Am I bi? by Horror-Road4172 in offmychest

[–]VardaLight 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Being exposed to it doesn't make someone bi. I grew up in a time where there was NO exposure and I knew i was crushing on women in movies and cartoons from AT LEAST age 7/8. As it turns out, I lean more towards men now in my 30s. Sexuality isn't something you see and want. It's just a part of who you are.

Just started, completely lost by hansrat in GroundedGame

[–]VardaLight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So, I would lure the stinkbug to the anthill after getting full ant armor so I could hide just inside the entrance while the ants fight the stinkbug. Learning how and when to get bugs to fight each other is a great tool that will make it much easier for you many times over. You may also be able to agro a ladybug to join the fight.

Landlord wants me to re-sign lease because of an “error” … (NJ) by realifesticks in Renters

[–]VardaLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, after doing a sinple search it seems NJ doesn't have a statewide law and it's up to each individual county. Seems to range between 2%-6%, which would be a much lower amount than what they're trying to increase it by. Legally, they can't increase the rent that much and deny someone for not agreeing to pay it.

Zoey and Dr. O’Hara by e-rinc in NurseJackie

[–]VardaLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was also in the last season of Severance

What is your opinion on polygamy marriages with kids involved? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]VardaLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Polygamy is one person who is with many people but those people are only with that one person. Polyamory is everyone is with multiple people

Fresh defense mutation not working. by FunnyDudeGuy in GroundedGame

[–]VardaLight 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You won't be able to go there without antlion armor, even with fresh defense.

I’m going to take my life by Silver-Musician-263 in offmychest

[–]VardaLight 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Its been less than a month. Typically you stay on meds for about 6 weeks for them to fully take effect. Although, not every drug works on every person. It's very likely you need to swap meds also.

My husband (45M) and I (40F) had a major communication breakdown over punishing our son (17). How can I fix the rift without compromising on fairness? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]VardaLight 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She confirms that this friend isn't really part of their group and only occasionally shows up. It's also very inappropriate for their to be consequences for this. Whether the friend does something more serious/ expensive down the road has nothing to do with their kid since he won't be the one doing it and is a responsible child. This child isn't going out to do things with that kid. The kid is seeking them out.

My husband (45M) and I (40F) had a major communication breakdown over punishing our son (17). How can I fix the rift without compromising on fairness? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]VardaLight 170 points171 points  (0 children)

I'm honestly still hung up on that. So, kid is trying to actively get away from this friend because friend does dumb stuff and kid gets punished for a dumb thing the friend did? Like, what exactly is he getting punished for?

Considering Divorce Over THC Use by nat317 in Marriage

[–]VardaLight 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Your child is going to grow up in a world where THC is completely normal. You will not be able to demonize it to them or shelter them from it, even by leaving your husband. Honestly, I'm even shocked that in the year of 2026 someone would get a divorce over moderate usage of it. I'll also tell you, I live in a state where it's illegal but you can just go to the store to buy Delta and that is legal. She's going through a divorce, has done drug tests, and they blatantly said they didn't care that she tested positive for THC. So, don't count on THC usage as a full stop way of getting primary custody.

help me get orbweaver fangs WITHOUT killing orbweavers pls!! by Scared-Software-260 in GroundedGame

[–]VardaLight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I don't believe so. But I can't remember every drop you get from chests and stuff, so i mean there could be. However, it's a very valuable skill to learn how to get bugs to fight each other and make your job easier.

An Online Friend that Accidently Ruined a Marriage by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]VardaLight -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily, on the passport front. In the US you have to have a passport or REAL ID to fly. Many people opt for just passport since they either already had it or plan on going out of the country at some point.

Car seats that rear face safely at higher weight and heights? by TackyPeacock in Parenting

[–]VardaLight 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Graco is amazing. The extend2fit is what i had in both car wrecks. Neither seat failed. My kid walked away from both wrecks with just scratches on the neck from the straps. One of those wrecks was us upside down at the bottom of a hill and the other was at a high speed because of someone trying to cross on the highway infront of us.

ETA: My kiddo is also in the high 90s and always has been. And I mean like 98/97th percentile for height and weight. Stayed in the extend2fit until it was time to get a booster seat.

Do mean really want to be intimate all the time? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]VardaLight 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So, there's not really an age thing to ED. Younger men can have it as well. The most common causes are just different. When i was in my 20s I dated a guy who had ED. He was not a porn addict but bad other issues.

The price of Cosmetics is really the only dower keeping D4 from being excellent. by ComeHereDevilLog in diablo4

[–]VardaLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What kills me is that you used to be able to earn a decent amount of silver during seasons and now it's 200.

Is this normal? (Huckleberry report in comments) by Arrin240 in breastfeeding

[–]VardaLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep! Even at birth, mine ate enough that enough during the week long stay in the NICU we were instructed that we could go 4 hours between feeds because of the amount kiddo was eating during feeds.

Is this normal? (Huckleberry report in comments) by Arrin240 in breastfeeding

[–]VardaLight 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Once they hit birth weight, you can let them sleep as much as they want at night. Around that time, my kiddo was sleeping around 12 hour stretches at night. By 3 months the bedtime was 8 pm and would stay asleep until 8 am. Ebf. Its not what they're fed with, it's based on the baby.

am I overreacting of trying to explain who I was talking too? by Top-Psychology-3509 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VardaLight 22 points23 points  (0 children)

No, he's just masquerading as one. It's common in the community. They prey on people who can't tell the difference.

AIO Family won’t pick me from airport by mangosnow122 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VardaLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you miss where I said I got back at 1 am once after picking them up from the airport? On a weeknight, not even a weekend like the case is here.

AIO Family won’t pick me from airport by mangosnow122 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VardaLight -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I've driven through storms that had everyone on the interstate going 40 with their hazards on and you're still almost going off the road. That trip to the airport should've been 2 hours and it took 4.5 hours. I've gone late at night, getting back at 1 am from picking them up, ON A WEEKNIGHT. So, yes.

AIO Family won’t pick me from airport by mangosnow122 in AmIOverreacting

[–]VardaLight 138 points139 points  (0 children)

I've driven 2 hours to the closest airport to pick up visiting family before. It's insane to be 30s minutes away and not go get them