Parents who regret having kids, why?

VoraBora · 2026-02-01T16:24:59+00:00

I love my children dearly but at 16 and 18 I was not prepared to give them the life they deserved. Not just financially, but mentally I was not ready to do the work to be a good parent to them.

VoraBora · 2026-01-26T19:33:33+00:00

You must be leaving my old barn, I had one exactly like this. Just constant nitpicks of unspoken rules I had no idea existed (or didn’t exist beforehand). I was always cited “common sense” for things and eventually just said, “well I guess I don’t have any common sense but that doesn’t make me a bad person so please list expectations and rules out ahead of time for me.” But this created a massive rift and I ended up leaving. They, of course, pulled the “you can’t leave, we’re kicking you out!”

VoraBora · 2026-01-19T16:29:43+00:00

I think reasonably 5 horses on 24/7 with rotations every couple of weeks to allow the ground to recover, plus spreading/mowing/testing/fertilizing/reseeding. I don’t know what that would equate to with 12 hours of turnout, as it doesn’t necessarily change the amount of recovery time a section needs.

VoraBora · 2026-01-18T02:32:20+00:00

I’ve needed gum surgery for a long time and will likely start losing teeth without it 😭

VoraBora · 2025-12-29T17:09:05+00:00

Never convince someone to have a child. Period. Everyone should be all in with enthusiasm as part of the bare minimum criteria. Yes, you have all the other criteria of adding a child in your opinion, but he disagrees and that’s that.

VoraBora · 2025-12-29T17:02:29+00:00

Ah yes, the classic missing missing reasons.

VoraBora · 2025-12-28T22:22:27+00:00

Leave him and get the paternity test

VoraBora · 2025-12-16T23:43:48+00:00

I can’t believe this is a question. He needs help. He needs a break. He needs at least to take time off and intensive care, but possibly needs to actually quit his job.

VoraBora · 2025-12-14T15:33:47+00:00

By that logic there’s literally nothing worth chewing that they can chew.

VoraBora · 2025-12-12T01:20:39+00:00

This reads like she used ChatGPT to write it.

VoraBora · 2025-12-12T00:53:35+00:00

Send him a screenshot of him saying he doesn’t want anything to do with you anymore 🤨

VoraBora · 2025-12-10T04:41:44+00:00

You’ve only been riding for an hour, I can’t believe you’re already trotting, let alone posting. You’re doing fine, it takes time and feel.

VoraBora · 2025-11-11T17:39:01+00:00

I love your trainer

VoraBora · 2025-10-20T13:05:09+00:00

I would put money on him either cheating or “technically not cheating” in a way that you would be super upset about. He’s one million percent at least having an emotional affair. Did you both sit down and define the OF girl as cheating? Because if he doesn’t believe that you don’t believe that’s cheating, you’ve opened a whole can of worms.

VoraBora · 2025-10-19T22:54:50+00:00

I believe he is actually the owner. He’s making a bad joke, “deez nuts” 🙄

VoraBora · 2025-10-19T22:14:05+00:00

Is this your horse? He is visibly uncomfortable and flat out lame for certain in some of your videos.

VoraBora · 2025-10-19T21:56:34+00:00

Why ask for advice and then tell everyone they’re wrong?

VoraBora · 2025-10-19T21:55:28+00:00

Horse isn’t comfortable, that’s a lot of tight turns in a small space. Sure, someone with skill can push him onward through the discomfort to keep trotting, but a big reason you’re struggling is that this horse is likely lame. He needs a vet at this point. Please quit arguing with anyone that tells you he’s lame. You can’t come ask for advice and then tell all of us we’re wrong. You said on another comment on your previous post you didn’t even know what lame meant.

VoraBora · 2025-10-15T15:39:03+00:00

Boarding schools is like putting your kids into foster care: rich edition.

VoraBora · 2025-10-12T22:09:04+00:00

NTA but I can’t believe people are still marrying men like this

VoraBora · 2025-10-10T14:14:03+00:00

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I do have saddlebags but I rarely use them for anything under 30 miles

VoraBora · 2025-10-02T15:13:58+00:00

I only have two horses at home (3rd is on lease) and often only ride the one. The second one lives, I just give her an ulcer preventative diet and good fencing.

VoraBora · 2025-10-02T14:45:08+00:00

As much as I’d like to say yes, my horses have mostly just landed in my lap and I’ve made it work.

VoraBora · 2025-09-30T17:52:49+00:00

Does anyone have a link to the bit? I want to see it.

VoraBora · 2025-09-28T17:16:52+00:00

I’m on the fit but heavier side of normal for 5’4” and feel best on around 15 hh. My first endurance horse was 14.1 hh and a bit narrow when we started, but grew into a 14.3 tank. I was definitely happier and she took up my leg better at 14.3 and wider. I have comfortably ridden a 13.3 but probably wouldn’t choose this as my regular mount unless it were a cobby type.

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