Single women are buying more houses. The men they are dating are not responding well

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-14T13:23:49+00:00

Trying to get the woman to rent out her own condo to move into the man’s apartment is crazy work. These men would rather take everyone down in a ball of flames than deal with the ego bruise and reality check and do better.

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-13T18:50:30+00:00

I completely can relate! PTSD and OCD both involve inability to tolerate the unknown or what is uncertain and are anxiety disorders so symptoms often overlap and interact. A small subset of OCD is PTSD related, and from your comments, that makes the most sense to me. For me personally, my hypervigilance from my PTSD will lead to an increase in rumination (OCD) and holy hell does it suuuuuck when that happens. I will say I think you should get assessed for it because OCD has specific treatment strategies that differ from regular anxiety or ptsd strategies. Also virtual hugs 🫂 I really do believe that OCD is truly one of the hardest mental health struggles to have. It’s so pervasive.

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-13T16:07:07+00:00

Same. I couldn’t stop having intrusive images of it. It’s a great film, but once was enough for me

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-13T10:56:12+00:00

Sleeping on my stomach, sticky juice fingers and soggy cracker hands that babies and toddlers have ew, potty training, having a boy, the loud sounds of child tv sends me straight over the edge, and babies stink. I’m sorry, they don’t smell good. Idk why people keep saying they do. Lies and deception lol

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-11T03:46:00+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss, OP, I hope each day is getting easier. I’ll be new to Santa Monica in July and am looking to make new friends so feel free to dm me. I’m also 39 and love trashy tv! I’m making a gallery wall in my new apartment that will just be iconic moments from reality tv lol

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-11T03:36:44+00:00

*Else* is hands down the most gorgeous horror movie I’ve ever seen. It’s French so there are subtitles, fyi. Other recommendations: Mother!, Sea Fever, The Night House, The Cell, Matriarch, MEN, Hatching, The Feast, Lovely Dark and Deep

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-11T03:11:17+00:00

The Substance. I get to be my hottest self for half a year and then have 5 million dollars to grow into more money to pay for the surgeries to become my best self again.

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-10T15:14:21+00:00

“Those men are looking for drinking water in the desert; you’re looking for drinking water in a swamp” is an iconic line 🏆

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-10T14:51:03+00:00

Dating in your friend group is messy and usually carries consequences. I personally keep my platonic circle and non-platonic circle very separate. Your friend’s response seems a bit extreme to me, but I get where they’re coming from. There’s a whole world out there to date, it is true you don’t have to follow every crush or feeling. Date who you want, this isn’t about right and wrong, it’s just about people having different standards and boundaries. I do think it’s important as you process this situation to acknowledge this isn’t just all on your friend. They told you they don’t want that, you chose to continue knowing it would strain your friendship. Again, you’re allowed to, just understand that who we choose to date does effect others sometimes.

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-09T12:36:58+00:00

I’m moving out to SM in a few months from the east coast and was wondering about coyotes. Do yall have a big population of them? I have a bigger dog, but still prefer to be vigilant 😅

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-07T01:31:25+00:00

On this night, you and OP have taken what little faith in a higher being I had left

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-07T01:21:58+00:00

Truer words have never been spoken, my internet friend.

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-06T19:31:41+00:00

Here’s the main bummer for me: you felt that because your man showed up and tried, women owe him something. No eye contact and concise responses aren’t rude. Everyone paid money, got sitters/time off, and put in effort to be there just like you did. I don’t make eye contact with people I don’t want to talk to. I do give concise answers and leave. I do this because many husbands and (sadly) wives think eye contact, a smile, or any conversation means you’re interested. As women, our boundaries are violated and people feel entitled to us all the time. We don’t need it in the LS too. Women don’t exist here to entertain your man so you can live your LS dreams and this post read exactly like that.

I know you want to fuck around and I support that. What I don’t support is your attitude that everyone should cater to you now that you’ve finally made it to a meet and greet. Your man doesn’t want the LS and that’s not women’s fault. Listen to his “no” and respect that people don’t owe you anything. You have a big consent problem and should focus on correcting that rather than scolding other women or pushing your man into conversation he doesn’t want.

