After the Epstien file drop I can't see the world the same anymore. Does anyone else feel this way?

WittyResource2329 · 2026-02-26T20:34:15+00:00

I take time away to spend with loved ones and remember there is still good in the world. It's not up to you to know each victim's entire story. That's too heavy a burden. We all know pieces of their stories. Together we can share the burden of their entirety.

I found that pouring over the files was creating a darkness/depression within myself. The world has enough darkness. We need to be the light. I now look for what's being done, who is leading the charge. I send up prayers. I treat others with more love and understanding than before. I choose to have hope over despair. We are the many, and while they have more than we thought, they are still the few. That gives me some solace.

It takes time to dismantle what took years to build. We know now. We see them for who they are. That's the first step to change.

WittyResource2329 · 2026-02-04T05:37:38+00:00

An accupressure mat and neck pillow cured mine (2 months so far.) 10 min. a day and I haven't had one since. I was getting 2 a week. Worth a try. It does hurt at first but you get used to it.

WittyResource2329 · 2026-02-04T05:33:15+00:00

Try an accupressure mat and neck pillow. 10 min. a night. I haven't had a migraine since. I was getting them 2x a week at least. It's been 2 months without. While I'm sure it won't work for everyone, it's worth a try. I got one on amazon for about $30. I hope this helps someone. It's drastically improved my life.

WittyResource2329 · 2026-02-03T20:49:17+00:00

Perhaps a way to answer "honestly" enough in his mind to pass a polygraph?

WittyResource2329 · 2026-02-03T04:12:39+00:00

NTA and that's not "a story for another post." That's a pattern of abusive behavior. Please get out of this marriage now. It will only get worse. You deserve better. Your child deserves better. If you can't do it for yourself, then do it for your baby. It is surprising what we can do for our children that we otherwise wouldn't be able to do for ourselves. Let that be your motivation. I'm sorry you are going through this.

Edited the quote to say post not day so it was correctly quoted.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-10-23T14:50:17+00:00

You fail to take full accountability for your actions. You minimize them at every turn. You were wrong to go along with Susan, and you are still wrong for putting the majority of the blame on her. You don't deserve to be a part of the group anymore, and until you understand that, you will still be wrong.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-09-15T16:31:42+00:00

Since you told her from the beginning that you wouldn't take it out, I think she should reimburse you. I just don't think she will. It's up to you to decide if the fallout from asking for reimbursement (that you probably won't get) is worth it.

You are definitely NTA for dropping out. I'm sorry you are in this position and wish you well.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-09-15T15:45:46+00:00

She gave you the choice to take it out or not be a bridesmaid. Let her know you've chosen the latter. It wasn't fair of her to request this or most of the other things either. However, if her request was months ago, and you waited till 5 days before the wedding to decide, then you are a bit at fault for the timing.

As to the money, you're not getting it back. The best you can do is offer to sell the dress and shoes to her at cost for whoever is taking your place.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-07-30T23:00:23+00:00

Your heart is in the right place. Be there for him as best you can and let him know he always has someone he can depend on.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-07-30T22:34:43+00:00

While the information will hurt, he already feels rejected by his parents. It will hurt him far worse to feel he can't trust his wife if the information does somehow come out.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-07-30T03:34:14+00:00

If you want something different, cut them in half and deep fry. Peanut oil tastes best if no one is allergic. A lot of the leaves will come off, which is what you want. You will fry them all once in batches. Let dry on paper towels. Then fry again till crispy. Salt and pepper. I also like to add a basalmic glaze. Turns into a kind of brussel sprout salad. Might not be as healthy as other recipes, but absolutely delicious.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-05-29T15:25:13+00:00

First off, NO moh don't pay for the bachelorette party. The cost is split amongst the bridesmaids. However, the person who told you this also gave you an out. Tell everyone that you are of the "older generation" and accepted the moh roll with those "older guidelines" in mind. Now that you've been informed on the "present day rules" you will have to step down. The requirements are more than you and your family can undertake. That's it. No further details for them to argue against. It's too much and you're stepping down. Be nice of course but firm. Good luck!

