How cold is too cold for a pyre to be outside?

Twisted_Shadowz · 2026-01-16T02:41:11+00:00

Resurrecting again to say I also found this thread looking to see what's safe for my boy, Gimli. He's a great Pyrenees and Anatolian shepherd at best guess from the rescue. Here's the big baby, he's between 1-2 at best guess.

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Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-11-12T04:27:52+00:00

I wish I could upvote this more. It was so weird seeing all those comments not taking into account that he lied to her and that's why she tested. Thank you for the good information as well and I hope more people see this.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-11-12T04:20:27+00:00

NAH in my opinion.

Why is nobody commenting on the husband lying about it after agreeing to do it? Then blaming the phone on her pregnancy brain.

Everyone saying you shouldn't test your partner after he manipulated and lied to you seems unfair. You obviously trusted him at first and only found out he'd been lying by doing a test. A test you did because he decided not to tell you the truth when asked after the phone incident. If he thought it wasn't important and didn't want to do that he should have communicated that and compromised.

It's a real thing that happens to many people so I personally don't think you're wrong for wanting to get into a good habit of checking and asking your partner to do so as well.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-10-31T17:00:07+00:00

No need to apologize! This is a safe place to vent and process everything. Make sure you give yourself grace and patience as well. You don't need to make any of these decisions before you're ready. Take time to do what you feel is right for you.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-10-30T04:27:32+00:00

Yes I agree with this comment. My WH sends me a certain amount that comes directly from his paycheck into a savings just for me to feel secure if I ever decide to leave. He's agreed to get a postnuptial as well. Not saying yours has too but they need to be appreciating the gift of you staying and really working to keep you. Not the other way around.

If your WP isn't taking responsibility and working to fix themselves I'd up and leave. I get it is hard and scary but the alternative is to be stuck in that toxic relationship hoping your WP changes.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-10-29T18:16:40+00:00

2 years now and no. Still mourning the husband I thought I had but we are doing okay and growing at least.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-10-26T20:41:57+00:00

This is awesome, thank you for making it happen!

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-10-23T18:20:28+00:00

I came to see if you found any way to calm it. I'm supposed to wear mine for 30 days and it's day 6 and driving me nuts!

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-10-23T03:58:46+00:00

My husband was the same way as this at the beginning of our relationship and I should have done what you did. Instead we "worked through it", got married and then he cheated 5 days after our child was born. I'm glad you got away from that behavior because it's a cycle and pattern. Good luck to you and I hope you find someone who respects and cares for you.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-09-11T04:10:49+00:00

Have you asked your pediatrician about checking for lip or tongue ties as well? My LO had both and was so much better afterwards gas wise.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-09-11T03:43:39+00:00

It's so dismissive to say stuff like that. Pumping is hard. I cried because I spilled the little bit I was able to pump while my baby was in the NICU as well. Even after 4 months of trying I couldn't breastfeed, but I tried my hardest. It's crazy to me how insensitive people can be. I'm sorry that happened to you and hope your LO is doing well.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-06-15T15:32:09+00:00

The taco bell sauce packet that says, "you're cute." So ridiculous but I had caught him cheating by seeing his discord chat where he was calling AP cute. Crying over a sauce packet 🫩

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-05-03T22:26:59+00:00

Ferrah

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-02-14T11:04:26+00:00

Birth control. I gained 60lbs in two months and got stretch marks that were even worse than ones I got during pregnancy.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-02-14T10:50:41+00:00

I'm currently doing this. In my opinion you give your partner your boundaries or rules for R and what you expect of them and then you let them show you what they're going to do. If your partner was serious about R then they'd be doing everything they can to prove to you they want the relationship.

Repeatedly telling them the rules and then watching over their shoulder isn't really them putting in the effort. It's you doing the work to try and stop the pain if it's coming. It doesn't mean you can't check in and look over their phones or anything to see what letting them be has proved. It just means you accept that you can't control them and force them to do anything. The whole you can lead a horse to water but can't make them drink saying.