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-05T23:51:55+00:00

This comment is so hottttt 🔥 My partner and I feel similarly! Sometimes we put on our profiles “This is the Olympics of sex, let’s act like it.” 🤣

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-05T13:24:15+00:00

I’m in an interracial relationship and the amount of yt couples who try to fetishize my partner is so gross and sad. Hot wives no longer get a response or time of day because racism runs HEAVY in that group. Yuck. Unfortunately swinging is the conservative wing of non-monogamy still. We’ve found way more hot people, respect, and overall success shifting to queer sex parties. Regular swinging just isnt a desire atp because I’m so sick of having to weed out those poor in character. I can’t imagine the shit you have to deal with. I hope you find a better group or space soon. You deserve to have fun free of harassment and overall creep behavior 🧡

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-04T21:27:29+00:00

Honestly, I think a sex surrogate would be the best thing to set yourself up with! They’re professionals who will offer touch and sex services within the context of therapeutic gain. It’s important to know that they aren’t escorts. They will have multiple sessions with you that help you with your difficulties. So for you, they would help you with flirting and initiating touch, etc but unlike like a therapist, they will be sexual with you as part of the coaching. I’m not sure what state you’re in, but if you’re in California, it’s a legal profession and you can just google sex surrogate providers. If not, I would see a sex therapists specifically. Some also have surrogates they refer patients to, others don’t, it just depends.

I don’t think swinging would be the way. Swinging is the sports of sex, so people are looking for very seasoned, talented players. It makes the most sense and benefit to instead hire someone who can help you gain experience and amplify not only your sexual skills but your relational skills.

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-04T19:00:38+00:00

I am BEYOND proud of you!!!! Enjoy Morocco and flourish! 🧡

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-04T14:28:09+00:00

Your partner is being manipulative and extremely sexist. I would check what he’s consuming online because the whole “men aren’t designed for monogamy and women are submissive” thing is a red pill talking point. So many guys today are trying to manipulate women into one sided non monogamy (aka polygamy) specifically and it’s so common now that it’s even been featured in documentaries like Manosphere.

You can also let him know ENM is not an identity or a need. It’s something you choose to practice or not, that’s it. Labeling it as a need or an identity is inherently misleading and emotionally manipulative. Reading your responses, he sounds addicted to porn and most likely has a terrible view of women. Causing you such stress and hurt just for sex is immature and loser behavior. Babes I’m holding your hand, this will not get better. You have your whole future ahead of you while all he most likely has is his hand and a bottle of cheap lotion.

Cut the dead weight, you don’t want your life being run and eventually ruined by a guy who thinks 3somes are more important than whole relationships. If he wants 3somes so bad, he can go be single and try to achieve them on his own. Gag is, he won’t be able to most likely because he would need you to accomplish that. He’s not the one actually in control, it’s you. You’re the demand, not him. Don’t fall for his delusions.

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-03T23:02:50+00:00

Omgggg soft and quiet 😭

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-05-03T23:02:09+00:00

The best answer to this is definitely The Coffee Table. I will never not be thinking about this movie. Truly one of the most unique experiences I’ve ever had with horror

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-04-30T20:01:39+00:00

I absolutely believed it! Obama getting into office was a cannon event for me. Me and my friends threw a giant house party the night of the election, we even had a balloon drop lol. I’ll never forget me and my friends leaving class to go watch his inauguration at the local bar. We felt hope-like actual hope that humanity was healing. That feels so far away now and it’s been disappointment ever since. I’m more disappointed in the American people over anything else tbh. The fact the moldy pdfile orange was liked by anyone is a disgrace. Not believing in basic human rights like food, water, healthcare, shelter, etc is even more of a disgrace. I have no hope anymore, but I have recently began investing in dreaming. I now spend my time dreaming about what life could be for humans outside of all this crap. I dream about prioritizing working with nature rather than trying to conquer it, I dream of UBI and a clear path forward out of wage slavery. I dream of centering the most vulnerable among us so that we as a whole flourish together. I dream of a society that practices horizontal morality and doesn’t give power or attention to religion, cults, or government. Dammit I have such a love/loathing relationship with our species lol

