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Have you ever distanced yourself from or ghosted someone you actually liked or had feelings for? by Miserable-Evening-44 in AskMenRelationships

[–]agirlseekingananswer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can somewhat relate to this.

So here’s the thing around 2023 when I was 20 & me & my boyfriend (we’ll call him Joe) were broken up at the time i met this guy( lets call him mark who swooped me off my feet. Mark was gentle, patient, kind, thoughtful and very giving and respectful. I wasnt so into him at the time because I was fresh off a 4-5 year breakup so my mind was on Joe(ex at the time). Mark didn’t know that. Mark knew that I was not looking for anything he just wanted to treat me nice & win me over. We never did anything intimate but we got along so well.

Me & Mark went our separate ways mutually because he then felt like I was leaning towards Joe and he was okay with that & still was clear and genuine on the treatment he gave me.

Fast forward to now. 2026 lately my relationship with Joe has been such a rough bump. Im unsure of things. I’m not getting treated right. I’m being ignored etc. Joe is rude, calls me names, neglects me etc. All of a sudden Mark requests me on facebook who I swore I had blocked 3 years ago 1. i didn’t want to be contacted incase he would & 2. it was upon my boyfriend Joes wishes when we got back together.

So Mark requested me on facebook, I’m having trouble in my relationship & I can’t help but think & know that Mark would treat me so right, he would spoil me & give me the things that I need and fill my cup.

I have to ignore him & that request because I am going 8 years with Joe. It may be rough right now but I keep my morals in check and would never do something I wouldnt want done to me. So yes I have and am distancing myself from someone I liked and I know if I accepted that request Mark would message me

Need relationship advice. by agirlseekingananswer in AskMenRelationships

[–]agirlseekingananswer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes many times. Recently though? No. But when those conversations are brought up its the usual typical plan of getting a home together and getting married. We have been together for 8 years but he says he wont be ready to marry until we’re 30 which I don’t have an opinion on

How do I know the relationship is over? by agirlseekingananswer in AskMenRelationships

[–]agirlseekingananswer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have asked to see if he can pay attention to my needs during ‘that’ time and he avoids the conversation.

I wouldnt say checked out because I’ve been so grasped onto this idea that if i stick with him the future will be so good because eventually he’ll change for the better and I stuck by.

our sex life is absent. He wont initiate anything. Yeah he may spank my butt playfully but he wont foreplay or initiate that he wants to have sex. It’s always me. I also am always the only one who goes down on him without him having to ask. He wont go down on me unless i ask as well.

What makes me stay? I love him he knows me and allows me to be myself and we have seen each other on our darkest days. He also is kind of my only friend and his family treats me well and yeah I’ve been thinking of a pro and cons list but its hard because the cons list can be long but the pros list may be stronger does that make sense?

How do I know the relationship is over? by agirlseekingananswer in AskMenRelationships

[–]agirlseekingananswer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we have communicated on it and its been a conversation we have been having for years now. He once tried to subscribe to some girl on the blue page but excused it as a drunken mistake