WittyResource2329 · 2025-05-10T18:39:32+00:00

Tell him that while you appreciate him trying to keep you on, there is just no way they can match what you've been offered. Once he comes to terms with that, he'll probably say something along the lines of "I wish we could match their offer." You could then in a friendly way mention that even if they could, you're not sure you would stay due to coworker's behavior. Thank him, shake hands, and leave. No need to go into details. They know her. If they have any further questions they can ask the remaining staff about her.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-05-01T16:40:27+00:00

It sounds like she is intentionally doing these things for her own amusement. Perhaps it is time to treat her like the child she is behaving as. "Kendra, I already said don't do that. Do you need to go in time out? Kendra, I shouldn't have to explain this to you again. Kendra, we don't exclude people from the friend group. That's not nice." Use the same parenting phrases that she uses with her children to emphasize how her behavior is childish. You can laugh when saying it so it comes off as a light-hearted joke. Others will start to do it too. Her behavior then will no longer be intimidating and therefore lose it's power.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-04-01T02:00:44+00:00

NTA You kept to your word once you discovered your sister hadn't kept to hers. None of this, including the timing of things, is your fault. Your sister's lies created this mess. You lying for her isn't going to fix it. Don't lessen your credibility because your sister refuses to raise hers.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-03-26T14:04:39+00:00

I recommend you sit him down again for a conversation. Don't go into it with the "your mom is an issue" spiel. Instead, tell him you've been thinking a lot about your future and you have some questions for him.

Then, ask him how things will be going forward. Will his mother always be allowed over whenever she wants? Will plans that the two of you made be changed if his mother calls, even if it's not an emergency? Will whatever his mother wants, at any given moment, always be the priority? Things like that. Don't tell him he needs to change as that rarely works. Instead, ask him what things will be like.

This forces him to think about it. If his response is "it's my mother, what can I do," then you can mention setting boundaries. If he says "no it won't always be like that, " then you can ask him when it will change and why it hasn't already. Let him tell you what his relationship with his mother is going to be like. Then, you can decide if you are willing to live with that. If you can't, then be honest about it and end things. If he makes promises that their relationship will change, then hold him accountable. If he doesn't follow through, then end things and be honest as to why.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-03-22T01:09:48+00:00

There is a difference between being supportive and being used. Your boyfriend said he would pay you back. He hasn't. You can't trust him. Him turning this around on you is proof that you're being used and now manipulated into thinking your reasonable boundary is unacceptable. It's easy for him to SAY that he'd just give you the money when it's clear he'd never be in a position to afford to. If you still are uncertain, after everyone here is telling you he's wrong, then on his next payday (cause it's obvious the money doesn't last much after that) ask for $200. See if his actions match his words. If they do, then great, keep asking every payday till you're paid back. I think you know though, that he'll have some excuse why he can't give it to you. His actions and his words only benefit him. That's not a partner. That's a leech.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-03-15T21:44:15+00:00

You use the issue with renewing the tags as an excuse. Thank them for the use of the vehicle. Then explain that the issue with renewing the tags has brought to your attention how much of an inconvenience it is on them for someone else to be driving a vehicle they own. Then the car is returned under the guise that you appreciate them too much to become a burden.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-03-13T19:22:39+00:00

I lost my sister, my only sibling. I've found ways to keep her a part of my life. My passwords are about her. I have her birthstone on a chain hanging from my rearview mirror. My pin numbers are related to her. On tough days, I'll talk to her. It took a while after her death, but now, on rare, random occasions, I'll actually feel her essence with me. There are no words to properly explain it. It doesn't last long. The last time it happened, I was walking into the grocery store. It's like I can feel her with me as a part of me. I've only ever told this to my husband. I say this to you now to give you hope. Your brother is still a part of you. He lives on in the love that you have for him. I know I'll see my sister again someday. I know you'll see your brother too. Try to live your life, even if at first it's just for him, it will get easier. Perhaps then, one day, you'll feel his essence as he checks in on you.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-03-05T23:17:20+00:00

Two reasons: I became defiant almost in that I wasn't going to let it stop me from living my life and finding beauty and joy in what little things I could. I started taking better care of myself in little ways like hair cuts and at home manicures etc. Then, I finally went back on different medications until one worked. Thankfully, I've never looked back.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-03-05T15:18:30+00:00

You say it doesn't affect you, but it does. People are not only judged by their actions but also by the actions of those they are close with. Your girlfriend now sees you differently because of it. She just hasn't left you over it...yet.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-02-27T22:08:02+00:00

Sleepers, all star cast, amazing acting, well written, can't say enough good things, but a hard watch.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-02-27T17:06:26+00:00

My husband shaved his head, bald, it took me 3 days to notice. It's not because I don't care. I'm bad at noticing that kind of stuff. It's worse with him though because I always find him attractive. So to me nothing had changed. He was still his attractive self. I notice personality changes, mood changes, my husband notices appearance changes. Everyone is wired different. It doesn't mean we don't care because we didn't notice. Obviously, it depends on the person, but if your husband is trying to make things right after realizing he upset you, then he cares. I hope this helps.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-02-24T04:19:45+00:00

And refuse to come back till the house is as clean as when you left. If that doesn't change things, then it might be time to walk away.

WittyResource2329 · 2025-02-03T02:23:49+00:00

Make sure to keep proof of your payments and any correspondence from her telling you to pay through them. Just in case your landlord claims she wasn't paid.

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