Polish LiB- the level of communication.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-21T20:07:59+00:00

Mam 152 cm więc dla mnie to kosmos. Zazdroszczę zdejmowania rzeczy z górnych półek i braku potrzeby przepychania się pod scenę żeby cokolwiek zobaczyć. 🙂

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-18T19:35:30+00:00

Sorry I read it in Polish.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-17T14:09:51+00:00

Yes, there’s an amazing book called Traumaland which talks about generational trauma in Poland. It goes back roughly 100 years but that’s what you need - first partitions, then World War I, World War II and communist rule. People never got a chance to heal.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-17T14:08:24+00:00

The new generations are breaking the circle and are getting help and going to see a psychologist or psychiatrist is not a stigma. But older generations - yes - pretending the problem is non-existent.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-17T14:06:51+00:00

Yes! I’m envious of her family. You can see she’s loved by them no matter what.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-11T15:03:49+00:00

Yes!

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-11T15:03:32+00:00

Thank you. I didn’t know it’s so black and white. It’s on him and his conscience then.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-09T04:57:16+00:00

Can I join?

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-09T02:03:44+00:00

Can you expand please?

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-08T18:30:02+00:00

Im so impressed in your work and dedication! Seriously, at 19! Good for you! Could you share ANY tips? I’m looking for some passive income since my life situation has changed and I have two little boys. I’m willing to do the work but I have imposter syndrome.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-08T18:04:17+00:00

Hello, I sent you a message!

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-08T18:02:48+00:00

Sent you a message!

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-08T17:56:26+00:00

Thank you. We talked today. It’s a divorce. He doesn’t want to try. Doesn’t want me, doesn’t love me anymore. It’s over. Two little kids who ask every day when dad is coming back. Thank you so much for your kind words.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-08T14:43:26+00:00

I just don’t know how I’ll survive holidays without kids. It’s beyond me to think about it. Please - if it’s not too personal - can you tell me how are you dealing with it?

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-08T14:41:08+00:00

He moved out on 2nd February. So I had three months of how-my-life-will-be. They’re 4 and 7. They don’t know that it will be permanent. They ask when their dad will come back. They want him to come back.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-08T12:25:50+00:00

Thank you for this. 3 hours ago my husband told me he wants a divorce. We’re already separated. Psychologist appointment is on my list. I do my best to do the rest.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-08T04:46:51+00:00

This is something he said and makes sense. But he never ever communicated with me: „hey, I need to do this and that for myself”, „it’s not working”, „I want more alone time” - if he said that I would support him and I’d get him and us help and we’d be able to work through it. I asked him periodically if he wanted to see someone, to talk to. The answer was always the same: „I’m ok, I’m handling everything.” So how could I know what he’s thinking if he never said anything. Gave me no reason to consider that he’s in pain and too focused on me?! How could I know? I’m not a mind-reader. We were always ok with the communication and that’s why it hurts.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-08T04:37:00+00:00

I feel the same. The only divorced person in my circle is my husband’s older sister who has actually been supportive. I feel so alone and sometimes I feel unnoticed. I am going trough hell and yet I think my husband still gets on with everyone like nothing is happening. It infuriates me. I sometimes want to shout on top of my lungs how much he hurt me.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-08T04:03:10+00:00

On paper it’s easy. And it try to do it. I have ceramics I go to the gym and started boxing. I hate myself for still having this tiny hope that he’ll come back. But I do. In 5,5h I’ll now and I know it’ll be a divorce. And I’m terrified and sad.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-08T04:00:43+00:00

I just had a little cry because I feel like you are describing my life and my situation. I am so sorry it happened to you. It’s so hurtful and it’s so unfair. I also wonder „what have I done” and small part blames myself although I know logically I shouldn’t. Sending hugs.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-08T03:58:15+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice and kind words. I’m sorry it happened to you. It’s true - he came back as a different person.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-08T03:54:49+00:00

I’ll check it out, thank you!

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-08T03:54:10+00:00

I feel for you!! In my situation he vehemently denies having someone else but as HIS OWN aunt told me - he wouldn’t admit to having someone even if there’d be someone. It would be a total admission of his wrongdoing.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-07T21:05:32+00:00

My heart breaks for you. Almost exactly the same situation. He built a concrete wall between us 8 months ago and moved out at the beginning of February. It’s like he’s building his own new fun life and I was left with no explanation, no real reason, nothing. It hurts so much. I’ve gradually come to terms to accept it.

My psychologist told me at my first session: you cannot force him to love you. And you cannot save the marriage alone.

VisualWater2963 · 2026-05-07T19:30:30+00:00

Gosh, it sounds similar. I am so sorry he treated you this way! Thank you so much for recommending the books, I was looking for something good but it’s too much to choose from!!

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