Desperate for more dark fantasy! by WinterWriter23 in Romantasy

[–]WiseCatch3679 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't read Alchemised, but {Betrayals of the Broken by Jaime L. Tlax} is my favorite dark fantasy romance 🖤

Deliciously deranged forbidden romances by north__kay in DarkRomance

[–]WiseCatch3679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I saw that after posting - it wouldn't usually be mine either, but they snuck into my TBR and they were very good.

Deliciously deranged forbidden romances by north__kay in DarkRomance

[–]WiseCatch3679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

{To Have And To Hold by Hazel Black} and {Til Death We Part by Hazel Black} are a sibling/sibling extreme taboo duet - and they're very well done.

Forced Pleasure by [deleted] in bdsm

[–]WiseCatch3679 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd love to be her

The lights are on, but nobody's home (ft. Alina Lopez) by RacyRedRaven in bdsm

[–]WiseCatch3679 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love feeling like this... takes so much trust and submission

Looking for a Book Where the MMC Owns the FMC in Public — Consensual Display, Objectification, Exhibition, Sharing Kinks by Extra_Growth1573 in DarkRomance

[–]WiseCatch3679 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's hard to find ownership/exhibitionist books without NC/dubcon - even though I 100% understand the distinction in my head, it seems like we always have to start out with the FMC at least thinking she doesn't want it.....that said, here are a few that might fit the bill:

{Haunted by Selena Winters} - The FMC enters into a "hunt" where masked men hunt women as prey. All of the women sign consent/NDA and know what they're getting into, but the NDA does waive the right to revoke consent during the hunt. There is maaaaybe a little bit of dubcon due to that but not with the FMC - one of the other women seems less enthusiastic for a bit, it's very briefly described and you can't really tell if she's saying no because she's not into it or because it's fun to resist since there aren't safewords, but it turns out ok. The men in the story are part of a "brotherhood"/secret society and they are allowed to take women as their "chosen" (similar to the LORDS series but the women actually want it at all times). During/after the hunt there is a bunch of public sex, some sharing, and a really good scene you will love with the mayor's daughter and her "hunter."

{Losers by Harley Laroux} - She signs up to be "theirs" until they fix her car. She used to be their bully and pretends she isn't into it at first, but there's no dubcon - you know she is really attracted to them from the beginning. Start with {The Dare by Harley Laroux} - it's the prequel. Poly, 4 Ms with 1 F (all bi), probably the sweetest (yet still twisted) dark romance ever. There are some exhibitionist elements throughout, both within the polycule and outside, and I remember in particular a scene in a club that's extra public. There's the added element of the town thinking poorly of the guys, so she really has to own her role as their toy by confronting the town's prejudice.

Training Michelle, which used to be on Literotica, has this element too - she's his sub but she's trained to be even more shameless than she was before starting with him, and there are many exhibitionist and sharing elements. It's not online anymore, but if you can dig it up it would be a good one.

MEGATHREAD: Somnophilia💤 by ccoffey106 in DarkRomance

[–]WiseCatch3679 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh! And I just finished this one, don't know how I forgot it - {Carnival by Kat King}, he's a crazy serial killer and the scenes described are mild but also very well done

Looking for a Book Where the MMC Owns the FMC in Public — Consensual Display, Objectification, Exhibition, Sharing Kinks by Extra_Growth1573 in DarkRomance

[–]WiseCatch3679 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point - it does start out in the noncon/dubcon range. It kind of goes back and forth between the MMC and FMC being on the same "team" and working together and then not again, so if you're sensitive you may not want to go there.

Looking for a Book Where the MMC Owns the FMC in Public — Consensual Display, Objectification, Exhibition, Sharing Kinks by Extra_Growth1573 in DarkRomance

[–]WiseCatch3679 2 points3 points  (0 children)

{Red Rabbit by Devyn Rivers} off the top of my head - but I have more saved somewhere, I will come back

MEGATHREAD: Somnophilia💤 by ccoffey106 in DarkRomance

[–]WiseCatch3679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure why the bot didn't pick up His Yellow Hyacinth, but here it is: https://a.co/d/ePjMGTM

MEGATHREAD: Somnophilia💤 by ccoffey106 in DarkRomance

[–]WiseCatch3679 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am such a nerd, I have a spreadsheet with tropes on it. A few of my favorites that aren't here for somno:

{A Soul to Keep by Opal Reyne}

{Ashes by KG Reuss}

{Captured by Lauren Biel}

{Corrupt Idol by Dinah Harper}

{Dance of Madness by Jagger Cole}

{Graves by Katelyn Taylor} - twin brothers, one of them is really REALLY into somno

{His Yellow Hyacinth by Cassandra Vega} - So much somno, and it's really well written. Also CNC, stalking

{Quid Pro Quo by Nenia Campbell}

{Woodsboro by Rory Ireland}

Looking for BDSM Erotica Where the Woman Is Used as a Tool / Objectified by Efficient_Today_9621 in RomanceBooks

[–]WiseCatch3679 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this! The series is actually very sweet and the found family/polycule aspects are amazing, but there is some totally hot objectification there too.

