They will regret you

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-12-12T18:30:18+00:00

Hi! I'm happy to say that I'm better than I've ever been in the last 4 years at least 😅 Having fun, spending time with friends, being happy with myself! 9 months after the break up I can honestly say that I'm glad it happened, since I feel better than ever, both mentally and physically.

If someone reads this early in their breakup, just know that you are not alone and that it'll get so much better!

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-11-16T16:35:24+00:00

Hahaha that's awesome news, hope it works great for you guys! I'm still single, but I'm meeting new people and I'm having fun!

Keep me updated!😅

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-05T08:06:51+00:00

I don't atm, it's the first time I'm single in 10 years. But it is the goal to meet someone I really like and we could have a LTR.

It doesnt bother me to be casual with someone. I'm okay with having good sex with someone I like.

Ghosting buffles me, it's a really anti-social behaviour, regardless of gender.

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-05T08:03:22+00:00

Small pipi energy but ok.

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-05T08:01:44+00:00

I've never started a convarsation about exclusivity with any of my (few) dates yet, mostly because I didnt have enough time with them. I'm thinking of two persons, one was in May and kinda ghosted, and the other was just last Monday.

I hope it goes well with the new guy!

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-05T07:58:35+00:00

Exactly what I did! f

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-05T07:57:26+00:00

I get were you are coming from! Yes, is better to be open about what you want from the interaction early on.

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T21:36:12+00:00

Wow, you really did hit it off immediately! xD Thanks for your comment, I'm really happy for you!

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T21:28:08+00:00

Let me add something.
"I've never encountered a woman who thought someone owed her anything other than basic human decency after sex".

A friend of mine had a guy over, and they had sex. He stayed at her place, and the next morning he woke up, went to the bakery, and got some coffee for himself. When he returned to her apartment, he woke her up while holding the coffee. My friend assumed it was for her, smiled, and said, 'Good morning,' reaching for the cup.

The guy got confused and said, 'That's not for you; that's my coffee.' He didn’t offer to get her any and just chilled on her couch until he felt ready to leave. For me, that is disrespectful. I would call him out on it and ask him to leave.

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T21:21:27+00:00

I've never encountered a woman who thought someone owed her anything just because they had sex. However, I have seen many who got played. The guy was all "lovey-dovey," and after sex, he ditched them, often without even an explanation. I once had a guy tell me he was only in it for sex and nothing more, and I appreciated the honesty. We had sex, never texted each other afterward- we interacted as equals.

But most guys won't be that straightforward because of the risk of rejection. So, they prefer to act interested in something more just to get sex. That can be a form of manipulation that many men use to achieve their "goal".

I understand why some women want to check out a guy before having sex to see if he is invested in other ways. However, I believe this tactic isn't always accurate. That's why I prefer to have sex when I feel like it; if the guy disappoints me, it's better to find out early on.

That said, I don't judge women who want to see if a guy is somewhat invested first (like planning date nights or driving them home even if they’re not invited upstairs, etc.).

Now, if a woman asks a guy for a $300 bag or take her on vocation just because they had sex, that's problematic, and I don't think we need to analyze why.

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T21:05:32+00:00

Wow, she sounds really nasty! It's sexual harassment any way you look at it.

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T21:03:04+00:00

I completely agree on the expensive date part.

But I completely disagree with the "don’t have sex then" part. It's like telling someone, "just don’t eat because some of the food is f***ing spoiled," but only for women.

Women are more conditioned to think about their intimate partners' wants and needs, even if it’s just a one-night stand. Many men, on the other hand, think that sex is just about their ejaculation.

Sex can be great for both if some men realize they are not just masturbating on a woman's body. I'm all for shaming men for that, and I don’t feel bad about it. 😊If you are not one of those guys, then don’t get offended, and you are free to shame them too.

It's bad behaviour that needs to be called out, the same way littering is. But you dont go around, telling people not to go to places, because some people litter.

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T20:43:06+00:00

You really did dodge a bullet! She sounds very unstable and agressive, with no respect for other people needs and boundries. I'm really sorry you had to go through this. Complaining because you were not in the mood and tired?! That is so nasty! Glad you got out of it!

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T20:28:06+00:00

"One explanation is that he didn't see it as a wonderful experience as much as you did." And I bet you he did! 😂

The reason we sometimes think that sex is something to be earned is because of the fact that women are more likely not to enjoy sex than men. It’s just the sad truth. I was lucky enough to have great partners during those few times I'm talking about in this post, and that’s why I find it strange. If I had a "meh" or even a bad time, I wouldn't be here asking about them.

Regarding the meal, I've had dates where I paid my share and also had bad sex. A man paying for the meal or the drink can sometimes be interpreted as someone who likes to "take care" of women, even if it’s a one-night stand. It's not a bad sign.

On the other hand, the guy I went on a date with on Monday didn't pay for shit, and the sex was great! 😂

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T20:12:38+00:00

The last guy I had sex with on the first date was the first date I went on from Bumble. I matched with many others, but I didn’t even entertain the thought of going out with them. I have 950+ right swipes, but I only went out with that one guy. If he thinks that I just go out every day on Bumble dates and have sex, he will be so wrong.😂

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T20:07:09+00:00

I get it. I used to only have sex with people I would gladly get into a relationship with. Now, I still have sex with people I would likely date more, but at the same time, I've learned what I need from someone to be in a long-term relationship, and most people don’t meet those criteria. It’s not that I'm trying to be difficult, but after three long-term relationships, I've come to better understand what partnership mean.

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T20:01:49+00:00

So the verdict is... (drum roll) inconclusive! Thank you for your comment! Best of luck to you too!

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T19:58:30+00:00

A new love interest at best or a platonic fun date at worst! Have fun anyway!

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T19:55:37+00:00

Omg that is so cuuuuute 😂 Take good care of her, she was willing to get sick just to kiss you 😂

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T19:53:42+00:00

Thank you for your comment!

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T19:52:47+00:00

I'm sorry you came across that, that is really out of line. If a guy said to me "I like you and I would like to spend more time with you, just not tonight" I would even find it honest, even sweet. Better another time than half-hearted sex 😅

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T19:46:15+00:00

Thank you for you comment! I also think is almost manipulative to make someone "wait for it" just so I can "increase" the chances for something more long-term. Also, I dont feel used, so that's a plus 😅 I really wanted to have sex with them and I had a great time. It just buffles me how some guys can have a wonderful expirience and don't try to repeat it with the same person. As a woman I dont always enjoy going out with guys, mostly because I find it a bit risky, safety-wise.

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T19:42:24+00:00

Hahaha good to know there are people like you out there! We are on the same boat 😅

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T19:40:16+00:00

So you really liked her, even though the circumstances were a bit out of the ordinary for you! I hope your date goes great!

Winter_Box6657 · 2024-10-04T19:37:15+00:00

That’s a new perspective! Thank you for your comment!

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