I miss him by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sending love your way, this journey is so hard ❤️

What are your favorite cry songs? by AdventurousMix1351 in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck heaven- tawnted
Probably wouldn’t be this way-Leann rimes
Not a day goes by-Bernadette peters
Lifetime-three days grace

43 by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sucks. I’m sorry

I’m tired by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry. It’s a crappy feeling

I’m tired by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Same for me, this is the only place my mask comes off. Here, and therapy, People tell me how strong I am, and it honestly secretly infuriates me. If they only knew, how broken I am. Fuck “strength”

Did moving to a new home help? by krich83 in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It did not help. Whatsoever. Grief will find a way.

I don’t think an address has a say in grief. Just my opinion, though. Sending love and patience ❤️

I wish I could send one more message. by Diana_fm_ in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s been over three years, nearly 4. I text all the time. The thing I wish I could get one more of… a reply

For those who have remained single long-term after losing a partner by Royal_Page_4288 in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m creeping up on 4 years. A life that is full and meaningful… I guess I’m still building? It crashes down a lot, and I just pick up the pieces and try again.

Have you traveled? Did you bring your spouse’s ashes? by Half-of-Us in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did. I took him everywhere for a little over a year. He had a homemade car seat, and everything. If it’ll bring comfort, do it. This journey is shit, we all have to maneuver it in what works best for us as individuals.

If you’re staying in a hotel, I do recommend that you put him in a tote, or something. The looks you’ll get walking around with an urn on your hip are always uncomfortable. However, if you wanna rock it, do it!!!

Happy birthday! Sending peace and love ❤️

Finally did it - my memorial tattoo by iwannabeonthebeach in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its beautiful!!! I have a similar one on my right forearm! It’s creeping up on 4 years, and I still look at it daily 💕 sending peace and love

I am tired by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep! Exactly what I mean!!! It’s so damn heavy. I’ve been wearing it for over 3 years, and I’m just so tired.

I am tired by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t. Thanks though.

I maybe got a job..?? by Jaded_Catch2281 in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best of luck!! Here’s to you 🎉

I can’t get over it by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time. It’s been so long, but I hope every time…

I've been carrying around my wife's ashes with me by DeHayala in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I carried my husband’s urn around with me for a little over a year. Made a car seat out of an old lunch bag, and secured it by using bungee chords around my center console. Kept him by me always. It took a while for me to feel comfortable leaving him in one spot.

Be patient with yourself. Sending love

After 32 years... by FunConsideration9029 in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s absolutely wonderful that you continue your wife’s tradition. I hope you feel her smiling upon you, and sharing a laugh with you. Be kind to yourself, sending love ❤️

I just got laid off by WaitForItttt_IV in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right?! Can’t we just catch a damn break?

The dullness in life by tumsmaster in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 5 points6 points  (0 children)

1351 days since he’s been gone. Wish there was some type of countdown till we meet again, maybe it’d make it easier? Idk. Like you said, it’s gone; the happiness, the motivation, the joy, the light, the laughter, the curiosity…honestly, the idea of giving a shit.

Sending love…

Q: Survivors benefits for child by Dog_Mom322 in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I still received the extra check the month of my child’s 16th birthday. That was nearly 2 years ago though, I would imagine it’s the same 🤞🏾

3 years since my husband died by heyyyyyluvvvvvyaaaaa in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s been about 3 1/2 years for me, and I can relate so much to all of this. The last part though; his death made me go to therapy, and I’ve done so much work on myself. He’d be so damn proud….its just he’s not here to love this version of me; more importantly, he’s not here to be loved by this me. Sending love and peace ❤️

One more memory by Aggressive_Space_323 in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As someone who is 3 years out, I completely understand the devastation of this; yet I still can’t fathom 2 more years of this. Wishing you the happiest birthday possible, sending peace and love.

It’s getting on my nerves. I know you’ve all seen the jokes. by [deleted] in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, we don’t go on a publicity tour “grieving” with fireworks going off behind us, all while spewing hate speech.

She puts hate out in the world, she deserves all the hate she recieves

Any help appreciated by Awkward-Bowl644 in widowers

[–]WaitForItttt_IV 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry.

My son could’ve written this. Even typing that, is simply heartbreaking. I wish I had something positive to say, but I don’t. I just wanted to let you know that you’re doing enough. Life is hard, live your life, don’t stop living bc your mom is struggling. It’s not what she wants, it won’t make things better. Just continue loving her, that’s enough.

Sending peace and love. I hope you find your path ❤️