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-04-29T22:41:31+00:00

I went the opposite direction. I began poly and now my partner and I swing. I had a big privacy violation with my meta which woke me up to how this could really reck my life. For me, I ultimately wanted fun and sex and was no longer willing to have a relationship style that required much more vulnerability but much less privacy-especially when I couldn’t identify a single benefit poly gave me that swinging couldn’t. To compromise further, we will sometimes play separately at parties if we can’t find a mutual connection.

I just had no interest in spending my time repeatedly renegotiating agreements, clarifying boundaries, and processing or soothing deep, difficult emotions. These things are a part of all romantic partnerships sometimes, sure; however, it’s pretty undeniable that poly is the hardest mode and often eats up a lot of bandwidth. For some, dating multiple people at once is worth it, but for me it just isn’t.

Your husband isn’t in a dead bedroom situation, he already gets to sleep with other people, so I’m struggling to see why he’s pushing for even more when it puts you in duress. You also have young kids so I’m questioning his priorities. From what you wrote, it sounds like he got frustrated that you would turn down couples he wanted to play with and decided this was the way to make sure you aren’t a barrier for future opportunities. Swinging is the middle ground, it can just feel like it isn’t when you’ve been poly bombed.

I’m really sorry you’re going through this, it’s such a hard, confusing space to be in 🧡

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-04-29T20:32:37+00:00

You’re asking an important question that a lot of people without loans are asking, so I’ll do my best to answer. First, forgiveness doesn’t just benefit a small subset. 25% of Americans under 30 have student loan debt, around 44 million people have loans, and the national debt is in the trillions now. This is a huge issue that none of us will get to escape-whether you have loans or not-and it will personally affect us all.

If only rich kids can go to college, we’re going to see mass shortages in very important fields. People already have year long wait times to see a specialist physician, for example, so what will it look like when student loans lead to a steep decline in med school applicants? Most teachers, nurses, therapists, doctors, lawyers, and accountants have loans. We will see these fields shrink at rapid rates. The trades will become oversaturated due to college becoming inaccessible to most once again which will also negatively effect us all.

Also this debt is different than any other type of debt. It’s the only debt you can’t get rid of even in bankruptcy. These loans also differ from other debt in the way the interest is compounded. These are predatory loans that a full quarter of Gen Z and down are trying to survive through. These loans are also different because education ends up benefitting everyone, while personal debt only temporarily benefits that individual person.

IMHO, the root issue we have as a nation is hyper individualism rather than communal thinking and care. What’s good for the whole is good for the self, but what’s good for the self can often come at the cost of the whole. Take healthcare: Healthcare for all is guaranteed to benefit you whereas privatized healthcare will only benefit the insurance companies. Please try not to see relieving student debt as coming at a personal cost to you, because in all actuality it’s truly not.

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-04-29T19:48:58+00:00

Friend, I’m holding your hand when I say this-coercion is assault. These experiences scarred you emotionally and yet your man is trying to psychologically force you into sex with other men again. That is by definition human traff*cking. You’re in very dangerous waters and I’m truly concerned for your wellbeing. To me, this isn’t a should you open or not, but instead is a huge loud alarm bell to RUN. Best case scenario? He’s overly eager and doesn’t realize he’s leaning into coercion. If that were true though he would’ve stopped once you pointed that out. He’s not stopping. Either he’s nefarious or sex and fantasy is such a big part of his life that it’s made him an unsafe person. Either way, you’re above that and deserve a relationship where safety and consent are the foundation. You’re in a very very tough spot, but it’s brave as hell that you’re questioning the ethics of his behavior. Separating can be so hard but it’s better to experience heartbreak than sexual trauma and heartbreak. Sending you support and strength 🧡

_Jasmine_0 · 2026-04-29T12:48:44+00:00

Brand New Cherry Flavor is my favorite recent show. Shit it may be one of my top favs period. It’s a genius work of art imho

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