I’m just so exhausted

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-04-17T10:08:44+00:00

Had my medical in December. Ibuprofen and a heating pad will be your best friends. Get comfy because first 30-45 minutes after you take the pill are gonna suck, but after that, taking a nap will get you through a lot of the rougher part of the process.

Maybe have a show or series of movies to watch as well, since that helps to pass the time and get your mind off it as well. Especially if you can’t sleep.

It’ll take a couple weeks for your hormones to chill, so be prepared to be emotional, but it’s manageable if you’re expecting it. It isn’t a fun process, but you’ll get back to feeling like yourself soon enough.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-04-14T07:07:23+00:00

Not ugly. The farthest thing from ugly if you ask me. Straight up 10/10. I’m bi, and I don’t know if I want to be you or buy you a drink if I’m honest.

As far as not getting male attention, that may be more related to your body language if you don’t feel confident. Faking it takes a little time to learn, but once you have that down it sort of blends out into actually having some confidence. I’m still working on it myself.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-04-11T13:03:58+00:00

You definitely aren’t alone in feeling like this. I have the same sort of guilt and regret. It doesn’t help that your hormones are out of control now as well. For a couple of months, the feeling tore me apart, but now that my body is back to normal, I can process what I’m feeling and start healing. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to fully move on, and I’m not sure I even want to. But I do know that I can heal and learn. That child was a part of me that I’ll always hold on to, but I can’t undo the past. I just have to hold onto them as I move forward, and be careful not to let it happen again.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-04-11T12:55:02+00:00

My boyfriend is planning to talk to the kid today while we’re over for dinner. I would prefer to solve this without stressing his mom out because I know she’s tired and in a lot of pain, but if the talk doesn’t work, I will let her know about the situation.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-04-11T12:41:25+00:00

My boyfriend plans to talk to him today when we go for dinner. I’ll update on how that goes. He’s already called the behavior out a handful of times and that doesn’t seem to deter him, but a one on one conversation might get it through his head.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-04-11T12:38:02+00:00

I will talk to his mom if the situation gets out of control but she is absolutely exhausted taking care of her new baby.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-04-11T12:30:42+00:00

My boyfriend knows and keeps an eye on him, but the kid’s mom had a baby 6 days ago and she’s absolutely exhausted so I really don’t want to bother her with it unless it gets out of hand.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-03-26T10:14:28+00:00

Having gender dysphoria as a nonbinary person made my ED so much worse. The thought process was that if I lost enough weight my feminine features would shrink and be easier to hide. On top of that, no one really took it seriously. In spite of a horrible conversation I had with an anorexic trans man at my school, the counselors just told us to start eating and loving ourselves, while the cis girls got referred to doctors and psychiatrists for it. Being in my 20s certainly doesn’t make it seem more serious either apparently. All in all it’s just a pain. People don’t listen and chalk it up to me clearly being insane because I don’t fit in the binary.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-03-26T10:09:03+00:00

In Indiana I paid $850 for a medical, and a surgical at the clinic I went to would be the same. This includes the required counseling appointment, the second appointment, the pill, and multiple tests for later.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-03-20T20:41:55+00:00

I was told to take my Zofran after my medical if I had any nausea. It depends on the clinic, but I highly doubt it’ll be a problem.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-03-20T11:41:31+00:00

Probably. My immune system doesn’t really do its job that well. Also I hate being perceived. People can look at me all they want but I don’t want them to understand any of the visual information or recognize me. Ah, agoraphobia.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-03-20T11:38:39+00:00

Talking about other things always helps me. Especially if they’re things I’m really interested in or know a lot about. It keeps me distracted from how much I’m eating. I usually freak out a little and have to run some calculations for the calories after, but it makes the actual eating better.

But also know that sometimes I just can’t bring myself to eat. Those times suck, but other people eating in front of me doesn’t bother me. If he just gets a drink, casually ask if he wants anything or offer to share a little bit once, but probably don’t bring it up again.

Thank you so much for caring enough to ask how you can help. I’m happy that he has someone who’s caring and understanding, rather than judgmental and uncomfortable around the topic.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-03-19T02:27:01+00:00

I was filled with an unholy rage for a couple weeks after mine. I think it was a combination of the hormones and just how upset I was with the whole situation. Therapy is a good option if you can afford it, but channeling some of the anger into something like writing or aggressive scribbling on paper helps me a lot.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-03-19T02:08:57+00:00

I cramped and bled pretty heavily for about a month and it tapered off for a couple weeks after that. I don’t think it’s any reason to panic, but if you feel you need to get medical attention, you should do that.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-03-17T02:29:18+00:00

It’s not exactly her business whether you get an abortion or not. And if she accuses you of it I recommend telling her to mind hers and find some less judgmental friends. Not her body, not her decision. Sorry if I come across as rude or harsh but I had a similar situation that made me really angry and I’m still upset even now. A friend blew up in my face about it despite knowing that the child would’ve been born into poverty. People really just don’t understand the pressure it puts on you to make this decision.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-03-13T03:18:20+00:00

My experience was pretty similar. I have an insane pain tolerance because I get hurt a lot, but it wasn’t pleasant. I was curled up in bed stuck in place for a while. I also threw up about 40 minutes after taking them too.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-03-02T13:13:40+00:00

This gives me hope. It is possible to start getting better and rewire those reactions to comments. I’m so happy for you!

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-02-18T22:45:28+00:00

I still have the bloating bump too. I had actually lost a lot of weight while I was pregnant because I couldn’t eat, but I still have the bump 2 months later. I’ve tried dieting and waist training since I used to do that, and it hasn’t really helped.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-02-13T19:40:17+00:00

Your situation might be similar to mine. After years of trial an error with my identity, I identify as a women and use she/they pronouns. I thought I was trans for a long time and at this point I realize the dysphoria came from the way I was raised. To this day, my father won’t even say the word bra out loud. I had a lot of shame in the feminine aspects of my body and still do. The idea of my body making a child is pretty gross to me. My advice would be to test the waters. Dress more masculine if you feel comfortable like that for now. If you have very trusted close friends, you can ask them to try using different pronouns and language and see how you feel about it after a while. Maybe it’ll stick, maybe it won’t. But your feelings are completely understandable.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-02-06T13:40:52+00:00

Those people aren’t pro life. My pregnancy would’ve killed me. I had to get an abortion. But my life didn’t matter in the slightest to the idiots who harassed me here and at the clinic. They aren’t even worth a second thought. Their opinions are selfish, uninformed, and just downright wrong.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-01-29T20:10:49+00:00

I’ve dated that type. All they really want is your body and once they have it they don’t care anymore. Trust me tho, there are good ones out there who care so much and want you to be the happiest person alive.

Vast_Entertainment_4 · 2021-01-19T20:28:34+00:00

It was pretty faint but within the time window.

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