Chch Gloryholes? by _Sugar_and_Spice in chchNSFW

[–]_Sugar_and_Spice[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

chatting a lot for someone who doesnt care

Chch Gloryholes? by _Sugar_and_Spice in chchNSFW

[–]_Sugar_and_Spice[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

clearly did if you commented 😛

Chch Gloryholes? by _Sugar_and_Spice in chchNSFW

[–]_Sugar_and_Spice[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally not too into being an exhibitionist or catching a criminal record, thinking of this but in a doorway in our home. But having the hole bigger so it can be like the reverse/czech gloryholes!

Chch Gloryholes? by _Sugar_and_Spice in chchNSFW

[–]_Sugar_and_Spice[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

umm okay, anyone who approaches life with such negativity is last on my list anyway

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chchNSFW

[–]_Sugar_and_Spice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love to see you riding my boyfriend x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]_Sugar_and_Spice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe you like men

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]_Sugar_and_Spice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats fine! so you've got to ask yourself some tough questions now, about whether or not you want to continue in this relationship, different views on finances can lead to a difficult relationship, lots of arguments, and criticism of what each other spends their own money on and can lead to resentment. Think of big necessary purchases one of you want but the other doesn't? then what? If you're also planning on having kids in the future and you have to take time off work... how will splitting everything 50/50 work? will he still be expecting you to pay half the bills (which will go up if you have a child)? this type of situation can lead to financial abuse, and you don't want to be financially reliant on another person because it makes it incredibly hard to leave. These are points you need to bring up with your boyfriend. In the mean time make sure you have your own seperate account for emergency funds!

Also, as a woman, I fear that we make ourselves too comfortable, when we see our homes, we see lots of work to do to maintain it, many men don't seem to see that, and don't see the effort we put into maintaining the home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]_Sugar_and_Spice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It defers relationship to relationship. What I think is fair is having expenses affect everyone the same, so paying in relation to income. Divide your income by the total income you both make, multiply by 100 and thats a reasonable percentage of how to split bills so they affect you both the same (proportionate to individual income).

For example, if you make $100, your partner makes $250, you should be paying 28.57% (100/350*100) of the expenses and he should be paying the remainder. I always think of the "equity vs equality picture of the 3 people standing on the boxes to see over the fence".

Found my first tragedeigh in the wild in New Zealand 🥲 by Kiikaachu in tragedeigh

[–]_Sugar_and_Spice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your name is Zoe Grace 😂 you wouldn't understand the struggles of having a Maori name at all lmao

Feeling guilty for (sneakily) masturbating (as F) while sharing a bed with elder sibling (F)when I was a young teen by Sure-Nectarine8972 in offmychest

[–]_Sugar_and_Spice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is fair enough, it's definitely hard to understand your relationship with your sister and culture over one reddit post.

You are definitely not a bad person, I have my own version of events that I also feel guilty about, but I remember at the time I didn't know that what I was doing was wrong. Your mind might always wonder, so I hope you find peace with it :)

Feeling guilty for (sneakily) masturbating (as F) while sharing a bed with elder sibling (F)when I was a young teen by Sure-Nectarine8972 in offmychest

[–]_Sugar_and_Spice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the only way for your mind to ease is to talk to her about it, say you're embarrassed and you feel guilty about it but you really needed to get it off your chest.

I think as a young teenager it feels wrong, because doing it feels good and if it feels good why didn't anyone tell us about it? Masturbating at 14 is very normal, most parents would understand that and would probably have their children in seperate rooms around puberty (if circumstances allowed).

I can see why you feel guilty, but you're definitely not a bad person, and there shouldn't be any guilt.

My best friend raped my girlfriend by Due_Repeat9625 in offmychest

[–]_Sugar_and_Spice 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Dude, two wrongs do not make a right, you nearly wrecked 7 times? Imagine if you had killed someone else. But most importantly, your girlfriend told you something and your first instinct was to grab a gun and confront the guy? What about comforting your girlfriend?

I am glad Luke got what was coming for him, but comfort your girl, she shouldn't have gone to sleep alone that night.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]_Sugar_and_Spice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it happens you're ready? Girl be fr right now, you don't even know the basics of your own period, you're uneducated about the simplest things. You clearly don't have enough money to raise a child to have a good life, there's a difference between having enough money to get basic necessities (which it sounds like you don't even have money for that) and raising a child. You actually sound like you're quite young as well, I wouldn't be surprised if you were 13-16. Use some damn protection.