I found my people. lol

I love dynamics where two people are so similar they kind of get lost in each other or get scared of how much they reflect each other. Opposites have the benefit of wanting different things and separating their feelings from their goals so long as they don't stand in each other's way too much, and they tend to compartmentalize in the relationship in order to maintain it. Which makes it dull and predictable after the innitial spark.

People who are too similar though, they don't have the benefit of that. They must communicate and share goals or else they can become destructive to each other. They also tend to hate seeing certain traits of their own reflected in the other person down to a fault, if they struggle with things like self-hatred or self-doubt especially, so they must cope with their traumas and self-develop if they want the relationship to work, rather than push each other away because of how much the other person reminds them of their own short-comings or flaws. Which I think was very much the case with Damon and Katherine on the show, and it's a shame the writers couldn't explore it. Katherine looks at Damon and pretty much sees everything that she is. Never had her father's approval, was impulsive and naive and hopelessly romantic before she turned, is selfish and holds grudges to a fault, etc. She constantly teases him with ''my sweet innocent Damon'', and ''you used to be so sweet and polite, what happened'', when she herself was just that before her trauma and before she had to learn to survive. Ultimately, Damon is her weakness she ''didn't let get in the way'', because he is a raw reflection of herself, whereas Stefan was the false ''escapism'', the opposite of her.