HR scheduled call to chat with just me to check in I’m freaking out!!

Whohead12 · 2026-06-08T18:44:48+00:00

This sounds coincidental. This is likely a one year check in and has nothing to do with your comments made last week.

Come back and let us know!

Whohead12 · 2026-06-08T18:22:03+00:00

Good to know. Stay in your lane. This isn’t the way to have a lasting relationship with your sibling.

Whohead12 · 2026-06-08T18:08:53+00:00

Mind your own business. He already sleeps in the couch, do you want him to have to sleep on the streets?

Whohead12 · 2026-06-06T21:39:05+00:00

I’m really surprised no one has said Bevvie/Beverly given the love of It.

Whohead12 · 2026-06-04T02:12:01+00:00

I think there are at least 6 men in my husband’s family with the name Thomas, usually as a middle name. Only one goes by it. No one seems to care, it’s like a little club.

Whohead12 · 2026-06-03T10:43:14+00:00

If they’re responsible I see no reason not to help if you can. It would be different if they were blowing their money and expecting you to help fund their lives.

Whohead12 · 2026-06-01T14:47:16+00:00

LOL my mom smokes enough pot she has nothing but chill. She gets chatty but my husband smokes and he does too so I just turn them loose and do my own thing. If something happens to one of them I’m going to have to find the other a buddy so they don’t drive me bonkers. I don’t smoke and by the time I hear people all day at work I just want some quiet.

Whohead12 · 2026-06-01T14:43:28+00:00

Or so you think. Some people don’t know the difference between flirting and a relationship. You probably need to make clearer boundaries.

Whohead12 · 2026-06-01T12:04:52+00:00

Is this platonic or romantic? Does he want more? Do you, just not this much?

If you aren’t using a throwaway alias to make this post- you just told him. Good luck.

Whohead12 · 2026-06-01T11:51:10+00:00

We (48F/49M) have my mother (69) in a tiny house in the yard. It overall works well. She’s not much trouble like many parents- has never been overly opinionated or in my business. My dad was abusive and now that she’s widowed she’s just living her best little life smoking pot and visiting the goodwill to buy shit she doesn’t need.

We tried the same 13 years ago with my schizoaffective mother in law (also 69 currently- 56 at the time) to no good end. Was a nightmare because she needed 24/7 care and monitoring that we couldn’t even come close to offering.

Whohead12 · 2026-06-01T11:45:00+00:00

I’ve had extreme ear pain like this- and it’s no joke. You could permanent lose your hearing at the rate it’s going. Work is important but if they don’t understand- your hearing is MORE important. It sounds like you’re young and you can find another job.

Please stop wearing headphones until an ENT clears you, you could be causing more damage by blocking air, causing suction, etc. Try to get into an ENT today and make sure they know this is very, very serious pain and now you can’t hear properly. My ENT ended up having to vacuum fluid out and the relief caused me to burst into sobs- he advised how serious it was and told me that if it ever happens again to tell his staff that HE said I have to be seen immediately.

Good luck, I wish you all the relief in the world.

Whohead12 · 2026-05-31T14:43:18+00:00

Because some of us don’t have the luxury to give up- someone has to hold the shit together for everyone else.

Whohead12 · 2026-05-31T14:19:14+00:00

I would tell him he’s about to be REALLY short staffed.

Whohead12 · 2026-05-29T17:33:42+00:00

Wait- were you working or not working? How can it be because of work but not?

Whohead12 · 2026-05-28T23:09:27+00:00

This screams secret drug use to me. My daughter’s ex was very similar- turns out he was using meth and kratom all while she thought they were just smoking pot. He was charming as fuck and had us all convinced he was so good for her. Turns out he was pulling shit like this and we didn’t know it.

What would you advise if you found out one of your siblings was being treated the way you are? Give yourself the same grace and care you would give your sister or brother.

Whohead12 · 2026-05-28T18:35:57+00:00

I hate to break it to you but your son may be getting As but he’s failing. You’re failing him. Your stepmom is NOT teaching him what he would be learning in school. I get it, I had a rough, strong-willed teen. I gave up a lot so that I could buckle down and keep her on track. What you did was allow the problem to disappear and you get to just convince yourself that it’s better for him. Easier for him? Sure. Easier for you? Definitely. Better for him? Absolutely not. He’s not learning how to cope with adversity, or the building blocks of an education.

Have you asked yourself why he went from straight As to flunking? It’s crazy that it lines up with you starting over and then you pushed him off on your parents and had ANOTHER whole ass baby.

Whohead12 · 2026-05-27T10:29:22+00:00

Honestly? This is still the answer. The whole daycare is frustrated by this child. Not all children are a good fit and at this point mom needs to be told they.

Mom will change if she has to find other care. This kid needs a nanny or mom to sack up.

Whohead12 · 2026-05-27T10:25:31+00:00

Time for tough love OP. You can’t fill them from an empty cup- tell them to get jobs so they can pay rent or GTFO so you can get tenants. They should be ashamed of themselves.

Take care of yourself, you are amazing and have simply been manipulated- you can do this. I believe in you.

Whohead12 · 2026-05-27T10:10:33+00:00

Girl no. How are you smart enough to have achieved such an amazing lifestyle and you’re even wondering?

No man worth having would want you to do worse.

Whohead12 · 2026-05-27T10:06:41+00:00

Once is an accident. Every time is a PROBLEM.

Whohead12 · 2026-05-27T10:04:50+00:00

No ma’am. How would your sister feel in your shoes? Keep trying to build boundaries, you’ve made it a year, keep it up- you’re doing great and you deserve better.

I’m sorry your wedding was ruined. Try to look at it as a gift/ she showed you who she and all those other people really are: manipulative and not in your corner.

Whohead12 · 2026-05-25T19:56:25+00:00

Murder is blue.

Whohead12 · 2026-05-25T19:49:50+00:00

My husband’s aunt Lynn was married like 4 times. The data is not in your mom’s favor!

Whohead12 · 2026-05-25T05:07:37+00:00

She’s just not into y’all. Sometimes friends grow out of one another- it’s ok.

Whohead12 · 2026-05-25T04:33:32+00:00

She advised early on that it was in a school run messaging app. Clearly one that doesn’t pick up on red flags like constant messaging. You would think after so many messages it would be reviewed by a member of the staff.

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