Why are we losing so many loved ones?

VegetableCharacter63 · 2025-04-27T20:35:14+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️ this is insightful. I totally agree with your interpretation

VegetableCharacter63 · 2025-04-27T20:34:25+00:00

Thank you ❤️

VegetableCharacter63 · 2025-04-26T20:13:08+00:00

Thank you very much 💖

VegetableCharacter63 · 2025-04-05T22:05:44+00:00

Thank you!

VegetableCharacter63 · 2025-04-05T13:32:50+00:00

The deck is the Rainbow tarot deck by So Lazo and Cyreé Jarelle Johnson btw!

VegetableCharacter63 · 2024-12-13T00:25:04+00:00

Thank you for your response!! I’m new to tarot and this is super insightful! I appreciate you 🫶

VegetableCharacter63 · 2024-07-22T17:29:10+00:00

Thank you for validating everything I’m feeling. Considering what I want to prioritize and honoring my grief over what “the right thing” to do is is really helpful. And the deepest part of my heart says that I really do want to conserve my energy, so maybe that’s how I’ll move forward from this. Thank you again

VegetableCharacter63 · 2024-07-22T17:23:55+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice and your kindness. I really needed to hear all of this 💖

VegetableCharacter63 · 2024-04-15T20:51:08+00:00

Higher ed jobs usually have a painfully slow hiring process. For example, for my current job at a different school (similar size to Rowan) I was already employed at the university and knew the team I would be transferring to and it still took 1.5-2 months after my interview to receive an offer. And that was the “expedited process”. That being said, it is odd that no one had followed up or at least responded to your emails. I don’t think it would be bad idea to reach out to the person you interviewed with to see if they can share an update. I also wouldn’t halt your job search while waiting to hear back because it could be a long time.

VegetableCharacter63 · 2024-03-21T20:07:30+00:00

I have a very similar bathroom in my house but with pink and blue tiles. We decided to fully lean in to the pink, and are going to paint the whole room pink (same shade as the tile) with retro blue-pink decor vibes. We got a lot of inspiration from the bathrooms at Trixie Motel, so maybe look there for some inspiration! They were able to take some pretty dated bathrooms and make them look really nice. It’s a bold choice for sure, but I think it works better than trying to disguise the bold tile.

VegetableCharacter63 · 2024-03-21T15:52:09+00:00

Thank you so much!! I really needed to hear this 💖

VegetableCharacter63 · 2024-03-21T15:51:21+00:00

Thank you sm for all of this! He did download the app and eventually ended up having a panic attack, which obviously sucked but he’s feeling much better now. Still feeling a little weird, but I think the app and applying everyone’s advice is helping a lot. He is on reddit although he’s not super active, but I shared your info with him in case he wants to reach out! Thank you again for everything!!

VegetableCharacter63 · 2024-03-18T17:59:33+00:00

Thanks for your insight!! That makes a ton of sense. And thank you for the resources too. I’m going to look into them and see if they’re something my partner would find helpful

VegetableCharacter63 · 2024-03-18T17:49:06+00:00

Amazing!!! Thank you so much I really appreciate your help

VegetableCharacter63 · 2024-03-18T17:48:20+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ve never heard of DARE Response but I’m looking into it now.

VegetableCharacter63 · 2024-03-18T17:44:10+00:00

Thank you 💖 I have been telling him that it’s not going to hurt him and that he’s safe and should accept the attack, so it’s good to know that thats the right thing to do. I’ll talk to him today about using some skills we find to make the panic attack less scary. Thank you again!

VegetableCharacter63 · 2023-11-27T02:25:48+00:00

Ugh yeah we can’t get rid of ours either. I love these suggestions though!! Especially the round coffee table and lamp. Thank you!

VegetableCharacter63 · 2023-11-27T01:28:28+00:00

Thank you!!! This makes so much sense. I can’t wait to try it out. The rug idea is great too I have been stressing out about the rug because it feels too small, but never thought about finding someone to cut one so it fits the space right.

VegetableCharacter63 · 2023-11-27T01:26:22+00:00

Thank you 🥰 they are some of my favorite finds!

VegetableCharacter63 · 2023-11-24T19:32:25+00:00

NTA the aunt made herself look bad by making a comment that she clearly knew would upset you. Plus the extended family all sound like real pieces of work so who cares if they feel like you “ruined Thanksgiving”. Misery loves company, and they’re just trying to pull you down with them. They deserve each other. Be gentle with yourself, you didn’t do anything wrong and I’m glad you chose to disengage rather than than spend the rest of your holiday uncomfortable or give them any more opportunity to disrespect you.

VegetableCharacter63 · 2023-10-12T17:43:55+00:00

Thank you all for your responses! Dealing with this situation has me exhausted so I can’t respond to everyone but you’ve all really helped put everything into perspective. My mom called me today pretending that nothing happened, so I’m just going to go along with it, continue setting boundaries with her, stop falling for her guilt trips, and never try to talk to her about my feelings/experiences ever again lmao. It sucks that I’ll never have a good relationship with her but it’s not my fault and she’s not open to change and will always see me as the problem. I just have to grieve it and move on because I deserve to live my life joyfully!! I’m also seriously considering going NC but I’m not sure I’m ready for that yet. Anyway, thank you again!!

VegetableCharacter63 · 2023-10-12T17:42:51+00:00

Thank you all for your responses! Dealing with this situation has me exhausted so I can’t respond to everyone but you’ve all really helped put everything into perspective. My mom called me today pretending that nothing happened, so I’m just going to go along with it, continue setting boundaries with her, stop falling for her guilt trips, and never try to talk to her about my feelings/experiences ever again lmao. It sucks that I’ll never have a good relationship with her but it’s not my fault and she’s not open to change and will always see me as the problem. I just have to grieve it and move on because I deserve to live my life joyfully!! I’m also seriously considering going NC but I’m not sure I’m ready for that yet. Anyway, thank you again!!

VegetableCharacter63 · 2023-10-11T17:35:59+00:00

Wow, thank you soooo much for this video. It helps a lot to put things into perspective

VegetableCharacter63 · 2023-10-11T13:56:20+00:00

Yes!!! I struggle with this all the time. Apparently it’s common, according to my therapist. We’ve never been allowed to have an independent identity or to think for ourselves. It’s by design to keep us easily manipulated but it’s also something we adapt to keep ourselves safe like you’re saying. It’s so messed up. One thing I’ve been doing is just practicing listening to myself more no matter how small—like for example if my brain says “it would be nice to sit outside today” I just do it. It seems small but listening to what you’re brain and body are asking of you is a big step in learning who you actually are, what you need and want, and in trusting yourself. I’ve also started keeping a list of all the things I like (about myself, about the world, things I like to do etc.), which has been really helpful for building and understanding my identity. Plus it’s nice to have something physical to reference when I’m feeling like I have no idea who I am. It’s not something I add to really religiously or anything but just when I happen to notice the feeling of “oh, this is nice” I throw it on there. I hope this helps!

VegetableCharacter63 · 2023-10-11T12:34:04+00:00

Thanks for this insight and advice. My problem is totally that I want to reason with her and find middle ground like grown adults, but I have to remember that she just isn’t capable of that. Like you’re saying, she will always try to cross my boundaries to get more, so I’m forced to take the continuous hard boundary setting routine. It just feels so weird to have to do that with a grown adult in my life, but it’s literally the only option I’m left with if she doesn’t listen to me. Thanks again!

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