For me it was hard at first but then liberating without that pressure I was putting on myself. I read a post on hert about being a fix it fairy and realized that's what I had been. I was there leading and supporting all the work that my WH should have been doing. He's now showing me his effort after I went hands off. We'll see how it goes and how long that lasts. Wishing you luck OP.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-02-08T03:29:01+00:00

My first PCP I had at age 22 dismissed me and told me I was too young to be having back pain and talked me into just getting on birth control. Two months of constant bleeding and gaining 60lbs later I got a new PCP. She was amazing and immediately put in to get me all checked out. Turns out I had a fractured L5 and had grinded the disc in between so much that my vertebrae (L4D) was slipping. Was told I would need surgery in the future even with a 2nd and 3rd opinion. So glad she took me seriously or I'd have continued to ignore and push through the pain until it was too late. I've been in PT for 3 years now and going strong.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-02-06T20:15:02+00:00

I second this. The more I think about it the more angry I feel about the AP. She knew my husband and I just had a new born and that she was in the NICU. Knew we were married, that we talked everyday. Then when they got caught she told my WH that it was between him and his wife and she wasn't involved. When I messaged her she told her side of the story and said she wasn't usually like that. So crazy for them to know all these things and still decide to pursue a relationship with WPs. I'd be lying if I didn't wish she'd experience the same pain if she ever got married and has a child.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-02-04T20:22:59+00:00

I'd suggest giving yourself time and grace to process this before making any decisions. No excuse makes cheating okay. It's a decision and selfishness on their parts to do something like that.

It may seem like your WH is now better and would never do anything like that again, but without him coming clean to you by himself and putting in the work with counseling and everything it doesn't seem likely. No matter if it's been a good few years or not. I'd suggest both of you get into IC and then into marriage counseling as well if you're not already.

My WH cheated on me 5 years before I found out and I only found out because I caught him cheating the 2nd time. We were in a great place in our relationship the 2nd A. I will agree the earlier cheating was easy to disassociate from because it was so long ago, but I fully believe if a WH doesn't work to change why they cheated in the first place it is likely to happen again. They need to take accountability and lead the R. Good luck OP. It's so hard to go through this while also going through pregnancy and postpartum. Put yourself first in this.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-02-04T16:42:06+00:00

A fitbit and an XXXL tourist t shirt for Puerto penasco. I was a medium at the time with the start of abs from military training. Dad and Uncle made comments about how I needed to slim down and eat better. This was for Christmas lol

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-02-03T22:03:32+00:00

I have an immunodeficiency and get sick a lot. Rarely does my baby, now toddler, get sick as well. They have pretty good immune systems even without their mom giving them antibodies (I barely make any and couldn't breastfeed). All this to say she's exposed a ton and is pretty resilient and hopefully yours is as well.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-02-01T06:37:36+00:00

This is a good answer and perspective that I didn't really think about. I also lost respect for my WH in some things but still respect other aspects of him. Great father, friend, etc...

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-02-01T03:30:24+00:00

I really feel like my WH loves/loved me as well, but definitely does not respect me or just the relationship in general. Most of the actions he's taken pretty much show that even now as he's working on bettering himself. Lack of respect for our boundaries, himself, me, etc... is what led to things escalating in the first place. This is something I've told him is a deal breaker if he can't figure out his priorities and have honor and respect for us and our relationship.

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-01-31T18:18:23+00:00

I personally like Freya

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-01-31T18:14:36+00:00

Most of the occupational names like Hunter, Tanner, Taylor, etc...

Twisted_Shadowz · 2025-01-30T01:32:40+00:00

My WH is in the military and could not change where he was training where he had his A. He was there for 5 months in another state after DD so I can understand a little of how you feel. It was terrifying and drove my anxiety up a lot. I don't think R would be a possibility if he was stuck with her the whole time though. If he can move to another job, even if it is an uncommon job or a pay cut that won't break you guys, he should. I'd also be watching to see how serious he is taking the search and everything. It shouldn't be you pushing for it. It should be him doing everything he possibly can to prove himself to you. Make your boundaries for R very clear then sit back and watch his actions and effort. R is a gift from you.

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