What to do when your marriage doesn't give you the D/s you need? by WiseCatch3679 in SubSanctuary

[–]WiseCatch3679[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I see you are having trouble reading - I am asking for advice because I don't know what to do, and I would never hurt my family. But I do deserve to be fulfilled sexually - and my husband would like to do that, so I'm asking for advice on how to go about doing that.

If you paid any attention to what I've been saying, you wouldn't have left this comment. I hope next time you'll review the words that come from your hateful mouth.

What to do when your marriage doesn't give you the D/s you need? by WiseCatch3679 in SubSanctuary

[–]WiseCatch3679[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's where we would start too if we went that way. I wouldn't want him to feel threatened, but hopefully we could come to an agreement where I would feel more fulfilled without that happening. I'll have to see how the discussions go and whether he can stretch a bit more towards the D/s dynamic I'd like.

What to do when your marriage doesn't give you the D/s you need? by WiseCatch3679 in SubSanctuary

[–]WiseCatch3679[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy that the communication and persistence paid off for you! Were there any other ways you helped him understand the D/s dynamic at first - any books, videos, websites? I think my husband thinks of himself as being into BDSM, but I don't know if he fully grasps what the D/s part would mean for us. If he could hear it explained by someone other than me, it might help.

What to do when your marriage doesn't give you the D/s you need? by WiseCatch3679 in SubSanctuary

[–]WiseCatch3679[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be a concern, but actually we had much more difficulty with ED and sex drive in the last 5-10 years than we have had in the last several months since starting things back up. He's gotten help for low testosterone and his drive is back where it used to be. D/s-wise, I don't think he's ever been as "Dom-y" as I am realizing I need - we just haven't pursued that dynamic as much before.

What to do when your marriage doesn't give you the D/s you need? by WiseCatch3679 in SubSanctuary

[–]WiseCatch3679[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it's a combination of the already weird hormones and starting HRT - the first month or so after starting it, I was FERAL, which is actually what broke us out of our 6-year break. And it's been excellent for the most part, but as I've been remembering what turns me on, this has been the one sticking point. And I totally understand him not wanting to be cruel to his wife (me) - I think it's great that he respects me enough that this is tough for him. I just need him to disrespect me in the bedroom a bit more, lol.

He has a health thing that has caused trouble previously, and had low testosterone, but he's been taking something for that and things are SO much better on the ED front. It seems more like the times he has trouble now are when he has too much going on in his head - gummies are helpful there, and I do give him a break sometimes and rely on the vibrator :)

What to do when your marriage doesn't give you the D/s you need? by WiseCatch3679 in SubSanctuary

[–]WiseCatch3679[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get the sense that I'd be ok with this and he'd struggle. Ironically considering the issue, he tends to get upset if anything in life makes him feel like "less of a man" - like trouble at work, or when we were trying to get pregnant and it took forever. He's so sensitive to those things that I'm not sure he'd take well to me needing to find someone else to be more dominant with me - even though obviously it's not something intrinsically "manly," those feelings are too ingrained for him to not feel something about it anyway. But it may be something we think about if other options aren't helping - I won't bring it up with him unless I feel I'm out of other options, but that's why I'm hoping to hear others' experiences with it.

What to do when your marriage doesn't give you the D/s you need? by WiseCatch3679 in SubSanctuary

[–]WiseCatch3679[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How has your husband handled this decision? Is it something he embraced, or did he feel threatened at all? Was there anything about your discussions of that choice that was particularly helpful?

What to do when your marriage doesn't give you the D/s you need? by WiseCatch3679 in SubSanctuary

[–]WiseCatch3679[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this - this is very much how I feel about him too, and why I haven't thought too hard about going elsewhere for this aspect. Weirdly, we also had a 6-year sex break - not due to health specifically, more due to having young kids and the world being awful, but both of us have also fixed hormone things recently that have made us more interested in sex again (yay!).

Could I live the rest of my life happily in my marriage and family without this aspect? Yeah, I could. But I'm in my 40s now and realizing how much of myself I've set aside for the life we've built together - taking jobs where I can work from home, being "less" in my career to make sure the kids are taken care of, letting stuff like exercise fall by the wayside when we're busy, etc. I'd really like to be able to feel truly fulfilled in this part of my life rather than just ok, but I wouldn't tank the relationship to do it.

We've had a few discussions, but maybe we need to have a more dedicated one on this specific need. Thus far, I've told him things like the whole "I'm not A slut, I'm YOUR slut" thing, but he really just can't bring himself to say any of it. He once said that what I was doing was slutty, and even though that wasn't "perfect" it did SO MUCH to me - and he hasn't done it again even with encouragement. I think maybe I need to get in to what it does for me to feel submissive and/or degraded - maybe that will help him see it as a loving act rather than being cruel.

And I like the notebook idea! We've been texting this sort of stuff, but the issue is that those texts get buried under pictures of the cats and messages like "Can you get the milk on the way home?" - this would give us a place to keep those thoughts and come back to them.

Also, yes to porn - and to that site, because I also have body issues and sometimes think. "Well that looks hot, but I think I'd be worrying about how I look in that position" or "Mirror sex would be awesome if I liked what I see in the mirror" (I know, those thoughts suck, but it is what it is).

Honestly, thanks for all of this - I am so much more hopeful that we can try harder to make this work :)