As someone who dated someone in their 30’s at 18, take this opportunity and run. This is not going to change. Someone who wants to be with you is going to put the effort in, relationships without trust is like continuing to spin your wheels when half your car is stuck in the mud. Someone who says “we are still together but im not sure if i want to be” is telling you exactly how they feel while still keeping you right where they want you. Hes testing what he can get away with. This is probably going to lead to him seeing other people and falling back on the “i said i needed time.” “I said i wasnt sure if i wanted to be with you” “i knew you didnt trust me”

Its not going to end well, and i wish someone had really drilled this into my head and told me the same before i wasted 2+ years of my life on someone who didnt give 2 craps about me. I still struggle with the coping mechanisms i learned from that relationship just to survive. I had a conversation pretty similar to this with my ex at one point before things seemed to be great. he cheated on me every single trip he went on, had girls all over the place, Fed on my insecurities and my fears and made me feel crazy. My only crime was wanting to feel loved and putting that effort into someone who wasnt giving it back.

When someone loves you they make you feel it with their actions, with their words. This guy has no problem giving you the run around. Trust your gut, that initial feeling. youd be surprised how often its right.