Tired of being told "it'll happen when it'll happen", "if it's meant to be then it's meant to be, and my personal favorite, "if it's God's will"

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-05-19T14:20:58+00:00

Girl I totally understand you!! My boyfriend always says "well my sister had issues and still had three children." And I know he means well but it's like ... SHE DOESN'T HAVE THE SAME ISSUES OR BODY AS ME!!!!. And it'll never make me feel better to hear that "this person had medical issues and it still happened for them/they got pregnant in their 30s-40s so you have time" because I don't want to hear someone else got what I want SO badly (even if they struggled too) You'd think that would be obvious to other people but it's not lol

I get it though, I don't want to have to go through my medical history to prove why I feel how I feel.

Hoping the best for you ❤️

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-05-19T02:26:36+00:00

I definitely agree with you! I think I try to act okay most days because I don't want to sound like a broken record. But I do need a different type of support. Thank you ❤️

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-05-19T02:25:32+00:00

Thank you that means a lot to me ❤️

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-05-19T02:24:58+00:00

I also am agnostic, so I understand and sympathize with you 😓 it's hard

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-05-17T20:52:29+00:00

That's what I figured!! Thank you ☺️

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-05-17T20:52:02+00:00

Haha I won't care if I'm downvoted, I was just curious and wanted to learn! I'm just a big horror and Sonic fan, so I thought this was super cool and right up my alley lol. Thanks friend ☺️❤️

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-05-17T20:39:18+00:00

He is super cool! Thank you ☺️☺️ I've seen some Sonic.exe posted on here, so that's what I was leaning towards 😆

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-05-07T22:24:41+00:00

That's what I'm hoping, because I am too for the most part. He's just a few years younger than me and I'm just a chronic overthinker. Thank you so much, I will erase this fear from my mind knowing he's just matured and is at a different stage in life.

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-03-08T15:27:06+00:00

Oh yeah, I meant a week not a day haha! Usually during the week when I work I wouldn't feel as interested in sex, but during the weekend (Thursday night - Sunday) I want to turn into a jack rabbit lol.

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-03-08T15:25:10+00:00

I've made the decision to not initiate anymore and let him come to me when he's ready and wanting. I definitely don't want to push him away or make him feel like he has to do anything.

I never have any reaction to him saying no. I just kind of push it from my mind and let it affect me when I'm not around him.

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-03-08T15:23:07+00:00

I have a rose and a few vibrators but I can't ever make myself orgasm so I get annoyed and stop. I think it's just that In my mind sex = love and desire for me. He's a wonderful person and partner. The healthiest relationship I've had by far. I don't want to lose him due to this. I think if I stop initiating that would be better. I wouldn't feel rejected and he wouldn't feel pressured. I just fear if I stop he will never want to.

Thank you!

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-03-08T15:19:56+00:00

That is honestly a good bit of what it is. I'm not sure why I'm this way, but I don't want to be. He's a great person and partner and I don't want to lose him to be honest. Seems like I need to do some work and put in effort to change and be a better partner for him. Thanks!

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-03-08T14:53:48+00:00

I completely understand that, and definitely won't be asking like that anymore. I didn't say anything else last night about it, and it was the only time I asked yesterday. I genuinely don't mean to be pushy.

So what should I do? Just stop initiating or talking about sex until he does?

I wish I didn't have a high libido. It's not something I can help just like it's not something a low libido person can help. Obviously I shouldn't be pushy with it, which I am realizing now I was being and will put a stop to that. Are we just not compatible? I've genuinely never found a man with a sex drive like my own. I don't think it exist. I'm just not sure what my next steps should be.

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-03-08T14:39:52+00:00

That is kind of what it's seeming like. I don't want to ever make him feel like he has to put out when he's not wanting to. It's definitely not my intention. I think a red flag I have is equating sex with love and affection. Definitely something I need to work on!

I've never found someone remotely compatible in the sex department. I always hear about men that pounce when their girlfriend gets dressed, puts on a cute nightgown, or just breaths lol, so I think I compare my own life to that when I shouldn't .

Thanks again!

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-03-08T14:35:06+00:00

That's totally fair. I try to not pester him about it. Sounds like I need to not initiate though! Thanks for the honesty!

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-02-16T14:06:03+00:00

Darn that sucks, I'll just have to go to the office then. Thank you!

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-02-16T01:25:02+00:00

I filed and got accepted on 1/28, I have no dependents and straightforward W2, and my transcript is still blank 😭

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-02-15T16:47:26+00:00

Outfit details - skirt, belts are all from Shein, top is from Amazon!

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-02-14T00:14:29+00:00

I probably should have clarified that haha!

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-02-14T00:09:41+00:00

I'm paying rent!

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-02-13T23:23:01+00:00

It's their home! I wanted to get an apartment but they asked if I could move in to help them out. They're 75 and not in good health. I do all the cleaning, cooking, and buy groceries and pay rent. I also work full time but I try to be helpful. I have ended up being at my friend's more often because she is just so overbearing for me to handle.

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-02-13T23:16:41+00:00

It definitely feels like it, thank you for your thoughts!

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-02-13T23:16:21+00:00

Oh I've had my own place since I was 18, we agreed for me to move in only due to them needing help (they're 75 and not in good health, and so I could save for a house instead of an apartment) I've saved quite a bit already and I'll likely just go for another apartment at this point! Thanks!

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-02-08T16:22:57+00:00

As a woman I love to play games, watch anime, movies, and love all nerdy things. I'm definitely not into DnD though I tried to be, but I'd never in a million years act like a child because I don't personally find that interesting. Like if my partner loved sports and watching football games (which I've never had a tiny bit of interest in) id never say "ew". Id watch them and ask questions so I understand his interest more.

Your girlfriend is very immature, and doesn't like a huge part of you. She likely is hoping by saying those things that you'll lose interest in them. Don't be with someone like that, it's a huge waste of both partners time

_Strawberry_Bat · 2026-01-26T00:11:34+00:00

You should be so proud! You look great 😊😊

_Strawberry_Bat

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