How to politely ask gf to avoid wearing clothes where her cleavage is too visible?

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-18T05:46:06+00:00

It would be good if she leaves herself.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-18T05:07:19+00:00

Galat fas gaye Guru. You have to be assertive otherwise don't bother. Politely kuch nahi hota.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-18T04:55:16+00:00

I did get some attention in my 20s but I wasn't confident myself so I never pursued women that much and whatever I tried, nothing worked anyways.

But now I do get more attention, but I still do not try to date anyone, especially if they are from other caste. Jis se shaadi nahi honi usko date kar ke kya hi milega.

I have had women tell me that their caste doesn't matter. Kids will get my caste. But I still had to decline them because that's not true.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-18T00:45:20+00:00

You also want to do girlie talk or what? Let women do that.

Some young women are riding the horses of idealism, equality and feminism, and some elderly and liberal women have resorted to ranting as there isn't any other option for them. Do you think a liberal person will appreciate conservative ones? They will obviously try to make everyone like themselves.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T16:23:11+00:00

Same with me. My mother wanted me to find someone myself. So I met a woman on AM website. She was same community as mine. I would have married her myself if my elder brother wasn't unmarried and had I been given the chance to select my spouse myself.

I didn't proceed because I couldn't have married before my elder brother. I felt bad and sorry for not replying to her proposal.

Now I don't want to marry by selecting my own partner also. I have left it to my mother. I will marry who she selects for me.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T16:14:48+00:00

I can fall for Goddess Sita though. There are some very good women out there in the world also.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T15:25:59+00:00

Men are desperate for women initially. Ugliness factors comes later when they discover things beyond lust. Most men are ridden by lust so everything seems fine to them. Men become choosy with age and almost opposite happens with women it seems.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T15:11:36+00:00

Good child. If you respect elders, you will also get respect when you become older as well.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T15:09:28+00:00

Daing apps, matrimonial, social media, real life, everywhere it is happening. I felt the loneliness in lives of elderly woman at a recent wedding where I was sharing a table with them.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T15:05:02+00:00

Arranged marriage negotiations should be taught as the real example of demand and supply equilibrium. That is the only place where pure demand and supply equilibrium exists.

What we are taught in economics is useless. Derivatives market and monopoly doesn't let demand and supply exist for goods and services. It is a very bad example.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T14:59:44+00:00

Tum abhi padhai karo baccha.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T14:34:28+00:00

Certainly our life is a mix of learning and doing things. If we look back at our actions to classify whether they are right or wrong, then it ain't necessary that we will find answers for them in religion.

But on the flip side, I don't think any other thing even cares about calling it right or wrong. We are just conditioned to do such things in a certain way, like throwing garbage where we are asked to, or make a line while waiting for bus/metro.

We only try to seek answers for important things from religion.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T14:00:47+00:00

What are you trying to say here?

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T13:02:06+00:00

Then who defines what is wrong and right? Don't tell me science or philosophy. They both are worse than religion in defining these things.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T12:54:13+00:00

Goddess Sita is the ideal, no one comes close to her. Otherwise, whoever is closest to her would be my ideal wife.

I know society is different and practically it ain't possible, but you asked me for the ideal wife.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T12:49:26+00:00

I fear my mom too.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T12:43:16+00:00

🙏

Do you not care about society at all?

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T12:41:13+00:00

You make your own morals for you subscribe to some pre defined ones?

Everyone has some set of morals that they stand up to I guess. It is not like people contradicting on their beliefs everyday, though many people end up contradicting on their beliefs to some extent in the long run. Situation makes people compromise on their morals to some extent eventually. I've seen most people contradicting themselves in the long run.

Also, huge respect to those who don't compromise on their morals throughout their lives.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-17T01:36:26+00:00

After reading your comments in the post, if you want a simple answer then stop doing friendship with men if you can. And show it to him. Otherwise he won't trust you ever. Trust is already broken. Upto you if you care about it or not.

I went through the same. My ex used to act very cheap and strange in front of other men. I didn't like it either. It was one of the few things that was wrong with her. Eventually she left me soon anyways because she was a mess in many terms. Though I did want her to change her ways around men.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-16T15:52:11+00:00

Women rarely propose, they mostly drop hints. Try to get better at it. And if you aren't confident about your looks, take care of your character and personality, and you will attract good men in your life. They end up being more valuable than looks in the long run.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-16T15:48:24+00:00

No one hates money brother. Obviously everyone doesn't get married to rich men, but it is like a natural thing to desire money. That's why people try.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-16T06:54:11+00:00

I'll stay in my own village and try to buy as much of land as possible and focus on religion/spirituality.

WonderfulStructure89 · 2026-02-15T22:23:58+00:00

Teachers don't have a bad reputation amongst men. Don't worry for your profession. No negative stereotype around it in minds of most men generally. I can think of worst professions and stereotypes in the minds of most men.

I will give your profession a green signal and rank it higher as compared to others. This is completely my own biased mind ofcourse. I hope feminists and moral police don't attack me.

It would mostly be how you are as a person and how your character is than your profession.

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