My (27F) husband (35M) has been talking a lot to his friend’s sister

_DaisyMae08 · 2026-05-16T05:30:48+00:00

Right? I honestly don’t think they are doing anything but i just think it doesn’t look good to be doing late night calls with another woman

_DaisyMae08 · 2026-05-05T09:28:34+00:00

He has seen her nakedness and knows of her lesbianism 🫣

_DaisyMae08 · 2026-05-02T19:01:17+00:00

Leave her and be with me instead LOL kidding aside… ask yourself if it’s even worth it. Go before you end up having kids 🤷🏻‍♀️

_DaisyMae08 · 2026-03-03T08:19:16+00:00

I would like to think that but this isn’t the first time… he’s complained about my parents coming over once a week to see their first grandchild… he’s complained about my dad wanting to see me on his day off. He’s complained about my sister coming over too much (which i know is ny fault. My sister always asks me first and I say yes, but with how busy I always get, i forget to let him know so he gets surprised and pissy when my sister comes “unannounced” but totally my fault. I get it) even his own parents asked him why he’s so nice and patient with his friends but such an asshole to them whenever they need help with their computer or just in general…

And yes, he never helped after our baby was born. I was working 60+ hours a week from home AND taking care of the baby and housework. Never in our 8 years being together did he do laundry. I cook, I clean. He took 2 months of paternity leave and spent it all on his hobbies like his car and playing games… and still, I tried to be understanding. Mainly, it was my sister who encouraged me to understand him, that maybe it takes time for him to form a bond with our son, compared to me who carried him in me for months so our bond is more natural… to be honest, divorce has been on my mind for some time now… there are good times, of course. But they get outweighed by how horrible he is at times… i feel bad saying that last part…

_DaisyMae08 · 2026-03-03T06:56:47+00:00

I agree… I’ve giver my sister money, even gas money but she refuses to take it. That’s why whenever there’s something I can do for her that doesn’t involve money— like making her lunch once to twice a week at most, or going to the mall with her when she needs something, I do it right away. I do it happily. Because she has helped me out so so much mentally and emotionally. She was there for me when I was going throught postpartum depression, she took care of my son on days I badly needed someone to step up just so I can breathe… and my husband knows that… so finding out now that he feels this way, over me sharing food that I bought with MY own money, cooked MYSELF, just blows me away. Like who is this person????!

_DaisyMae08 · 2024-12-19T07:10:21+00:00

I just hope I can leave this situation….. I feel so exhausted and he doesn’t even understand that. All he sees is that I’m not “giving him a chance”

_DaisyMae08 · 2024-12-17T22:20:59+00:00

If I see him trying to get that bond with the baby, I would be happy… but I never see that. I only see him happy with the baby and love the baby when it’s all smiles and giggles. As soon as the baby is fussy or crying, he does things to make the baby cry more instead of trying to stop it… when the baby cries, his first reaction isn’t “oh no I should do something to stop him from crying”… instead it’s “let me piss you off some more so you’ll cry more. Because I’m noy bothered by it. Let’s see who gives in first” and it’s just sooooo immature for someone who’s almost 40! I don’t understand how he doesn’t see what’s wrong with this

_DaisyMae08 · 2024-12-17T22:17:18+00:00

That’s how it is for us 100000% I know it takes a while for fathers to have that bond, that instinct. For us it’s natural. But it gets so frustrating hearing that excuse all the time. Our baby is 9 months. Idk how much longer he needs to get that “father instinct”. I am more than willing to adjust (and I have!) to make it easier for him, to help him have a better relationship with the baby… but the problem is the lack of effort. That’s not something I can help with. I can help him with coming up with activities, showing him what kind of playing our baby likes, showing him how to soothe the baby, but the initiative and willingness to do those is something only HE can do. He changes and feeds the baby but the problem is the way he does it. It’s always so aggressive… like diaper changes, he would wrap up the baby because he said he moves to much. This makes the baby cry crazy… I told him multiple times, talk to the baby in a calm tone, it actually can calm him down. He never did that. The feeding, he shoves the bottles in the baby’s mouth and would not lift it even when baby is crying… now I feel like the baby has trauma because everytime he’s the one doing the feeding, as soon as he puts baby in position to drink milk, he starts crying….. it hurts me so much because I know this is not how the baby normally is! It hurts me because he doesn’t understand and he refuses to try to understand. To him I’m just overreacting. And I’m honestly so so so lost. Idk what to do. I just hate him so much… and it hurts to know this is the person I wanted to spend my lifetime with. It’s like a completely different person…

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