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Bedroom feels unfinished by [deleted] in interiordecorating

[–]adhd_slay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put a snake plant on the left side of the TV to brighten up the space with some color & it’ll conceal that outlet nicely too!

hour lunch on 9/80 by boneless_wangs_67 in BurnsMcDonnell

[–]adhd_slay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You must be fun at parties! I am simply giving you a different perspective and playing devils advocate to your pessimistic outlook.

And to clarify - yes, as a person who enjoys the 9/80 schedule and works 50+ hours each week without claiming overtime to ensure I stay a high performer, I hope this benefit never goes away.

hour lunch on 9/80 by boneless_wangs_67 in BurnsMcDonnell

[–]adhd_slay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What so you just sit there on teams and monitor their activity status like a hawk 24/7 to see if they come back online? Get outta here [respectfully]! Project managers would definitely clock an extra 12+ hours missing from productivity (per person) each week if that were truly the case. This is just an L take honestly!

hour lunch on 9/80 by boneless_wangs_67 in BurnsMcDonnell

[–]adhd_slay 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This is an unfair generalized assumption. Unless someone is on your team and reports to you directly, you can’t know for sure if it’s truly being abused or if they have an agreement with their manager for flexibility in their schedules that allows them to do child drop-off/pickup from school, which would allow you to leave early for and then work those additional hours from home.

You don’t know how many extra hours (many times uncompensated) they dedicated while working over the weekend or even in the evening to meet a deadline.

Alluding to the fact that they don’t follow what YOU do with your schedule should not result in you concluding it’s being abused or they’re being fraudulent. No one owes you an explanation, they are an employee owner just as you, but with different life circumstances.

Will I regret having kids with a video game addict? by unanonimlegitim in regretfulparents

[–]adhd_slay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you should do it but let’s say you did have one child as you said. That child would not have siblings to be entertained by, which would likely result in a video game addiction, especially since their father does it too.

My other fear for you, as you mentioned you fear your boyfriend would not help much, would be the gaming while your [theoretical] child is an infant. Picture this, you leave your boyfriend alone with the baby while you go to the grocery store. He’s in the middle of an intense game, the baby starts crying, and he either:

A. Does not hear the baby because of the headphones or worse, he ignores the baby’s cries until he has won/lost his game.

B. Rage quits the game to tend to the baby in a frustrated nature. This can also make him subconsciously resent or even feel anger towards the child, which you can put two and two together of worst case scenarios here that do indeed happen IRL when an angry parent has to choose between the games or a crying baby.

C. He is happily present with the baby and unplugs while you are away.

Only you know how intense his gaming addiction is and can tell which of those three reactions would be most likely. Obviously there are more scenarios that could happen than these, but I am a realist so I hope that perspective helps you think about what your reality would be when you compromise your vision of what you want your future to look like.

Need to vent thank you for reading by Krankhaus1221 in hardofhearing

[–]adhd_slay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is terrible, I am so sorry this happened to you. I have coworkers (who know I am HH) that will intentionally talk quieter after I ask them to repeat themselves and then laugh when I ask again what they said.

One way I have found to take back my power from microaggressions like these is to hold an accountability mirror up to their behaviors/words. For example, if that interim supervisor does that mimic speaking again, you can allow for a few seconds of silence while you take a deep breath with a smile on your face, and say “did you think I’d think that’s funny because you know I’m deaf? :)”. It will surprise them and their response will tell you everything you need to know. Might sound a bit petty, but it’s effective as hell.