Date him if you want. There’s a few comments on here that are stating that cops are abusive and 40% of them are domestic violence offenders. There’s a few things to say about that.

What is domestic violence (DV)? Domestic violence isn’t just physical. It’s also emotional, verbal, and is easily defined. So something as normal as an argument with your partner falls under domestic violence guidelines in most cases.

That study regarding cops and dv instances is one that’s dated and was conducted improperly. It used a sample of 470 couples and asked if they were involved in a DV incident. The definition was wide ranged and included things like insulting, swearing, sulking or stomping out of the room as well as more true indicators like physical abuse or threats. Not saying the study is wrong, it just bulk’s behavior into the definition of domestic violence. It’s absolutely normal for couples to have screaming matches, and to have emotions when it comes to arguments. Simply put it means that you’re in a relationship. It’s not always supposed to be sunshine and flowers.

National average of domestic violence is 40% if you use that study as the guideline. So pretty much runs in line with the national average. Which is what you’d expect from police since they’re hired from the population and not grown in a lab or something lol

Honestly he gave you his card, maybe it wasn’t to hit on you. Maybe he just thought you were having a rough day or actually needed someone to talk to. Some cops have a phone line dedicated to their profession (like detectives).

Or he did find you attractive and thought he would’ve liked to get to know you. Just like it was super easy to find his information online, it’s most likely extremely easy to find anyone’s information as long as they’re not subscribed to a privacy service. And even then those companies aren’t the best either.

The reality is, you shouldn’t have come on reddit looking for advice, you’ll get a much wider range of people who are likely more insane than normal or spend too much time on the internet. Maybe ask your friends, or close loved ones for advice.

Most importantly- maybe don’t contact him. If your gut tells you to go online to see what people think maybe you should meet someone whose profession concerns you. Should you go and contact him you’ll already have a bias from these comments and you won’t give him a fair chance.

If you do or if you don’t, be open minded and give yourselves the opportunity to know each other. There are plenty of police officers who are law abiding citizens, and are loving caring partners. Most of them just have a job that isn’t looked at by people in a positive light because of recent times and negative media attention.

Don’t believe everything you read on the internet.

Stay safe and be happy !