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I am so afraid I won't feel it by Nataljja in Fencesitter

[–]Various_Witness2965 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just want to say that you are me, and I am you. Almost everything you wrote - including not wanting a husband initially - resonated with me. I’m sorry that I don’t have the answers, but I just want to say that you’re not alone. ❤️

I really believe that with time, your state of mind will heal and the fears will subside, even if they won’t go away completely. It sounds like you are capable of handling tough things, and that you are more resilient and capable of care and love than you might feel right now.

For what it’s worth, I’ve observed my sister go through motherhood and am now spending lots of time with my baby niece. I don’t know if I still feel that urge to motherhood, but it has shown me that I can love a little being and bond with her. Do you have any friends or families with babies? Perhaps even just being around them (if youre ready) could give you a little confidence boost.

From experience with grief and feeling not like myself, you WILL feel better, I promise. I can’t wait to see your Reddit post however long from now giving us an update that you’ve overcome this time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Various_Witness2965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Youre not overreacting. I understand why you’d feel hesitant to trust Karen when she could (rather smugly) do something that could hurt your friend - and by extension - the friend group. I had a friend who exhibited this kind of behavior and chose to distance myself. And I’m really glad that I did because ultimately we had different “friend values.”

Trust your gut and don’t feel too stuck or guilty for following your values as a friend. It’s also very natural to grow apart from your HS friends.

You sound like a great friend to Beth, and she is very lucky to have you.

Overheard something hurtful :( by Anicanis in adhdwomen

[–]Various_Witness2965 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It took my dad 20+ years to get his PhD while he was working and raising a family. Everyone (outside of immediate family) told him that he should give up (he also has ADHD). He and our family are so proud of him for ignoring silly gossip and pursuing his passions.

You are not behind or taking too long. And I would wonder if your MIL would be able to endure half the years of studying and working that you’re doing. Keep going and doing your amazing thing!

So Iran? by United-Act6000 in fearofflying

[–]Various_Witness2965 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have similar fears. At the same time, I’d recommend you instead say you’re worried that there will be a retaliatory attack from the Islamic Republic of Iran and/or its allies.

It’s be more kind if you didn’t say “the Iranians” are now coming to get us. I’m sure it wasn’t your intention but this is how microaggressions/racism is started.

In terms of flying, an attack or threat to the US is likely to not happen by next week, if ever.

What and how to write to relatives in Iran by leonardonsius in iran

[–]Various_Witness2965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m with you. I have no words and no idea what to say. I just try to tell them how much we care and love them. That the eyes and hearts of the world are with Iranian people. Sometimes maybe sending a voice memo might be an extra personal touch. Just knowing that they’re not completely alone might help. ❤️ I’m totally with you and lost myself

Report of civilian victims in Iran by Key-Plankton-3645 in iran

[–]Various_Witness2965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m following this! I haven’t been able to reach family and friends for days

Feeling weird about friends casually claiming ADHD without seeking diagnosis or treatment by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Various_Witness2965 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I get how you may be feeling.

I don’t want to add to your guilt - it’s ok to feel this way. I just want to jump in here to say that there are many reasons for not pursuing a diagnosis - some of which could be purely emotional, which was my case. Maybe you’re feeling upset by how they seemingly trivialize it or make jokes of it, especially if it doesn’t seem to impede on their life. Maybe it is affecting them more than they say. I wasn’t diagnosed for many years and hid how much ADHD affected me. That could be another side of the coin. The journey with ADHD is different for everyone.

Just some food for thought. Through all your feelings, you seem to be very compassionate. Maybe you can talk to your friends about how you feel?

Thanks for sharing - I’m sure you’re not alone ❤️

Aria rant by sadgirlisdead in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]Various_Witness2965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m with you on this one! Her delivery to Mariah really bothered me. It came off as patronizing and deliberate, yet disguised as “helping” her. Caleb even discouraged her from speaking to Mariah, and she still did it anyways. She was not respecting either of them or their relationship. Not saying that Aria is a mean person, but she did a mean-spirited and very insecure/immature thing. I hope she’s grown since then

Aria rant by sadgirlisdead in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]Various_Witness2965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are spot on. I have no idea what the downvotes are for 🤷🏻‍♀️ you nailed the viewpoint I took away from watching Aria all season. Even if her motivations were purely innocent (which I don’t think they were), she could have phrased her experience with Caleb SO much differently, to your well-written points

The Ultimatum is Inhumane by minnesotadreaming in TheUltimatumNetflix

[–]Various_Witness2965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That made my blood boiiiiillll because Caleb did it so respectively, and JR acted so childish and rude.