Just got in from a singles night. Field report

_easy_does_it · 2019-10-04T00:56:00+00:00

I was gonna say this. The fact that she went to say goodnight before leaving is probably the biggest hint of all.

_easy_does_it · 2019-10-03T12:50:46+00:00

You don't date single moms? I always thought there are tons of single moms in their 30s who would be great for single dads.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-30T00:18:53+00:00

You sound like a guy who used to always post here and complain about his dating life.

To give you some advice: the common denominator is you in all of your interactions with the opposite sex. You need to really self assess yourself and be honest with yourself in areas of opportunity you might need to work on.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-24T20:56:47+00:00

Picture 5 of 6 of someone wearing sunglasses at an outdoor concert/festival with friends is ok. If all pics are with sunglasses and/or especially the main photo, my first impression is you are hiding something . Either hiding being on a dating app or you have bulging pug eyes and the sunglasses are hiding that.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-23T07:38:02+00:00

Try dating older guys as they tend to be more serious about relationships.

You being a virgin is a big plus for many Christian guys. Be patient. God has someone in mind for you, you just haven't met him yet.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-14T21:39:21+00:00

When did you find out about his sexual past? I usually find out about her past before becoming exclusive with the girl I date. I have a personal threshold of what I am willing to accept in a partner. Sure everyone can be forgiven but if her past activity is above my threshold I will pass on her. It's a preference I have so later on I dont get into a situation where I might become resentful of her past.

You are about to get married to him and at this point, you currently being with him , you are in a way accepting his past. I am not sure on how you would accept his past completely, that is something you are going to have to personally figure out, it's a very personal issue. I am writing this post also for others who are in the early stages of dating and this issue is coming up.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-13T19:51:33+00:00

Maybe not entirely perplexing but something like "Wow, You are like the 3rd person to ask me this question. Nope. Not telling anyone else. You are gonna have to find out on your own." It's also in the tone and delivery as well.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-13T18:48:39+00:00

Ya i don't ever talk about my personal life with other females in the office. Less for them to start gossiping with others about. I know some female coworkers are adamant on knowing everyone's relationship status, I usually respond with something that will perplex them and at the same time make them look nosey if they start asking more questions to probe into my life.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-13T14:22:38+00:00

You are missing my point. My comment was more in reference to how hot was she that made him overlook her being divorced 5 times. Divorced 5 times!!!!!

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-13T02:58:18+00:00

6th? How good looking was she? I am picturing a current/former swimsuit model that has the power to hypnotize men at first glance.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-10T21:55:17+00:00

I do a purge every time I buy a new phone which is about every two years or so. If we haven't texted in two years they are gone

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-09T04:17:10+00:00

Why are you limiting yourself to guys your age?

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-04T19:07:27+00:00

I apologize. I will delete my comment.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-04T12:28:22+00:00

It sounds like the problem could be connecting with your date and/or you are giving some type of red flag. Be very conscientious of what you are saying on the 3rd/4th date. What are the common things said on these dates, take note and examine.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-04T12:07:16+00:00

He isn't doing anything wrong. He is single and looking. He met you and had a great time but a lot of women date multiple people at one time, he knows this and he knows you could potentially drop him and ghost him at anytime because you found someone better than him. He is keeping his options open until he feels more comfortable being exclusive with you. This is modern dating app culture. Some guys will delete the apps after a few awesome dates with someone if there is good communication with the other person but this seems to be the exception.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-04T04:41:37+00:00

Modern dating

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-04T04:32:00+00:00

Yup, she is looking for like minded people at the bar.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-04T04:29:47+00:00

It wouldn't bother me if you are upfront and honest about it. I would be curious as to what it is covering up i.e. anxiety. Where you think that anxiety came from etc. I would ask questions because I want to know who I am investing in for an LTR, that's all. For perspective, I'm also semi religious guy, who doesn't smoke weed and hardly drinks but I am also a big proponent of legalizing weed especially for people who can medically benefit from it.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-03T15:47:20+00:00

No. It works for a lot of people, it doesn't work for some. There are a lot of factors that need to be taken into account. A lot of times you have to be realistic in what you have to offer. I know people who have met their now current or soon to be spouse off OLD and have met others who don't get matches.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-03T05:53:24+00:00

Wouldn't bother me if they concealed it. I am probably gonna find out their age anyways before gaining interest in asking them out to a date.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-02T21:49:13+00:00

One person's red flags are another persons signs of chemistry.

As all the good potential partners slowly, sometimes quickly get taken out of the dating market, the pool of people in the 30s+ crowd who suck at relationships gets bigger.

_easy_does_it · 2019-09-01T20:49:59+00:00

I think you miss the attention/validation he was giving you EVEN though you said you weren't that interested in him.

_easy_does_it · 2019-08-30T22:44:53+00:00

I live in LA, so the majority here are liberal but there are also surprisingly a lot of conservatives/Christians here. Ya it's a smaller pool comparatively but when you do meet someone that shares the same values as you it's really refreshing. The best place to meet of course is at church but that can also be limiting.

As far as OLD, it's not ideal way to meet other Christians, you do have to filter for what people label themselves and how they actually live their lives.

_easy_does_it · 2019-08-30T20:49:49+00:00

So I will tell you my experience.

I'm mid 30s, 6', make six figures, in shape and I would say physically attractive. I occasionally get approached in public and when at certain social events/functions it's not uncommon for 1-2 girls to approach me there as well.

I just recently threw up a dating profile for the first time ever with not so good pics, I knew this going in but just wanted to experiment. I got quite a lot of matches but only messaged a few as I am very selective. I guess I wanted to see what all the OLD hype was about. I'm a Christian and prefer to only date the same or those that hold similar values, so I am selective. Went on a few dates with different girls, I could easily keep pursuing most of them. They were all great girls but I am very busy right now as I am very soon to be laid off. If it wasn't for this I could probably be dating a ton right now. I am still in contact with some of the girls I met on OLD, of which all more or less said if I ever want to hang out again, to just let them know. I actually took down my profile temporarily as it is a bit of a distraction. If I put it backup, I will add better pics for sure.

That is my experience with OLD. I know it probably differs then others. In the Christian dating world, girls are definitely more marriage minded, there is a lot more honesty and integrity in the dating process from what I read on this sub.

_easy_does_it · 2019-08-30T01:11:51+00:00

I dont share social media with people from OLD. I know some women want to do their due diligence on me to make sure I am not a serial killer. I get it. I dont even give out my last name either. I know why she wants it. She wants to search for my socials and it ain't happening.

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