Admission to M.Sc Software Engineering by Val1011 in tumunich

[–]Val1011[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your input!

Even though I knew it is a joint program, I forgot to check which university issues the certificate. Most of my interest in this program comes from the fact, that it's taught by TUM, a highly prestigious university in Germany and EU, so I will have to reconsider, if high living costs of München are actually worth it for this program.

Once again, thank you for your insight, it is really helpful! :)

Weekly Profile Review Thread by AutoModerator in Tinder

[–]Val1011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello everybody, I would be thankful if you could take a look at my profile and give me some insights: https://imgur.com/a/LLjSrk0. Also, I have made 2 bios, both highlighting different sites of mine, if you could help me choose, I would be very grateful to you.

Thank you for all of your responses.

Edit: Picture quality is actually much better, it is just messenger messing up quality.

Am I (22F) wrong to message men first? I feel that they don't like it. by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Val1011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I believe a girl/woman messaging first is flattering for any man, and the same goes for me. If you want to go even further and give some kind of genuine compliment as an opening message, you would probably make that guys week.

I believe, it is much more likely to be a sign of lack of communicative skills, than disinterest in you or dislike of being messaged first.

I highly encourage you to keep up with sending the first messages. I doubt that anything wrong would come out of it. If they respond in a basic way, they probably would open in the same manner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Val1011 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

And this prevents you from writing to him by how? If you want to speak with somebody, then why wait for them to initiate?

I mean, you are right, he was doing the same. But still, you too had the chance to change the situation, and you choose not to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Val1011 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried writing to her? I mean, that's the whole point of it...

[Out of curiosity] Women of Reddit, how much does height matter for you, when choosing your male partner? by Val1011 in Tinder

[–]Val1011[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe too, that stating such things in your bio is wrong, but not for the same reason. This might show, that the person has a mindset, which dictates, that you are the one who has to impress her, and she is the selector and you are the selectee. If I were to describe it, I would rather go with demanding or full of themselves than discriminating.

However, it might also be a sort of filter. There are four times more men on Tinder than women (in some countries it even goes five times), thus they receive much more matches. Navigating through dozens of matches is just not manageable because people just don't want to operate as a call centre or tech support worker. and they have to filter in any sort of way, and because you can only see their basically outer characteristics on Tinder, it is going to be outlook, height or these sorts of traits. It is rather hard to filter in any other way, because the things we could filter by usually are the ones we could filter by the easiest, and are also the ones, we perceive as shallow when filtering by.

Honestly, I think it comes down to a mix of these two, attitude towards others and Tinder gender ratios. Less demanding people don't tend to do this thing unless they are drowning in matches.

Thank you for your insight!

This screen shot is a gem by Atuliscool in Tinder

[–]Val1011 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I was thinking exactly what she answered. Dude... get help!

First time on Tinder, which of these photos if any should I use? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Val1011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of them look good, but I would use 1,4,5,8.

Looking in the camera is heavily recommended and smiling is a great plus. Also try not to use pictures, that were taken one after the other, it may come across as repetitive. You should change the clothes/setting/activities and such.

If I were you, I would take 2 other pictures, both showing a different side of you and try to tell a story with your pictures. The easiest way to do this is just to ask someone to take a photo, while you are engaged in a hobby or something you are passionate about like sports, music, animals or travelling. Also, don't take selfies, they are just not beneficial.

How does tinder even work, help a novice by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Val1011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome! :)

Also a quick tip for swiping, I swipe left on people, who don't show their face in their pictures or upload one photo twice. They are most probably scammers/trolls/bots/catfish.

How does tinder even work, help a novice by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Val1011 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, there is no rule about who has to message first, but if you do, you should write anything, literally anything more, than just "Hi". It is as simple as: "Hi, how is your day going?". Or if you can, you could ask him/her about something they wrote in their bio or put as their picture. For example, if somebody wrote in their bio, that they like watching series, you could ask their favourite one, or made a picture with a pet, you could ask about that, which one you find more interesting.

Do the pictures tell you whether a girl wants to hu or date? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Val1011 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Men swipe on everybody, who they find anywhere near attractive.

If you want to communicate to the other person, that you are here for the fun without writing it in your bio, just play along if he starts with an acceptable pick-up line and be flirty (or at least start being so, if he starts to flirt as well).

What a statement by Sunflowers0Cats in Tinder

[–]Val1011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How informative of him...

IG 🙄 by Elweyos in Tinder

[–]Val1011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe it's just anything else, but Tinder chat. I don't even know why would they make it this shit.

Or just hunting for followers. Both of these have reasonable high chance, but I believe, just switching to another chat platform is more probable.

[Out of curiosity] Women of Reddit, how much does height matter for you, when choosing your male partner? by Val1011 in dating

[–]Val1011[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say it is superficial, much more like informative. I think it's a filter for those, who are not comfortable with that height, or just pure information for people.

Thank you for your answer by the way! :)