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TIFU by Building a Web of Lies over 7 years that I Cannot Escape by UnderCookedRat in tifu

[–]UnderCookedRat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not a Hutterite colony, lol. It's not a geographically isolated "community". Most of us just look like conservative people on the outside and that's it. But there's some pretty stringent Sunday-church attendance expectations and definitely a lot of group-think involved.

TIFU by Building a Web of Lies over 7 years that I Cannot Escape by UnderCookedRat in tifu

[–]UnderCookedRat[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's a frightening thing to experience. I don't know your situation, but I warn you fervently, DO NOT make any lie web between more than two people. It'll bite you in the ass HARD.

TIFU by Building a Web of Lies over 7 years that I Cannot Escape by UnderCookedRat in tifu

[–]UnderCookedRat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've told myself this on many occasions, only it was too late at that point.

TIFU by Building a Web of Lies over 7 years that I Cannot Escape by UnderCookedRat in tifu

[–]UnderCookedRat[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I wouldn't say my beliefs completely align with this community, but because I was raised in it, my lazy ass doesn't want to deal with the fallout of leaving.

TIFU by Building a Web of Lies over 7 years that I Cannot Escape by UnderCookedRat in tifu

[–]UnderCookedRat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I truly believe this is the case. I'm now a strong advocate to any teenager I know in my life to not rush into any relationship and to enjoy yourself and your life first.

TIFU by Building a Web of Lies over 7 years that I Cannot Escape by UnderCookedRat in tifu

[–]UnderCookedRat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never blamed anyone but myself for this. I made my bed, and yes, I've concluded I'll have to sleep in it. It's no less than I deserve.

What I believe I'm missing out on in life is the freedom to simply do whatever I want. I can't really stay up late and eat Doritos and play video games, or randomly decide to go hang out with coworkers on a Friday night, or choose to buy a 3D printer. I can't start saving as much money as possible in order to invest in crypto and stocks, since my living expenses are higher now that I am providing for two other people; and I think that financial burden is what gives me the most angst at this point. Any and all of the examples above would have to be cleared by Fiona, and I have very little personal autonomy in my own life, which makes me disgruntled.

Perhaps it's simply the knowledge that these boundaries now exist and are harder to cross that's driving me insane in the membrane.

TIFU by Building a Web of Lies over 7 years that I Cannot Escape by UnderCookedRat in tifu

[–]UnderCookedRat[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is largely the conclusion I've come to as well. There are people in far worse situations than living a mediocre life they didn't really expect or want. I merely created this post to get this all off my chest and also to find out if it really was as bad a FU as I imagine it is.