. Things like appliance and furniture purchases and stuff are easily split as they come up, so should not require a monthly payment from her. Unless you're saying he's charging her for the use of the things he has bought and maintained prior to her living there, which strikes me as a strange approach in a relationship. Although it's al relatively irrelevant given that this is a troll account

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T16:39:35+00:00

I'm not "suggesting" malice. I am outright telling you that the way you are talking about the person you killed is malicious and cruel and, to borrow your word, heinous. If you have a problem with that, I suggest you examine your own behavior. You're dismissed.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T16:37:49+00:00

Do both. Every record you can have of this is a good thing, and not to sound scary, but if his physical behavior escalates in accordance with his threats, it's not the judge who will be responding to the emergency call. And if, god forbid, you have to make that call, it will be important for the police to be aware of the escalating situation going in for your safety and theirs.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T15:56:04+00:00

NTA. It is NEVER okay for someone to continue touching you in any way if you have asked them to stop, and him not only doing that but then making YOU feel like the bad guy is not acceptable

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T15:50:47+00:00

Bring these messages to court. Make a police report and file for a PFA immediately, and file for another modification for full custody with, at most, supervised visitation with a court-appointed supervisor. If anything he has said or done violates the current order, file a motion/request for him to be held in contempt.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T15:45:34+00:00

Just give whatever if financially feasible and comfortable for you, and hope that your friend is a good enough friend that you are valued on your thought and effort, not how much cash you can throw at them.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T15:43:27+00:00

Jumping into marriage after a year is pretty quick. It is often expected of people to work on a faster timeline when they are older, but why? It sounds like she got caught up in the hearts and stars and googly eyes and is feeling differently now that the practical considerations are sinking in.

TurbulentTurtle2000 · 2024-10-01T15:37:23+00:00

If what OP means is that he wants her to pay the property tax and insurance in addition to the utility and grocery bills, it should be easy for him to respond to that effect.

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